''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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"A bit of practise" Would worry anyone!!!

Having said that anyone can have their confidence knocked. Benefit of the doubt i reckon.

..now looks as if I took the practise comment out of context, perhaps I should shave my legs after all

Off topic guys but I wanted to bring your attention to this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/promotional_codesbargains/1348178--20-Amazon-voucher-for-signing-up-to-LoveFilm-free-trial A free £20 Amazon voucher for signing up to a Lovefilm free trial. As soon as you get your first disc the voucher is sent then you are free to cancel your account. I wondered if it might help stay out with Christmas presents for the littlies?

Evening all

Time you seem just lovely, you always seem to think of others. brilliant idea for Stay and I might pinch the idea too if thats OK.

Trying to type with the dog lying on my arm. very difficult.

Itsall 'Bit of practise' sounds worrying but I do think we exxpect guys to be full of sexual confidence whereas however they come acroos they often have little confidence. Tjis could apply to him

Of course Zany, you should take advantage of it, I have it's too good an offer to miss I think. I hope you find it useful

Aww time that's really nice of you I have been with love film before however, a couple of times. Hope the offer gets put to good use by others though! Thank you x

time that's a really good idea. not for me though as I am so disorganised I will forget to cancel it

anyone know anything about washing machines? I think mine has had it, which is typical cos I was just about to book someone to come and finish my bathroom. oh and thinking of buying some blinds. now looks like i'll have to buy a new machine instead. bugger :(

Itsall - I would agree with giving him a chance. He may just be trying to keep things light hearted or just trying to let you know a little tactlessly that he isn't hugely confident.

Time, I saw that offer but thought I would get roped into something expensive. Talking of expense, just when I was getting on top of finances and had enough for Christmas my £400 new fire has hit a snag and it's going to cost at least £1,000!!!!!! Not happy plus my 5 yr old LCD TV has died on me.

Wrong time of year for all this and I feel like telling everyone to forget christmas presents this year .

Nothing on the man front either, good job I carn't afford to go out for the next few months. Good job I've started working full time.

Sorry to bring down the tone.

Ha Sponge just seen your post. Only a washing machine? I've got a great Hotpoint one bought a couple of years ago in the January sales if you can wait that long.

adams I feel bad complaining about my washing machine now! I've had it over 8 years and it gets a lot of use (but it is an LG and wasnt cheap - when I bought it, it was the only one that did a 12kg load but I think a few cheaper ones do now) I do a lot of washing, at least a load a day. Don't think I can cope til Jan Am going to try and get a friend to have a look at the weekend, will have to struggle on til then somehow! I do have the money to go and get one now - again so I shouldnt complain - I was just wanting to spend it on something else. Boo to our useless domestic appliances!

Morning all

stay you are welcome

adams, no, you don't get roped into anything expensive, you just have to sign up to the cheapest package, £5.99 for a 30 day trial, make a list of films you would like to see then wait for the first one to arrive a day later. Once it is sent out you get your voucher and you are then able to cancel your account. No strings attached at all. You won't pay a penny but will get £20 to spend at Amazon.

Sorry to hear about all the problems with appliances, not very good on the face of Christmas. Your washer sounds fab though sponge, I hope you manage to get it fixed.

thanks time i've just been and done the lovefilm sign up - read it all and there are no strings - seems to be working purely on the basis of you'll like it if you try it rather than any catches.

i'm afraid my washing machine is on it's way out too. to be fair when i bought my old apartment in 2003 i got the washing machine in with the purchase and who knows how long it had been going before that - i reckon it's had at least ten years - still hoping it can hold out a bit longer though.

haven't heard from the guy i met up with since monday night (after we met up) when we exchanged a couple of texts. no game playing on my part, i'd feel no problem with being the one to get in touch if i really liked him. the more i've thought about it though the more i've realised we didn't really talk about me at all, he never asked me anything and i did all the facilitating, making comfortable etc. so i didn't really get anything from it you know?

i'd meet up with him again if he asked but not going to chase him. i was hoping he'd be more fun tbh but he was quite serious and.... can't put my finger on it. he's a good looking young guy and if he was fun and funny and i enjoyed his company then great but actually he was a bit dull and like a boy acting the part of a man. think i was hoping for flirty sparkiness and got life story and dullness instead. hmm.

i sign onto pof briefly every couple of days to glance through my emails and have no interest in any of them i can't see me finding anyone this way even for fun.

