''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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Bastard! I'm gutted for you watch, gutted that he turned out to be no different from any other guy. He seemed as though he could be. He obviously didn't want 'the girlfriend' feeling too at home or he would have let her choose the furniture.

shiney - happy birthday mate!

time - the 'On Thread New Years Eve Party For Singles' sounds like a good idea. I've promised a couple of mates I'll be at a NYE party but I'll be on afterwards if your online party happens. One of my daughter's mates always has a NYE party and her Dad, her father in law and I have all had some health dramas and last NYE we said we'd see each other for a drink on NYE, and jokingly added if any of us had fallen off the twig the other(s) would have a drink for him/them. Well in that time the father in law had a bypass, I've had a stent put in, and the mate's Dad is getting over a stroke and lost his son (the daughter's mate's brother) so that's where I need to be. Last year we got the guitars out and the 2 dads and the two sons and my daughter and I did drunken covers of Father And Son and For The Children. I'd have to down quite a few bevvies to keep my shit together and do those songs again under the circumstances, so the guitar might have to stay home this year.

Aw Watch. Hope you're ok. Doesn't sound good.

Snapes are you in London? If so GSM must be like the candy store of your dreams! I'd be out every night if I lived in the capital

Sorry Watch hadn't read your last post before I posted that. What?! He gave you the money to choose furniture for his new flat without mentioning that his girlfriend was also moving in?

Does his girlfriend know?

Sending hugs.

Yeah Poppa! It will be happening if I have anything to do with it . I will be here anyway, you can bank on it. I'm seeing the new year in as I mean to go on, tucked up in bed with the laptop

Sounds like you and your mates might be glad to see the back of 2011 PoppaRob. You might be well oiled before you get to the On Thread party!

Watch - Who is this guy?! I dont think you have mentioned him before have you, or have I just missed it?

watchthatsnail what a gradeA shiite, getting you to mother him and look after his needs like that!!

watch !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

fucking fucking fucker.

make yes and they are ALL beautiful and ALL want to date women under 40 if they still have their own hair and teeth. I am 'liking' some of them at the moment (5 a day... 5 a day...) and will lower myself to send some messages over the weekend if they're too dull to respond.

dinner and script read through with my platonic man tonight.

Watch what an idiot. Not surprised your fucked off with it all. Would love to be a fly on the wall when he explains to his girlfriend who designed his flat.

well, he wont will he.
I am temped to factbook her, i know who she is ( he doesnt know that) and tell her, upload the texts and send them to her.

but its not her fault is it, its his.
Being angry at her isnt going to help.

its not just his flat, its ' their flat'. cock, cock, cock.

he kept just saying he was sorry, then he tried this crap story about how it wasnt working out and she wouldnt leave until the lease was up and how it was all an awful mistake..... i told him not to insult my intelligence and to fuck off.

Worse is that i trusted this person, very much so. I thought, above all else he was my bested friend. I was so incrediably wrong.

I feel quite, quite like i may just throw up.

sorry :(

Ahh Watch even worse when you trust someone, especially when you have known them a long time and they let you down.

watch aside from everything else, it's wrong that he expects you to listen to his woes about his relationship when he claims to have feelings for you and knows full well you have feelings for him. He is showing you no respect whatsoever!!

Well done you for telling him where to go

Watch I don't know the back story but what I've seen here sounds very very similar to someone I was involved/friends with. Took a long long time to get over, but I have done now. What a bastard.

Watch sorry to hear that - have a hug and some rum from me (((watch)))

Well I'm really fucked off now, I've tried hard not to be but it's been a knackering stupid ridiculous work week, I'm shattered, I forced myself out to the town light switching on thing and fireworks which is great every year - cheered me up loads while I was there and I'm glad I went but now I'm home, the house is empty and I remembered how much I was looking forward to sharing this night and all the lovely community spirit, very pretty town centre and some roast chestnuts with my ex. So here I am alone with a beer like a sad git instead when it should have been a lovely night.

'him' thoughts haven't bothered me for ages but this is really wank I have to say.

MEH and HUMBUG

Watch, guess I'm coming into this a bit late but sorry for your other disappointment. FWIW now I think your date for next week had a great profile, was nice looking too. He might be just what the doctor orders, but see you might not be dating for a little while. Shame! You could have met him for a coffee.

Seems like me being stroppy has chased my potential date off even though he said he had a good explanation.

Hey Lubey, I'm right alongside you feeling the partner-shaped hole in my life tonight.

The fireworks and roast chestnuts and community feel all do sound lovely, though.

oh watch bloody hell :( honestly men are UTTERLY UTTERLY shit at times. even the ones you think you are your friends. Makes me v cross.

lubey, good on you for going. I never go to things on my own. and you're not on your own you have us :) (christ how lame does that sound...its been a long week!)

adams that's a shame - is he the one that is a bit sporadic re contact though, if its only a couple of days you might still hear from him?

I hate the dips this process brings: I was all excited that someone appeared to fancy me, and because it doesn't seem to be going anywhere I now feel like I have less confidence than I started out with. Don't really see how this can be sustainable.

Thank you! Not lame, just seeing some replies has a nice warm and fuzzy comforting effect! Thanks.

I feel a bit better now. Momentary wobble!

I think it's because it was so like a bereavement - worst break up I've ever had or known anyone go through in my life in it's suddeness and cruelty. 'they' say the first year is full of things that bite you on the ass like this and that the next year isn't as bad because you're not thinking 'this time last year we were...' etc etc and all the anniversaries of things are gone.

Focussing on the positives... I've been FINE for ages, and never thought I would manage 'fine' and the wobbles when they happen are getting fewer and shorter lived.

know where you're coming from lubey - even though I've given up dating as a bad habit - tonight's shit for some reason
busy week and a long friday eve
tomorrow will be better

It does definitely get better as time passes and you get the anniversaries out of the way, I know it did for me :)

Itsme, I understand that, I feel similarly. The whole dating process isn't that good for confidence generally I find - there are lots of highs and lows along the way, and much as you try to roll with it, it can be difficult.

I have just had a message from a 25 year old with no shirt. I am so sad that this small bit of eye candy has somewhat brightened my evening

The whole dating process isn't that good for confidence generally

A theory: is that why there are so many stories about people finding love once they had stopped looking? With one's confidence no longer being constantly crushed, one can more easily appear at one's best.

Sounds like a good theory for those with slightly shaky self-esteem. For those with a well-anchored sense of self, I can see that proactively going fishing is likely to be a much more successful route.

Hatesponge I tend to wait for people to come to me too. Don't often 'favourite' people or send first messages. If I like someone I'll view their profile a couple of times so that they notice me in their 'who's viewed me' section. Then they can look at my profile and decide from there.

Are we doing this all wrong?

Make who knows I've been trying to be proactive and find someone to message but the ones I like the look of (very few) all seem to have extremely dull profiles which don't offer much opportunity for questions!...

I need a generic ice breaker thats slightly more exciting than Hi how are you

I always took the proactive approach, messaged and favourited people etc - and um well yeah I'm SUCH a sucess story :o