''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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I know.... I just feel that if he really wanted to go out with me that much he'd have asked himself. It's not so much of a big deal right? We're both on a dating site for goodness sake, we both know why we're there surely?

True. But why not just remove any doubt. If he says yes you could always ask him the reason on why he didn't on the date ( in a jokey way!)

And if he says no at least you know it's time to say NEXT!! :o

Maybe he is thinking the same about you make, that if you wanted to go out with him you would have at least hinted at it . He is communicating with you, that's a good sign! Also agree with Sparks1.

Now, go and ask him and report back

Not sure what is going on as I am babysitting. Hope you are all OK!

I'm a lurker. I just wanna say I read you thread and it makes me smile and brings back happy and funny memories.

I met my Dh on match 6 1/2 years ago. I can see much hasn't changed. I remember getting a cock pic so small I couldn't work it out. Lots of married men going all over towels in travel lodges type pics. Weird dates. Weird men that spent all day on t'internet and msn.

But looking back it was all happy days. You will look back and laugh and treasure these experiences. Thinking thank fuck I avoided that, or can you believe mr lawyer did this...There are nice guys amongst the nutters, married, pervs, sex workers and just plain weirdos.

I spent ages chatting on pof to my date, then bottled it and didn't meet up. Second time we chatted I finally agreed to meet and am glad I did. I am very nervous of coming across too keen and so am probably giving the impression that I am not bothered. Told DS I had a date and he handled it very well. He won't be meeting them for a very long time so that won't be an issue.
I haven't met anyone else through the site though, some seemed a bit needy or desparate so blocked them and haven't been on since meeting this one.
DCs with their dad next weekend so have the house to myself time to get the rice pudding body out I think :) I have a week to persuade myself I am a sex goddess.

Fake tan is a miracle worker daisy, it completely transforms things . I only use the moisturiser with tan in and that' enough to give me a subtle glow and really soft skin.

Morning

Can I join you? Following a breakup because of issues with ex dp and my daughter I am on my own again.
Two weeks ago I joined ok Cupid and pof am now chatting, and speaking on the phone to a lovely man and we have made plans to meet next week!! New dress has been bought and I'm really excited :-) he sounds lovely!

Just thought I'd join you for some mutual support xxxx

I had a text a couple of days ago from someone I was going to meet that lives in my work town. Decided I couldn't be bothered so didn't reply. What if he was the 'one' . He made out he had lost his phone and that's why he hadn't been in touch. Same as my potential all communication lost .

However, one guy did cancel on me because of this reason and it turned out to be true and we rescheduled and dated for a few months after that.

make - tbh im with you on the them asking you think. You hinted... and he didnt pick that up. You could maybe hint again, but then i tend to think that if he wanted a date he would ask you.

daisy - low lightiing and or booze works wonders :)

zany - glad its going so well :)

ive changed my mine on next weeks date again. My heart isnt in it at all. I cant be arsed and have run out of enthuasim for meeting stangers and making small talk. Besides ive only got 2 childfree weekends between now and 2012... so there is little point ( and i need to get the study sorted next weekend and thats going to take 2 days)
Im having a lovely weekend with DD ( she made me breakfast in bed) Christmas is coming and id rather spend my time with people who i know love me, than chasing after something that is ( by past experiences) unlikely to happen. Im sure ill change my stance early next year and be dating with vengance again, but for now, im done :)

i can still stay for the gossip though.. cant i :)

I have tried that Time but went a very strange orange colour :) bearing in mind I am very very pale indeed. Maybe my pale skin will blind him and he won't notice my imperfections.
Chatting on fb to ex bf (love of my life, not exh) we chat every so often (every couple of months) general stuff, mentioned in passing I was seeing someone and now he chats and messages all the time. Nowt so queer as folk!

hope everyone's having a good weekend!

I am labouring under a hellish hangover at present, as was out for friends 40th last night at an 80s club in London. Had a fab time, lots of male attention (though none of it from anyone I was interested in...still can't have it all!).