I signed up for the love film thingy, got my amazon voucher a couple of days later (have already spent it!) might keep it on though - I'm paying £11 a month for games, so DS1 can be anti social and stay in his bedroom.

chatting to a bloke on GSM - not really flirty, just about books and films etc. Going out on saturday night with my ex flat mate and platonic man for a pub crawl - hoping to find a kareoke! contemplating wearing new leopard print too short dress.

I'v ebeen ebaying for xmas - have tons of crap high quality childrens & ladies clothing lying around my house in IKEA bags that I haven't quite got around to listing (for a year!) sold my old iphone for £90 and a £20 jacket I bought for DD from TKMaxx for £40 - with the other stuff I'm around £200 already - which is just as well as it's 31 days to xmas and time to get cracking. Bit too busy for men at the moment - I think that's always the way though - I can come up with excuses for not dating at the drop of a hat.

You are welcome swallowed. I get where you are coming from re the guy you met up with. Sounds like he used you as a counselling service not exactly conducive to a hot romance is it? Not on a first meeting anyway.

Snape I do love your posts and facebook comments. You seem to have such a fun life, full of interesting 'stuff' and people. I was supposed to do some ebaying for Christmas/holiday fund too but when my eldest daughter came to visit she had a look through the clothes and ended up taking them all! Part of me was secretly pleased though cos ebaying can be a bit of a pain in the backside sometimes, I have to be in the mood for it.

I'm with you on dating thing too. The more I think about it, the less I want to do it. Maybe I will feel differently when I've packed away the fleecy PJ's and got the summer clothes out.

time - yeah. initially i thought oh that all went well and then i thought about it and it was like hmm went well for who? we talked about his ex and troubles with an elderly relative and basically yes i went into counsellor mode (did counsellor training a few years back) - lots of listening, open q's, empathising etc and he opened up loads. in reality i didn't actually want to know his life story i wanted to see what he was like and whether there was any chemistry.

frankly i'd rather have gone out and had a laugh and a flirt and a snog. it was his idea to come join me for a dog walk - really not my idea of a good way to get to know someone, see if there is a spark and really not my idea of fun (fun yes but not the kind of fun i want to be having with a fit young guy).

hmm.

i actually think he would want to see me again but would let me do all the facilitating and i'm not sure if i can be arsed. in other circumstances i'd probably happily shag the guy i'm just not sure i'm prepared to that much groundwork and free therapy for it

maybe i'm just not up for this dating lark. i like sparks and randomness, this is all a bit orchestrated. but then i guess the whole point was that my life doesn't generate much in the way of sparks and randomness these days as i don't really meet anyone.

aaarghhh! why can't there just be a nice stream of fun, sexy, lovely young men flowing past? i so took it for granted previously!

oh! thank you time that's sweet of you to say! :)

I'm in a place where I don't want anyone to invade my life, but I probably think I could do with a shag. it's been (counts on fingers, and toes... and other body parts...) 27 months. that is clearly ridiculous - but I don't want to just have a random shag - I'd like to like the guy, if not actually have all the fizzy-tummy-butterfly stuff going on and presuming it's a good experience, I'd like to do it more than once - so the FWB scenario is alluring.

I don't need a bloke for the putting up shelves/watching top gear on my telly scenario. I don't really need the emotional support side of things either - I have you lot! friends for that. I'd like someone to go to the cinema with or wander around an art gallery or get screamingly ridiculously drunk with...and hold hands in public and a damn good seeing to without worrying that it's automatically leading to cocklodging or STDs. But I'd like to be able to look at him and go 'phooooooar!' and to have a decent intelligent conversation. and for him not to be 60+ and have a giant wobbly gut that he has to lift out of the way when we get down to it

Not much to ask, huh? Maybe I should just wipe my current profiles and copy and paste that lot.

