''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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Very true Time - or when you see couples out for a drink/dinner and they are both sitting there in silence - makes me think Thank God that's not me

Time - in my situation I am certainly happier. The children, I am not so sure. The girls regularly ask when daddy is coming home and my son cries when he has to come back home to me after the weekend. Which hurts a lot really, but I know he is only three. I think this is where my own feelings of guilt/failure comes in, not suggesting that should apply in all marriages that end.

gosh, thats true. I know several friends who claimed the ' staying together for the children thing' and are now splitting up... and you can see lots of couples that are doing that and are just miserable.

wonders if anyone fanices doing a £5 secret thread santa, or is that a stupid idea

Thank you all, I shall send soon and too right I'm going to report back

Ooh yes Zany, that too.

Awh stay, that's sad. To have to witness that would affect me too. DD is the exact opposite, during his 'stable' moods, when he finds an excuse to talk to me, she wants reassurance that I'm 'not going to love dad again' and that we won't be moving back in with him.

I think secret santa would be a good idea *Time. I'm up for it

Talking about the affect of splitting up on DC's, my DS for the first time on friday night said he didn't want to go to his Dad's and he often comes home upset. It breaks my heart to know he isn't happy there. They don't get on, especially my DS, with their Dad's DP and son. Mainly because he is seriously lacking in a backbone weakwilled and will do anything his DP says including being extreemly strict. Both my DC's feel that they aren't their Dad's no. 1 and not important to him. Can see trouble ahead as I won't send them to him if they aren't happy and begging to stay with me

Watch I was thinking exactly the same thing myself but thought you would all think I was too soppy for mentioning it

Those who stay together for the sake of the kids, no matter how old the kids when they split they can be still affected, even if they are now grown adults with kids of their own. There is never a right time and there isn't a right way, we just have to do what we feel is best and go with it.

Helen that sounds fine to me

at poppa's exciting gift.

I get xh something from the dc, he never bothers back though. This year's present is a little too thoughtful to waste on him I think...but we've made it now.

Make enjoy yourself!

Watch my divorce will be going through soon too, I plan to celebrate with margaritas!

Had a booty call earlier

Zany - that must be really hard for you. I would not want to send my dc either if they were to feel the same as your ds.

Helena - good luck with the text! Sounds fine to me

Katie Price was on Loose Women earlier saying that although she isn't good at being alone she is enjoying being single, that she is happily single at the moment, and this has made her think, does she want a man because she wants a relationship or because she wants an accessory, someone to watch a movie with etc but not necessarily to live with. Kind of struck a chord with me that did

Zany I'm lucky in that The Ex never puts up a fight when DD tells him she wants to stay home instead of go to his, in fact he sometimes offers it up. I don't think he will mind one bit when the day comes that she doesn't want to go at all. He loves her I'm sure, but he just loves himself more.

Just got a message for a booty call on OKC. from a 24 year old. politely declined. he just wasn't scruffy enough oh! and his profile picture is of his arse.

blackwoozle if anyone wants a gander, or feels they might be able to (cough!) help him out!

New name!

Bit early I suppose but wanted rid of the 'is free' bit. Tis history!

No! No Christmas names!

Bah humbug

I'm done with all my shopping, it's all wrapped too, I've been to see Arthur Christmas and I've prepared my online Christmas food order. I'm just counting down the days.

I haven't done any xmas shopping yet, I usually don't DO xmas til about the 20th at very earliest... I may relent this year and start mid Dec though :o

I have got loads to do yet! Come and sort my Christmas out too please!

oh. god. XMAS.

have half-heartedly started shopping on basis that I can get a good wodge of it via amazon/ebay and have listed ebay stuff so i ...can almost afford to buy stuff on amazon/ebay.

I'm not feeling very christmassy yet. Maybe a Christmas name would help! :o

time - am loving the name :)

zany :( dd sometimes doesnt want to go to her dads, we had ww3 about it the other weekend. I forsee trouble, espcially as he is sure she will want to live wih him when she is 12, hes told me one day he just wont send her home. That scotland posting is looking better and better i can tell you. Its hard for them and actully i understand how your ds feels, even though i was grown up i felt like that with my dad, heck, i feel like that now... but i know its not a case of feeling that way, its actually true ( ive not been allowed in in house for 5 years and have been ousted from the family) it seems to be quite a common thing, with lots of my friends experienceing the same thing. There isnt much to say to make it any better though :(

right, so , who wants to do a secret santa thing and have some small present to open on xmas day that you havent brought for yourself :)
shall i say PM me?
ill pull names out of a hat?

im almost done on the present front, cake is made, turkey is ordered, plans are sorted :) but i like to have it all done so i get to enjoy all the fun stuff without any of the stress becasuse im lazy

It really wouldnt help Sparks

Watch - I wish I was as organized! But then I do have four to buy for! I dont tend to do have turkey at christmas. Not very keen on it!

Thank you watch And at lubey leaving Christmas shopping until the 20th!!! I wouldn't be able to sleep! . Although, I bet you manage to get a fair bit in the sales leaving it so late.

My ex said exactly the same about DD, that she would want to live with him when she got older, ha ha ha! He is a deluded fool!

stay I added things to my Amazon wish list throughout the year. That made organising Christmas a lot easier. I also have a list saved in word and everything I buy I highlight so I know what else I have to do or buy. Me, anal? Yes!

I don't think we are having turkey either, they are quite expensive and we prefer chicken so I think that's what me and DD will be having.

Time - I have just put together the girls christmas list and bought about half of it. I picked up a ds for my second DD last week, so really the bulk of theirs is done. The boys I have no idea what to get but picked up two presents from tesco, exchanged my vouchers. I have also just put together an open office spreadsheet for keeping track hahaha. I suppose I can do organised when I want!

I need a new christmas tree too. I have a black and grey lounge (not my choice!) and all my decorations arent really suitable. Actually considering a black christmas tree this year with silver decorations, but it will probably just be as depressing as my lounge!

time - i have a list. lol and i start in the summer and get things in the sales. Spreads the cost as well.

Im having dinner at my mothers, but the im on good terms with the local butcher so am in charge of the meat. We all take along several dishes so she doesnt have to do it all. And them im hosting new years day and am doing slow roasted pork loin with crusty rolls and apple sauce, as well as other thngs, namely cheese.