''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

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swallowed - hide it all with a long scarf!!! this is my current tactic :) Go, it might be fun.

Make - lucky you, sounds lovely.

freak - hows the hangover?

adams - i know what you mean about a sparing partner... they seem to be as difficult to find as a decent date!

Lubey - how are you feeling now? any better, or still a bit 'meh'

poppa - im jealous of all your sun. so unfair!

Feeling rather crap today. Ex husband is being a cock, the decre nisi is happening on the 5th dec and its coming up for 3 years since i kicked him out. Im baffled how he is in a 3 year relationship, and i cant even get past date 3 with someone 3 years down the line. whole lot of 3's there isnt there! and im 33 :) i just, you know, wonder when its going to be my time.........

swallowed a fly couple of hours, great. brisk shower with exfoilating, hair wash, nice comfy underwear (doesn't matter if he's going to see it or not, you'll know its there!) comfy clothes, light make-up, squirt of perfume and off you go! :) report back! :)

watch what havve you got planned for 5th December? He's in a 3 year relationship because he's a cock! :) No idea when the right time will be for you - but there will be one. :) Look after yourself and DD & try to not think about your life in relation to cock-heads life. So what if he's in a relationship. pity her! I was always amazed that XP had relationships after he left me and the DCs (and then the woman he left me for with her DS) women sometimes don't seem to be very choosy at all.

I'm scanning guardian soulmates. I'm too old. all the men my age want 30 year olds. :(

nothing - should i have??? its just a day. tbh- thats the easy bit, the difficult bit is going to come ( and has already started) when discussing finances and other such things. I know the absolute can be aplied for 6.5 weeks after... but with xmas and being busy and the huge amout of fuss he is already causing i can see it taking a bit longer than that.

I do pity her, and i wonder what on earth she can see in him, plus she hears him on the phone to me, how she can be with somone that shows the mother of their child such disrespect is confusing....

You dont look old. id just message them ( if you like the look of them ) anyway. I dont believe many men read whole profiles... ( in fact lots admit to not doing so) What happened with the spanish guy then?

Snape I'm 30 and they definitely don't want me, so god knows what it is they DO actually want. Oh god - actually I'm 31, keep forgetting but still, close enough! They didn't want me when I was 27 either. Having said that I haven't actually wanted any of them... so... oh well.

Watch I'm good thank you. Slightly meh but due to skintness rather than anything else. I've run out of EVERYTHING from loo roll to milk to washing powder and no money til tomorrow - gah so near yet so far! So annoying when that happens.

Sounds like the ex's gf needs that pity - she is settling for something completely rubbish and you're not though, so sod the pair of them.

i suggest you should involve a lot of rum. decree nisi is a lovely step towards official freedom! :)

Spanish guy - kind of went quiet and I couldn't be bothered to persue. actually they're all a bit quiet at the moment, except for platonic man, who is.... platonic...

watch you are still (happily) single because you choose to be, because you absolutely refuse to settle for any man less than the man you deserve. As yet you haven't met a man who deserves you. Simples.

Your ex is in a relationship but it doesn't mean it's a healthy or happy one. If his partner hears him talking to you in an abusive manner without calling him on it then you can be sure he is talking to her in exactly the same way. If that is the case then she probably has a low self esteem and stays with him simply because she doesn't know how to leave or feel she deserves better.

Your day will come watch, you will meet the man of your dreams one of these days, meanwhile make sure you have lots of fun while waiting

swallowed Have fun!!! And yes, don't forget to report back!

Make, that all sounds jolly nice! Make the most of it!!

snape you are not too old! Age is just a number. They guys who are looking for 30 year old's are just trying their luck. I agree that you should just message them and see what happens.

Crikey lubey, I don't stand a chance at 47 then do I? . But I can't say I'm really bothered tbh. I don't think that's because of my previous bad experience either, I really do like my own space/company/freedom and can picture myself in a nice cosy little house with a couple of cat's, a budgie and a big slipper once DD has left home. >

grrr - that is SO infuriating... ply him with rum?
You know fridays disaster was you know who dont you? awful, felt wretched. Luckliy dont feel too bad now as i had given up on it all, but stilll. urgh,

them goiing quiet is a frequent thing, dont take it personally... my upcoming date has gone quiet and im not going to follow it up... saves me having to cancel. lol

Rum is good, death by rum and cheese? fuck it, bring on the boursin!!!

Lubey - im skint too. we ran out of milk this morning. and bread, thankfully the cb goes in tomorrow though a trip to the vets with my dog is likely to wipe that out. roll on payday.

time - yeah, you are mostly right. probably. im just having a wobble. Most likely caused by the timing, and the nisci and all that.

I celebrated my divorce by going back to my maiden name and buying a big cake for me and the kids, although they didn't know what the celebration was about. I also bought myself a red jacket for some strange reason. And I wore it. A Lot. I loved my divorce day.

I know watch, I understand. . You will bounce back, I know you will.

As for the skintness. When I left The Ex I had a credit card that I never dare used. Because I had lot's of skintness when I first moved out of refuge I would use the credit card to do an online delivery with Asda then pay it off as soon as my money came in. I never ran up a debt but it did help to see me through. I just wondered if that would be helpful for you guys too. Feel free to ignore me though

Time, of course you stand a chance and so does Snape - my point being the age group of men I look for is likely to be the same as you as I prefer them a bit older than me... and they are claiming they want a 30 year old. Well I am one, and a damned fine one too and I haven't been snapped up so I don't think they even know WHAT they want. Either that or they haven't got a hope in hell with anyone, let alone someone of 30 in which case no loss to us anyway :o does that make any sense? My head is fuzzy

watch yes, i know friday was 'he who cannot be named'. cock cheese. glad you're feeling a bit better - you might feel like an idiot, but he is an idiot and that's far worse. All you've done is be a good friend and have a little bit of trust thrown back at you. he's a nobber.

