''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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ok, well, I think I've misrepresented myself and been a little facetious..
The underlying reason I'm reluctant to actually meet people is that I'm quite reserved and find it all very hard work, I mean I really find the whole thing very stressful.
I'm not a gregarious person, and I do try to explain this to people that I chat with on dating sites.
So probably it's not so much a case of deliberately messing them around, more that it does take a while for me to feel ok about actually meeting someone.
Most of the people I meet I wish I hadnt bothered, after 5 minutes in their company I want to teleport outta there

But surely it's the decent blokes that get funny with you itsall, the ones who don't actually like being messed around. That means you are left with the nutters who like a challenge

Well, considering you are a cynic and you don't have much time for relationships or any kind of romantic stuff, do you think it could be a case of you not really being interested in dating at the moment?

I am only looking for sex..is that not dating?

Hmm that's a different kettle of fish then in that case. That's a shame that you find it so stressful, I mean it does piss me off now and then but I always seem to find decent ish people to chat to and it's more enjoyable than it is annoying/stress.

Out of approaching 50 dates over the years, I've only wanted to teleport out of there once or twice.. and I usually meet reasonably quickly without that much talking. Say within a few weeks at very most from the first message, more often within two weeks, and sometimes sooner.

I have nothing to say to follow that up with and I have NO idea what my point is. I think something along the lines of the men in your area being really crap, and bad luck combining! Or do you have a really specific type?

Right hopefully wont lose this post.

Hope your OK Watcch and Lubey. Ex memories are hard Lubey, I still struggle, I remember last Xmas dreading going shopping for presents as I used to have a brilliant time with my ex shopping.

I had a bit melt down Thursday night and still feel bad for shouting at my DD (although she did deserve it just not as shouty).

Itsall although you are trying to eek out the wierdos I do think it may come across as game playing si you will be left chatting to the unsuitables

oooh interesting one... I suppose it's sort of dating.

depends if you are 'only looking for sex' as in having them round and meeting them naked at the door and never seeing them again, or if you prefer a slightly more civilised drink first and shag later or on the next meet.

If it's the latter then yeah that's dating. The former really doesn't have any kind of date involved :o

I'm with you on the puppy hugging Itsme there's nothing better than snuggling up with the hound once the DC's have gone to bed.

I saw Mr Yacht last night. It was lovely. He said he feels scared of hi s feelings as he didn't expect to meet someone like me!! He brought me presents of wine, chocolate and candles and a present for the dog. I think abou him constantly and I can't wait to see him again but don't like to put the 'in love' label on it as the last time I though I was it all went horribly wrong as I realised I just didn't fancy him enough and thenbefore that I was in love with an abusive, manipulative twat

Its true I rarely come across local men who seem suitable...but generally I find that men my age tend to be pretty out of shape so I dont fancy them, younger men tend to be in better shape but I'm not keen if they're too much younger

Zany awww that's lovely. You don't have to label anything til you're ready, just go with the flow and enjoy it and these things and a bit more trust etc will eventually come as time moves along :o

I have to meet them first, I cant make the jump from complete stranger to lets get naked, I have to do it in stages
I just get so bored of having to make conversation with them, even if I do like them enough to shag them I find it hard work making conversation in between rounds

If it's only sex you're interested in you're probably far better off with a site like adult friend finder rather than the more traditional "dating" type sites.

So even though it's just sex you are after you like to mess them about a bit first to make sure they have the right temperament first. If it's just sex and not a relationship you are seeking does the temperament matter? Genuine question, I'm learning lots from this thread!

I'm thinking though you might do better asking for a cock pic, that should sort the wheat from the chaff!

Zany I love reading your updates. I think you may be restoring my faith in relationships just a little bit

Ahhhh zany I agree, don't label it anything until you feel comfortable to do so! Just enjoy!

sparks I do use 'casual' rather than trad dating sites :)

TimeTemperament matters because I dont want to put myself in a vulnerable position with a man who might easily turn unpleasant.
I dont need to know if he's long term relationship material but if I'm going to shag him I need to know asap that I can feel relaxed, comfortable and safe with him.
People who send unsolicited cock pics, or who have them as profile pics go straight in the 'cretin' pile!

That's good to hear Time, I don't want o come acroos as 'look at me I'm an a r' but at the same time I feel that you guys are friends who I want to share it with. He does seem very genuine and surprisingly for me feel that I can trust him [happy]

I love reading the updates too Zany! So glad you are happy :o

You don't come across as anything but loved up Zany and it's lovely . Mr Yacht sounds a really nice guy and I am so happy for you. You might even be our first dating thread bride!

You could be our first wedding on Skype zany!

OK now your all scaring me

I was just about to tell everyone off for potentially scaring you. Behave you lot!

Keep enjoying yourself Zany :o

Zany I'm pretty thrilled for you too. It gives us all hope!

Perhaps I should just ask him myself. I don't want to play games although I will admit, all things being equal, I prefer to be asked.

But I could be waiting forever here. And I'd rather just know....

Maybe he is just a little bit scared of rejection make and so is nervous of asking you. There's no harm in asking him if he fancies chatting over a coffee rather than a computer screen. He can only say no

Make, there could be a multitude of reasons why he's slow on the uptake and not asking you. Most of which are not bad!

Surely knowing is better than living in limbo. Just get him asked and be done with it! :)