''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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Zany he is away until early December, 'the holidays' then business travel to several places.

Meant to say I had assumed trip was only a few days, but I didn't know it was straight on business trip after. Before radars go off :)

i got a message overnight from an obese guy who had a long term illness.

and another guy who is 54.

I feel incredibly shallow, but surely I can do better than this? (although the 24 year old did want a booty call, but I am not a succession of holes for young men to practice on.)

Snape - don't trip over in your rush to reply! yes you can do better than that! I don't think it makes you shallow, wanting to actually be visually attracted to someone as well as personality wise is normal. It would be shallow to just want to be with someone for their looks alone.

Snape I tried the lower my standards open minded approach, its soul destroying. Yes, believe me you can do better than this

Not shallow at all to want to be attracted to someone you might potentially meet

YES, Snape, you can do better! You WILL do better because you are not going to settle for anything less than you deserve. You are not being shallow, you are simply maintaining your standards. You don't have to like or reply to every loser man that contacts you, some of them will just be trying their luck.

Sponge, you are normal love, you just haven't hit upon a guy who is normal . Don't waste any time thinking about the 29 year old fuddy duddy he is obviously not your type if he does a runner at the thought of a late night. Keep moving forward, it sounds like you are on a roll now!

moving I agree with stay, sit back and wait for him to reply, you don't want to appear too eager. Meanwhile continue messaging other potentials, don't put all your eggs in this one guys basket!

I would rather be single and happy for the rest of my life than lower my standards and be with someone who isn't right for me. My soul is not going to be destroyed for the sake of A Man!

I'm getting tired of the cretins.
Had a message from a local guy, seemed ok, couple of messages back and forth, he's keen for me to check out a new picture that he's uploaded to his profile. I suspect I'm not going to like it, bear in mind I already mentioned I'm not into the whole swapping of rude pictures thing.
Yeah you guessed it, close up shot of him ejaculating.
Gah, they all went to the same freaking charm school...

..and there's the blurry picture brigade, someone messaged me, there's no face picture in his profile, I say I'm only willing to chat if I can see who I'm talking to.
He e-mails me a picture, only he's done some special effect thing to it, one where it looks like he scribbled all over it in coloured pencil. The upshot being that I cant see what he looks like.
There are hundreds of similar examples, it's sort of entertaining, I often laugh out loud.
I am developing a very jaundiced view of men!

What site are you using? I've used a few sex type ones before, and yep got the cretins alright but there were some fantastic ones too - there always is for the just sex stuff. Typical, proper marriage material type men but they are SO not up for a relationship

it is a 'casual' dating site Lubey (cuz I am SO not up for a relationship )
even so I just cant believe some of the pictures.
I now suspect that all men have powerful urges to flash their bits, some of them manage to control it, but once on the net lots give in to the urge

I think maybe it's a conditioned reflex, if there's a keyboard in front of them that just have to whip it out!

Crikey! The mentality of some of these men! The thought of that photo itsall turned my stomach! I wonder why they do it, do they really believe we would find such photo's a turn on? Or is it that they are so proud of their giblets that they just have to show them? I would love to know why they feel the need to do this. They can't be accused of lacking in confidence that's for sure! It took my ex about 9 years of the 11 years we were together to actually let me see him totally naked!!!

In some ways it's a good thing, makes it VERY easy to sort the wheat from the chaff, or the well brought up from the crass.
Yeah I felt a bit queasy.
The guy said 'just uploaded a stunning piece of photography'
can you believe it

Maybe he's just channeling his inner Andy Warhol? :)

Send him a reply saying you are concerned that he finds that to be a stunning piece of photography!

I'm pleased you are managing to find a positive in it, i.e sorting the wheat from the chaff but photo's like that you really shouldn't have to put up with, I would find it highly offensive. A stranger sending me such a vile photo. Yuk!

Is it my age?

I just blocked him...I dont got time to fuck with the fuckwitts

Well done!

I really shouldnt do this..
example of one guys profile text
'Hello to al that looks at me what u c is what u get and what u read is what u get so if u r up 4 a fuckin good time then send me a tex hope to hear and play with u soon ! X AND PLEASE NO MORE TIME WASTERS ! '

in his picture he's rather good looking, but really, the men outnumber women 8 to one on that site, you think he'd try a bit harder to turn on the charm.
Maybe he thinks there are load of desperate women fighting over a few men

you should do it. absolutely. we need to be aware of this.

I am almost tempted to create an alter-ego profile with cleavage and cocktail glass raised aloft. 'hiya hun! I'm bubbly and alwayz up 4 a laff! I like the finer things in life, sum might call me hi-maintenance LOLZ!!1 but there's nuffin wrong with liking shoes and girly things, right? I want to meet mr right and settle down, but I still like a laff going clubbing and stuff. My mates all say the best bit of my body is my eyes. I mean tits. LOLZ'

oh. the temptation to be a fluffy honey trap. If I didn't have enough fuckwits to field, I'd be right on it.

Oh. My. God. I am so glad that I'm taking a break. Reading all of this makes a little bit of sick come up into my mouth.

Snape, I dare you! It might be good for a laugh!

it feels cruel though...I mean like mocking the afflicted, or poking a caged animal with a stick

Have just added the boxer on FB at his request. This may have been a mistake. His photos are clearly v flattering cos judging by the ones on FB I could not feel less attraction to him. Totally not my type. He does have some fairly attractive friends though so it may not be entirely a lost cause

yes I admit I am shallow

thats just making the best use of your time & rescorces hatesponge

I have a stage two date in a few days time.
(stage one is meet for coffee & a chat, stage two is come to my place for a euphemistic coffee)
Anyhow, I?m starting to get concerned, he has been in regular text and e-mail contact but he?s used phrases like:
But small steps first i think
No expectations
A bit of practise

If he's not going to deliver I'm really not interested, I'm not a sex therapist.
Is he just being polite and making sure I dont feel pressured?
But ffs I've invited him to my place, I didnt exactly say 'come round and f**k me' but I alluded to that effect.

I'm expecting him to bottle out and cancel.

What does the team think?