''I just WISH I could find someone worthy of a proper relationship instead of a long stream of fuckwits" Dating chat #6

[lubeybooby]

here we go... all dating related chat HERE!

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it'sme .. i stopped looking .. and there are no queues

Hello fellow dater, I've met a few of you on another thread (hello again!) and have been lurking on this one for a while. I thought I'd de-lurk and join in the fun :)

This thread has been really enlightening and I've picked up a few tips already, I could do with a few more though as I've not been very successful so far...

I'm on PoF, FreeDatingUK, and Smooch. I only joined the last 2 recently and nothing's come of them so far. I've met a few guys through PoF but really, meh... Three of them were very, very dull, and two of these had a very negative outlook on life. Another one was OK, would have met him again but he obviously didn't feel the same and never contacted me again... Oh well... I've also had a few either not showing up on dates or going awol at the last minute.

Initially I put on my profile that I was only looking for "intimate encounters" but as this strategy didn't seem to be giving me very good results I have recently changed that to include dating and relationships. We'll see!

Have any of you ever been to these singles events that are periodically advertised on PoF? I am intrigued by these things, wonder what they are like...

Hello fellow daters (must preview...)

goddamn it. What's a body got to do for some love and companionship?

I think someone on the thread has been to one of the POF events, can't remember who, but iirc it wasn't an evening to remember

itsme, some of us don't even have a puppy to cuddle... I try to cuddle the DSs but they are increasingly unwilling!

Yes, I went to a POF meetup in my local bar. Was surprised they would arrange a singles night there so thought it was too good to miss. Took 3 girlfriends with me. We stayed for an hour and a half then left to go to other places to be amongst normal people instead of sad freaks.

Met up with a few from the POF meetup later at a club, well it was in the same building, and had to dodge them, they didn't take the hint so had to spell it out, still got a message on POF the next day!

Good luck with it. I would look on the site but avoid the meetups.

Thanks sponge and adam, I suspected they were full of saddoes, which is why I have never been to one! Will stick to the site then...

Sponge, high five, you remembered. It was actually memorable for the wrong reasons and I did meet a beautiful man out in town that night, wonder what happened to him?

I felt awful thinking this about the POF meetup but a few other people have expressed the same opinion of them so I know I'm not being horrible.

adams, I knew someone had been, wasn't sure who. I did remember that it wasn't that great though. There was one near me a few weeks ago, the photos of the confirmed guests were all far too odd & creepy for me to even consider going :)

just read and caught up.

just wanted to say you're all grand and please don't let numpties on dating sites hit your confidence.

chins up etc x

I had a lovely time with my date yesterday evening, I really like him and hope I don't let my insecurities wreck my chances. He has told his DD about me so there could be the backlash of year 11 students taking the mickey but I hope not. She came to my classroom yesterday lunchtime and collected something for her bff which was a little awkward (I didn't know she knew then!) but we shall see what Monday brings. Hopefully she will be mortified that her dad is dating a teacher and keep it to herself, but I doubt that is going to happen. Watch this space :).

morning everyone and for watch to dilute the rum.

glad it's going well daisy :) no dating news from me, another lovely lovely evening in with my platonic bf.. have decided men (in general) are rather stupid.

pof is the worst site going in my experience! My housemate had a torrid time on there. Stalkers,weirdos and plain strange people! With one bloke it got to the point i had to have a word on her behalf... :-0

I think sometimes if internet dating sites are proving to be rubbish it's maybe worth posting on a site you have a hobby or interest in. The emphasis isn't on meeting someone and at least if you hit it off with someone you've something in common.

lol, as in the song from mary poppins, when the mother comes back from the ' votes for women march' and sings ' we agree that as a group there're rather stupid' correct then... correct now! :)
glad you had a good evening snape.

Purple - bit awkward, but sounds like she ( and you ) handled it well.

adams- that was brave going to a pof meet up. i remember you saying how dire it was.

lubey - how are you this morning? sorry about how you felt last night. Probably due to the time of year. Go easy on yourself... its ok to feel like that sometimes.

sponge - i ususally go with ' thought id say hi, so, er, hi :) ' its lame, tbh i dont think it much matters what you write, they will either look at your picture and reply if they like it... or not.

i feel alot better this morning. All cried out now though i still cant believe the level of betrayal. However, realising our whole relatonship was based of lies makes it veryvery easy to unravel it all and have no feelings any more.
He assured me yesterday that he didnt tell me he had brought the flat. I knew he had.. i went through old texts yesterday and found the one that says ' im going to have to pospone coming to see you because im moving friday, ive just brought a flat, cant believe how quickly its gone through'.
I forwarded it to him with a few choice and very nasty words designed to hit him where it hurts.
i feel better for doing that. I refuse to sit and cry and play the victim, i may have been knocked down for a few hours yesterday, but you cant keep me down. fuck him.