Rum might be the answer for platonic man. we're going on a pub crawl next weekend with my ex-flatmate who always manages to put his foot in it we shall see.

Not bothered at all about the going quiet and when they get back in touch, if they ever do, I'll just be lovely. no big deal. :)

right. five a day on guardian soulmates then. let's try and find five I'd even give the time of day to... I'm not that worried by my age - it's the bare fucking cheek of blokes in their early forties only dating women considerably younger than them - less of a challenge?

Time I have a credit card but it only had a crappy limit and has been maxed out with other emergencies. Bloody thing. I did have loads of space on it but the company reduced my limit when the credit crunch bit and also right after nightmare month when I'd done emergency shopping on it leaving me with about 5 quid leeway, the feckers. I mostly pretend it doesn't exist now!

I can last a day. I have some freezer roulette food, can sub kitchen roll or a box of tissues for loo roll, don't need to do any washing and can just about manage a pint of milk so it's ok. Annoying, but ok.

Erm, yes. I think so!

No, I get you. I think maybe guys my age would like a trophey 30 year old but their chances of getting one, well, I would say are slim. That's going on the state condition of the guys that have contacted me, even I'm not interested in them!

time - ah, im not quite that skint, there is petrol in the car and a a fridge full of everything BAR milk. and i ran out of bread too. but we have everything else.
i just spend my money at the cinema and on dinner out. lol. But i know i have money tomorrow, and friday and then monday, and wed, and thur.. comes in in dribs and drabs :)

I have no credit card either.

snape - i think its nothing more than pure fantasy. Honestly, how many men are really likely to pull women 10 years or so younger than them.

Hey I'm not less of a challenge! Independent, free thinking, opinionated, non manipulatable and sexually demanding 30 something who knows what she wants here... I'm not malleable. I was when I was 18/19/20 but not now.

I reckon it's more wishful hopeful thinking, or not having really put enough thought into it... surely men can't think a 30 year old woman would be less challenging? I reckon most of us have found our feet and ourselves by that age

lubey can you do a balance transfer to another credit card? Virgin is excellent and has 16 months 0% on it.

Watch - i am not surprised you are feeling a bit low. Be easy on yourself. Your time will come.

In terms of divorce days, I have a while to wait for mine. Can't apply for one until July next year when we are a year separated. Even though my marriage wasn't good, I am fairly sure when the day comes, I will feel sad that things didn't work out. I would have ideally wanted different for my kids than divorced parents. After my own childhood it's something I always said I wouldn't have for them.

Make - make the most of it!

oh good grief lubey no! not a 30 year old! Sorry! I didn't express myself properly! I would like to think that the majority of 30 year olds know themselves relatively well, know what they want and aren't malleable... :)

I just find it a little creepy that (some) guys in their early forties seem to cut-off their age range in the early thirties... i at least say I'd date a fifty year old even though I doubt I would and don't care if I'm a hypocrite at the thought of grey pubes

watch that's good Did you enjoy Arthur Christmas by the way? I loved it! I even shed a little tear or two but in my defence the hamster had died in the morning and DD and me too-- was devastated! She sobbed heartbroken, bless her. So, I blamed my tears on the passing of Millie.

I'm with you there lubey. I wonder sometimes if I scare men, I'm not sure they know how to handle independently minded, strong women.

I remember once over hearing a guy, probably in his mid 30's and eyeing up a woman around my age, say to his mate that he would would give her one, that with a bit of KY jelly it would be alright . I will never forget that comment and now it does make me wonder if men see menopausal aged 'older' women as a bit 'dried up'.

Watch I think a lot of women are afraid to be alone, and if avoiding it means committing to an arse like your ex then they will do so. You've got far more nouse than that which is why you're single. The right one just hasn't come along yet, but when he does you'll be glad you didn't settle.

Snape, Time, Lubey Everyone, you are all fantastic women who deserve the best. In fact when I first came on here I took it as reassurance that there must be at least some decent people on the dating sites as you lot were all internet dating after all...

Just as an aside, this bloke has got a bloody annoying kitchen. Can't find a damn thing. All the cabinet doors are the same so you try to find a plate or a cup and end up opening the door to the dishwasher. What is so shameful about kitchen appliances anyway? Why must they be hid by uniform cabinetry? Oh the things that occupy my mind when I've nothing better to do

Life is exciting! My week hit a new high point today! My dear old Mum is spending $300 on a very special christmas present for me. Here's the game... in the next 30 minutes, should you be bothered, see if you can guess what the item is. The prize for the winning guess is a bar of virtual wholenut.

Hints... think white indispensible household item. It really is quite thrilling in an incredibly sad and lame way.

snape I get what you are saying. I see pictures of men in their 50's without tops, with their droopy boobs and greying chest hair, and it really turns me off. It's not just women who have the 'going south' problem. I know I'm knocking on 50 myself but I really don't want to hook up with a man in that age bracket. And that is very shallow of me, yes

Awh thank you make. I too think we are all wonderful, highly intelligent, strong, independent women. We have a common bond. We also have standards! Good luck in finding a cup!

PoppaRob is $300 the same as £300?? Please forgive my ignorance but I don't keep up with these things. My guess is a fridge? But they can be other colours than white....