''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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Well done stay! Why not have a browse on Amazon for ideas for the boys? I love Amazon! How old are your children stay?

Black Christmas tree's were very 'in' last year weren't they? They can look very elegant BUT, if you change your decor before next Christmas your tree won't match. Mine is green but a very dark green and I decorate it with a red and gold theme. I love it!

The girls are 6 and 5, the boys are 3 and 1. Generally the boys are happy with anything that has wheels or they can destroy more than once

I would love to change the decor. In the whole house. And the furniture. Unfortunately I cant see it happening any time soon. By next christmas...maybe.

stay - just get a green tree :) it doesnt matter if it doesnt match.
i have red and gold ( and green) and twinkly lights everywhere. and its just lovely. When i was little, nothing matched and we still loved it. DD is making things to put on our tree... so those will have to go on too, and it will look awful and wonderful at the same time, and that is what its about really.

tesco points are good, i got two things for dd a week or so ago. i just need to get her some dinosaurs and im done.

The last two years I did a pink and silver tree for the girls and a blue and silver tree for the boys. I mildly considered a disney tree this year but thats going a bit far Might do green but I am not a fan of gold. More a silver person!

stay - also M&s is doing 50& childrens things at the momment, they have this cute ' emily button' girls stuff like beads to make necklaces and patchwork mice and cookery stuff, and they also have 'character' books and normal story books and activity books starting at 75p.

Aww cheers watch, I will check that out a bit later in the week. Just skinted myself out buying six whole presents!

lol - i know that feeling... though they do tend to take a few days to take the money....

You have your hands full then stay . I've been looking forward to this Christmas since last Christmas so I have been overly organised.

When I was a kid everyone had a green tree and multi coloured baubles, bright coloured tinsel and lovely fairy lights of all different colours. Lot's of colour and proper Christmasy. Then themed tree's seemed all the fashion and fairy lights got smaller but twinkled. How times change

Ahhh I was brought up with an OCD step mother, as lovely as she is! Our christmas tree was always very themed. It did always look amazing though!

I have the flashy multicoloured fairy lights though!

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Time I LOVE leaving all my xmas stuff late, and I never ever wrap anything til I can do it drunkenly on xmas eve at about 11pm. I used to get all excited and do it all early, but then was fed up of the whole thing by the time it actually got to xmas. I have lots to get this year though so will get started a tiny bit earlier. Including a new xmas tree and decs thanks to the cat trashing the last one... knocked it over so many times it looked so shit. That was my youngest cat though when she was little, she has mellowed at lot now so I feel slightly safer bothering with it again :o

That reminds me, how's Lulu and your new catlady-in-waiting existence?

why are you all talking about christmas you loons???!!!

date went well as in not awkward, easy going, time passed well etc but we did spend rather a lot of time discussing his ex and how that all panned out. ironic given he said he broke up with the last girl he was seeing because she never stopped going on about her ex.

he has 50/50 custody though so to talk about his dd meant talking about his ex. i dunno.

was nice but to be honest i think i was more pscyhed up for flirty, fun, etc rather than the getting on well, talk about family, lots in common values wise stuff that i got.

pondering.

Yay! we have lift off ChezHelen. He said its good to hear from me, would love to see me when he gets back from his trip and will call nearer the time.

'Tis internet dating though so who knows, but glad I took the direct route.

SwallowedAfly glad it went ok. I have no problem with people talking about exes within reason. I like to understand what their recent history is and suss out how ready they are for seeing someone (or not) and also to see if they talk horribly about their ex, what arrangements there are for seeing their kids if they have any, etc. If they did it all the time in either a wistful or negative way then that would be no good though.

Helen yeah glad that's sorted then :o

Swallowedafly - Doesnt sound majorly bad for a first date! I suppose it depends on how he was talking about his ex rather than what he was saying as such (unless he was describing in graphic detail how he wished to murder her or something).