I shall go on my date next weekend :)
Im going to remain off the dating sites for a while though.

Tents pants also text me to say he hopes we can stay in contact ( aka... i would like to sleep with you in the future) and can we still chat. I said if he wanted to. I WILL NOT sleep with him again, he can fuck off too.

and er, thats about it. Off to the cinema with my DD, mother and step dad later today to see arthur christmas, then dinner at frankie and bennies. Its our ' kick off the xmas season' thing. :)

I think the worst one is smooch.

Typical messages in my experience:

Smooch - hay hunni howz u? lyke yr titz bbe wna date? xxxxxxxxx

PoF - hi

OkCupid - long, decent messages with a few marriage proposals from egyptians thrown in and the odd 'nsa fun' type message from someone with a cock/torso pic.

Match - no messages at all because all the men are too tight to pay subs. So just winks instead

Guardian Soulmates - As above

Eharmony - Same as GS and Match

KidsNoObject - same as GS and match AND they send you annoying mail IN CAPITALS ALL THE TIME

Watch, I'm feeling much better thank you can't keep me down for long either. I'm so glad you're feeling better too, well done gorgeous

Cinema and F&B's sounds very good, I might have to aim to do something similar next week!

yeah, we always try and do something like that, mum and step dad wanted to come along this year as they like the idea.

The next weekend i have dd ( 4th dec i think) we will be putting up decorations and going to vist fc and the reindeer at this fantastic barn in the middle of knowwhere (joys of being rural) and this fab vintage xmas market in snape.

then the last weekend ( 17/18 dec) we will be incing the cake... and well, then its xmas.

having the last word makes me feel better :) as does letting him know for a fact he is 100% a total bullshiter ( because i showed him the proof) Leaves no doubt in his mind that i believed any of his shit.
There is little point feeling crap about someone who treated me so badly, they would have only of won. Im not a victim. I may get knocked down occassionally, but not for long. Fuck him.

He also now knows that i know who his gf is... so he can worry about that. AND he knows that i could professionally ruin his crediability as well. I wont, im a decent person, but i could.... and that will also worry him. Tis his own doing.......

Watch, glad you are going on the date. Just meet for a chat and a drink, nothing else until you both decide you like each other. Have you just got the one DD? Your day sounds great. It's a special relationship between single mum and a DD isn't it? Mine is just about grown up now but we still spend lots of time together.

Daisy, sounds like Waterloo Road :) Also very promising.

I could do with some more sleep, only got up earlier to see DD off.

watch... icing the cake? More information?

Hi everyone

lubey and watch, I'm pleased you are both feeling better. Men are just not worth ruining your looks for, they really aren't. I look so much better without the eyebags and downturned mouth that graced my face when I lived with The Ex. So, keep smiling and keep moving forwards

All is well here, another 3lb lost this week so I'm pleased about that. We are going to see Arthur Christmas this afternoon too watch with my friend and her DD. I'm looking forward to it, I can't wait for Christmas and this will nicely get us in the mood.

As for men being stupid. Yes. They. Are. You only have to look at the women on this thread, women who are gorgeous, intelligent, good fun, all of whom have been used and abused in some way by stupid men who don't know a good thing when they've got it. The sad truth is there seems to be a lot of them out there too, and most of them seem to be on dating sites by the sound of it!

PoppaRob I feel really mean stating men are stupid when you are on the thread. I do think the fact you are on our thread means you are the exception to the rule so I declare you UNstupid

poppa - icing the xmas cake :) Not many people in my family eat it, so we do a joint effort one. Mother made it about a month ago, my sister will be feeding it with whiskey, weekly until the 18 dec, where we will ice it. We are just doing marzipan, white fondant icing and then DD has free rein, it shall be an astrocitity of dodgy looking snowmen and squished presents with lots of snow all about and reindeer footprints. ( her current plan) Shes 5, she will love it, and well, thats what its all about. Cake then gets cut into 3'rds for us to take each. Its a good way of doing it.

well done on the weight loss time and have fun at the cinema.

To be fair there are plenty of stupid women out there too!

And some of them are just as sly,devious and capable of causing hurt as any man!

Sending to you both Watch and Lubey. Glad you're both feeling better.

You can't keep a good woman down, that's what I say

Well Sparks1, POF is at least free and going on dates with nobbers isn't compulsory just because you have a profile on there. I have mainly found that the men I've met from it are nice enough, just abit dull for my tastes, so they haven't progressed to more than one date. That doesn't make me sly or devious IMO.