''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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very clever man on OKC, who i have nothing in common with, just asked me to chat, 'if race isn't an issue'... if i don't respond, ergo, I am a racist.

manipulative bastard!

what a charmer..not!
at least he showed his stripes straight away so you can put him in the 'no response' pile :)

Snape - Course you arent a racist if you dont reply. I would not bother replying myself if you arent interested.

How bad to use the race card just to get someone to talk to you!

sigh lovely message from gorgeous man - who is 5ft 3. I am 6 inches taller than him. It would be like having a pocket-friend. WHERE are all the TALL, lovely intersting scruffy men? oh where?!

at polly pocket friend

I'm nabbing one for a night tonight Snape :o impromptu filthy night at a hotel. This is the second now regular FWB btw, both are exes, but fuck it, no feelings left (for either of them) and I keep getting offers so sod it. Going for a curry and then to be a very very very baaaaaad bad girl. Lift back in the morning too so very limited walk of shame. Bonus :o

I reckon it's only a walk of shame if you have to walk through a town or from yuor bus the next morning

Go for it Lubey

I'm seeing Mr Yacht again Saturday night and hopefully during the day Sunday. I think he is more scared/vunerable than I am as he did say to me on Tuesday night 'Are you just with me for the sex' . Think I answered 'of course not but it goes help that the sex is sooo good' . He has been lovely the last few days, for the first time, probably ever, I feel that I am in a 'R' with someone who has my back IYKWIM

God yuo can tell I have been watching too many 'Real Huosewives of New York' at the watching my back comment

it's only a walk of shame if you are physically limping. :) have a good night!

The WOS back after my birthday was epic. A cab ride, then a train, then a walk through the centre of town, all with birds nest hair, wearing his t shirt (forgot to pack a top) and my skirt sans tights and top it off I stopped at greggs for hangover food. In that state. It was an emergency though! I was so hungover I didn't care at the time, but looking back oh dear god.

Thanks I will have a v good night, it's been a while since I had a decent all-or-at-least-most-of-nighter

Zany, surely all any of us really want is to know there's someone out there who gives a shit? You have fun little sister!

ok, so that was without a doubt the quickest quickie I have ever had

I think I might give up on this project, I'm clearly utterly useless at deciding which men to see again

How frustrating itsalladirtylie

xmas namechange

I have even ordered some vaguely xmassy stuff. This is a record for this decade, haven't done anything xmassy in November since I was 19. :o

Ahhh zany! I like reading your updates

Lubey - love the name!

zany that sounds great

i saw the fit guy again today. he'd offered to lend me something and i popped round to get it as i was in town anyway. it was really lovely to see him in his own home and he came across loads better - i enjoyed it. his child was there which was a bit of a surprise but she was lovely and it was nice to see what kind of a dad he is (not that i'm interviewing for dad's but i think you get a real sense of someone with their child/ren.

so yeah. i like him. whether as a friend or as more than that i don't know - either way is a plus really

i cba to look on the site - know this is bad form and you're meant to have several in the air so as to avoid getting too attached/disappointed etc but i just cba to force myself to meet up with people i don't want to.

Hi everyone. Just started on-line dating, what do you do if you go to a first date and immediatey you don't like him? (have first one arranged in a week's time).

I am v close to taking myself off POF for a while. I honestly cannot face getting any more messages from men in their early 20s. I can't remember the last time I got one from a man over 35. Most are under 25. I cant work out if I look young or just bloody desperate?

Work is shite. Have realised that one way or another my team of 8 are all taking the piss out of me - not doing any work, not working to required standard, leaving loads to me etc etc. So big meeting for next week where I will have to shout at them. A Lot.

And I still have no washing machine. The washing mound is now bigger than DS2 :(

Oh, and one more thing - the boxer who added me to FB on Tues...deleted me today! No message on FB or POF either. How utterly rude. Can't decide whether to message him and tell him he's a twat or just ignore?

Start - I would always arrange a first date to be a coffee/other beverage for about an hour, never ever longer than that so presuming the date is at least bearable for that long just stay and have your excuse ready getting back to work/meeting a friend/early pick up of DC etc. If you did that and really couldn't stand to be there for an hour... um I don't know... depending on what the person was like, I'd go for honesty or invent an excuse. Some people have friends do a call to check up and you can pretend it was an emergency and you have to go, your date will know you are fibbing though unless they are very slow on the uptake.

An hour is long enough to see if you potentially 'click' but not unbearable if you don't.

Hatesponge just ignore him - I would. Another version of a vanisher, not worth any of your time.

Thanks,lubey. What if they don't like the look of you (you can tell by a look of disappointment on their face)? Do you say - shall we leave it tonight? I'm meeting for a drink at a pub. You can email someone backwards and forwards but surely it's only when you see them that you know if you like them (like meeting someone at a party....)

Hi everyone

No dating news to report, obviously, as my profile is hidden. However, I have a joiner coming tomorrow to fix my kitchen cupboard door hinge so if he is a fitty and I end up shagging him I will let you know.

In other news, I have booked our holiday today!! had to go for the cheapest option which is the first week in April so the weather might not be brilliant but who cares! Not me! It will be just great to get away plus I will feel as though I have achieved something great. My first holiday as a single parent! Talking of achievements, I don't think I told you but I passed my first maths exam last week with a score of 95%!! I'm obviously not as thick as I thought I was . I'm now studying for level 2 which is a bit more challenging but it's so rewarding and doing my confidence a world of good because I was terrible at maths at school. So that's my waffle update.

lubey love the name. The walk of shame for me came after a very drunken night out. The Ex turned up at a club me and my friend were at, we had split up again so I was well pissed off that he showed his face and so drank lots. He cadged a lift home with me and my friend, she dropped us in the village and on the drunken walk to my house my boob fell out of my dress!! I didn't really care at the time, I was too far gone but it was something he never let me forget.

sponge You do look young on your pics, but there again you are young. Compared to me anyway As for the boxer, ignore him. It's just another tosser not worth your energy. From the sound of things it might be a good idea to hide your profile for a bit, it's one less thing to piss you off stress you out and gives you time to concentrate on sorting your team out.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

start Following bitter experience I would now follow lubeys advice and meet for a coffee in daylight hours, much easier to get away and you don't have to go to all the trouble of getting dressed up, buying new outfit etc.

As for them not liking the look of you, we do not think like that start! This is your chance to decided if you like him. I wouldn't ask if we should leave it either, if I didn't like him or feel comfortable I would politely bring the evening to an end and go home. But I'm bolshy these days . No room for emotions on a first date.

Start I've never met anyone rude enough to run straight off or show any disappointment, I wouldn't worry about that too much. If the date is just an informal drink for an hour it's much less pressure on both parties.

Nothing to stop either of you politely making your excuses and leaving, if you really wanted to and felt it was that bad but in all my vast dating experience I've never had that happen to me or immediately wanted to leg it or anything.

And what Time said is brill ^ up there

Right I'm off for some sex curry. Laters all :o