Helen - Well done you! If you dont ask you dont get :)

Oh lulu is lovely lubey. She has settled in really well. We have had her for four weeks now. She is due to be allowed out, on an empty stomach so that she comes home, about now but I'm going to wait until DD is with her dad at the weekend. The last thing I want after the trauma of the hamster dying is the cat not coming home!! I'm feeling quite nervous about it actually. I hope she realises which side her bread is buttered and doesn't decide to do a runner!

swallowed it all sounds pretty good in the grand scheme of things. Are you going to meet up again?

Yeah Helen, well done!

watch, if I lived an ocean closer I'd be in the secret santa, but anything by airmail to the UK is $40 so mayhaps not!

Re the tree... We have a bit of a weird tradition here in South Australia. One of our department stores, John Martin's, used to run a christmas pageant and the tradition was that as kids we'd either go to town and watch the pageant or watch it on tv, then Mum would drag out the tree and the xmas deccies and we'd do the tree. That department store was bought out by an evil empire who even went as far as to demolish the original store but we still hate them and any true blue south Aussie does not shop at David Jones! The evil empire pulled their support for the pageant but sold all the floats and costumes to a consortium of credit unions who now run it. It's not as good but at least it still exists.
www.cupageant.com.au/

The same day as the pageant happens the local brewery turns on its riverbank display, so at some stage between Johnnies Pageant day and xmas families take the kids to see the brewery lights and display. A few years ago we had major storms and a lot of the display washed away. Baby Jesus was found in reeds miles downstream, Mary and Joseph were fished out of the river by a local family who rang the brewery to report their find and took some great pics of the couple mingling with family and friends at a bbq, and the floating whale washed out to sea the same day as a Japanese whaling ship was coming into port!

That all sounds very lovely Poppa We just have the standard switching on of the lights in town, with local radio present and this year it was a character from CBeebies who flicked the switch. Not exactly magical but it's a nice atmosphere.

I'm looking forward to taking DD into town once late night shopping starts. I don't need any shopping but with the lights lit and little things going on around town it's always nice. Well, it is now it's just me and DD. It wasn't an enjoyable experience prior to that.

I'm taking my DC's to the local light switch on next week. Looking forward to it as it makes you feel all Christmassy

Is it just to the end of the week that he is away till Helen?

Did you fancy your date Swallowed? as if you got on OK then that's a start

nothing at all to make me 'not' fancy him - nice looking, really tall, lovely build etc. won't know if i really fancy fancy him until something happens - if it happens. hoping there's a bit of physical confidence in with the niceness iyswim.

see what happens.

Hi ladies is this the online dating thread?

Just wanted some advice I was messaging a guy that I contacted 1st, who i really liked the look of. We had been messaging for about 4 days, then he asked if i was on whats app,vi said no and I would try to download it. But I messaged him bk a day later as I was busy and I have not heard from him since, but I no he checked out my profile a few days ago!

I'm not sure if I should wait to see if he messages me or contact him and say I'm now in what's app? In the real world I would wait, but as its online dating, I'm thinking differently. Also he did seem very interested when we were messaging before. I was already on what's app but got worried about giving him my number as we had only been messaging for about 4days. Help :)

Moving - you sent a message, sit back and wait.

Time I read that article. Kind of how I think of myself (it's been said about me and to me many times). It's all BS though really. Every man I've ever met bar 1 wasn't worth marrying anyway, so it goes both ways!

So, I have been asked for a date by the 25 year old. Am a bit meh about it tbh. Have another guy messaging me who lives in my town, he is v short (an inch taller than me) but he is a boxer so am thinking he may make up in physique for what he lacks in height

Sent 3 messages yesterday (my first attempts!), got a reply from one. All going quite well til I mentioned I'd been out at a club til 4am on Sat. Now he was only 29 so I didn't think that would put him off...but he sent a short message back saying how late that was & he didn't go out much nowadays, and nada since!

Am starting to think men seem to see me as some scary party animal How do I appear more 'normal' without being boring?!