Meanwhile my newly amended POF profile is mainly attracting messages from men in their early 20s I mean I don't mind them younger but there are limits....will have to try and find someone my own age to message. Surely there must be one man in

ooh pressed post too soon. bloody hangover!

should read

Surely there must be one man in south east england I find vaguely attractive :)

watch, your "I'd rather spend my time with people who i know love me than chasing after something that is unlikely to happen" should be printed on desk calendars, bus tickets and money!

I've made some plans to catch up with friends and family between now and christmas. They accept me as I am, understand that I'm politically incorrect, get my sense of humour, I don't have to dress to impress them and there's no performance anxiety - it's a tick in every box!

Watch, I'm not dating atm either, my heart isn't in it but if the potential one reappears I might be curious to meet up even if its just the once.

I would wait for them to ask me out too.

Got a few nights out planned between now and Christmas. I need to find a sparing partner to go out on the pull town with now and again instead of being home most Saturday nights.

my enthusiasm for meeting strangers and chasing after the unlikely (to paraphrase watchoutfor) drops steeply in the winter.

I wonder if the arse-about nature of the holiday season during crap northern hemisphere weather has any bearing on libido and general interest in the opposite sex? Here in Oz we're starting to get some nice-ish weather (mid 20s this week) and the spunky young things are getting about in suitably summery clothing and even the middle aged spunks are looking more attractive. However come the first cold spell in autumn and I see a woman in a baggy sweater and jeans and think how damned cute she looks. Ok. I've just realised it't nothing to do with weather or holiday season - I'm just a perve! :)

Did that post make me seem like a shallow typical male? Should I be getting out my "Feminist chicks dig me" T-shirt?

he he, I dont think it makes you sound shallow PoppaRob. For me it's very weather related, we had lotta snow & ice last winter, the only thing on my mind was keeping warm and staying upright whilst walking from A-B!

I think it's much simpler to do the dating in Spring/Summer when you can go out in less clothing and safe in the knowledge that your hair is going to look the same once you arrive at your destination as it did when you set off. Shallow. Yes, of course, but we have photo's to live up to. Who wants to turn up to a first date with hair that's frizzed in the mist and wearing more layers than an onion. Not me, not really. PLUS, I feel a lot safer going out at night when it's light. But that could be my age.

poppa.

Have hangover paranoia today Was very a bit drunk last night and was being a bit suggestive to male friend who manages pub. He was as bad really so hopefully he took it as the banter it was intended to be and doesn't now think I'm a desperate dirty whore

Basically I leant him a dvd a while ago and someone told exh who got it in his head that we must be shagging each other and has been having a go at him about it. So we were just joking about all the sex we've been having and coming up with ways we could really give exh something to get upset about...nothing too bad but the hangover is making me worry!

Glad it's all going well zany

Time, I may have mentioned that my second wife came from Elgin. She was a bit older than me and used to tell stories of she and her mates trudging through the snow in their mini skirts and boots in the 60s to go to the local dances! Apparently the snow was preferable to the rain 'cos it didn't ruin your hairdo! :)

aaarghhh!!! guy wants to meet me today. wants to come walk the dog with me in the mud and grey. i feel really fat and struggling with growing out hair - realise this is epically shallow. how do you do an instant confidence boost?

Swallowedafly positive affirmations? I know it sounds silly but if you try to tell yourself you look fab every time you pass a mirror, you do start to feel better than if you go 'oh gawd' and focus on what you believe to be your flaws. Also, think about posture. A woman who is standing up straight and who moves her body confidently always looks good.

I am naughtily mumsnetting from the human rights lawyers laptop whilst sitting in his robe in his very posh North london flat. He's at work. I have two days off, he's given me the keys to his flat, and I'm about to go shopping at the equally posh shopping mall round the corner. Tonight we are going out to dinner. We got back in touch as you've probably gathered.

He is an extremely nice man. Good in bed too. But realistically I think we live too far away and that perhaps the chemistry isn't quiiiiiite sparkly enough for it to really go anywhere. But what the hell, I'm going to enjoy myself dammit!

oh do enjoy yourself! definitely - see it as a little holiday into his life. have a good snoop round too whilst he's out

yeah i think i need to big up myself a bit. i've got a couple of hours.