There are quite a few of us on this thread thinking we might not be cut out for this dating lark!

When I had my date with Mr Drip I found myself listening to his woes and advising him. That's just typical of me though, people come to me when they need to 'talk', need a listening ear and some straight advice, which is good and I don't mind but I think when it comes to dating it can be a downfall. It sort of takes the shine off things. You don't want to be mothering counselling a guy you want to shag, you want him to appear to be the strong, masterful one. Mr Drip told me too much and I found it very hard to have any respect for him and definitely didn't want to see him again. There is a time and a place for 'deep talk', a first date is not it!

Anyway, I've decided what I am buying myself for Christmas. I'm going to put my Amazon voucher towards some wedge wellies! I was very jealous when watch announced she had won a pair

Morning all.

Saw Mr Yacht last night and things are still going really well. He said he is falling for me [shocked]

I would love to see what response you get Snape if you pasted that on your profile. MIght be worth a go and if you do then definately report back

I have decided that I'm going to be an organised Mum next year and put a bit away each month so it's not a panic about how to afford presents.

In my house appliances/cars always break in the month before Xmas - its guaranteed

You are welcome Snape, I meant every word. I would love to be a neighbour/friend of yours.

I could have written your post too, that is exactly how I feel. Although, I think I am missing the intelligent conversation more than the sex at the moment. And I would like someone to go to the cinema with and on nice long walks, talking intelligently and having a laugh along the way . And I want him to be tall and like cuddling. And I'd like all the upper part of his body to be in the right place, not all droopy and saggy. Too much to ask? Probably but I can afford to wait

Hi Zany, I'm really pleased things are going so well for you with Mr Yacht. Remind me, do we call him that because he has actually got a yacht or is it a euphemism?

As for the savings I am ultra organised now. I do my banking online so have several accounts for different things, i.e Christmas, holiday, DD (school shoes, school trips, etc) birthdays and emergencies. I put a little bit into each account each month and top up with spare cash when I can. It's amazing how quickly it all adds up and it does mean I have peace of mind knowing things are covered. And yes, I have a spreadsheet of my incomings and outgoings so always know how much I have in my account. To the penny!

zany, pleased it's all going so well.

Snape I think that's a fantastic profile, although you'd probably still get the chancers.

SAF I also struggle with the artificialness of it, CBA really atm, but that's probably because I have a couple of people to flirt with irl right now...it's when I have noone to flirt with that I start to want to date more. Am obviously just a big attention seeker . Should probably work on that if I ever want an actual relationship right?

Coffee date for this morning doesn't seem to have happened. He said he could probably do today but would text me mon or tues to confirm as it depended how busy he was at work. I replied and said ok just let me know. No text. I'm not feeling stood up or anything because it wasn't definite but a text would have been nice. Guess I just leave it now and see if he gets in touch.

RE lovefilm I had a 3month free trial and they even emailed me to remind me the free trial was almost up and to cancel if I didn't want to pay. I kept it on though because I find it really good.

Time I used to be like you with money but have been really really bad recently. Spending more than I have. Buying myself clothes because I was feeling low and wanted to feel better about myself. Buying a ready meal because I was feeling lazy. Days out with the dc I couldn't really afford...Really bad. Determined to get back on track now, xmas is pretty much done now so at least I don't have to worry about that.

sounds like lots of us have similar feelings and are after similar things.

i dropped him a quick text with a comment about how he got off lightly the other day as it's really muddy out there now and he replied straight away and a conversation of texts has gone back and forth. if i kept going it would go on all day and it's all light and a bit flirty.

i dunno!

yy to it having been too long. have got my fingers and toes out and worked out it's 1yr9months for me

(and i literally haven't fancied anyone in all that time - where are all the fit, interesting men hiding?)