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Hmm. I'd be interested in what others think, but if you get on really well with him I'd text or call him asap, tell him that you've accidentally sent him an email that contains very personal info (don't need to say it's about you) and that you'd really appreciate it if he'd delete it without reading it. I think most people I know would delete (but that may just be because most lawyers have, as juniors, either (i) sent a confidential document to the wrong recipients by mistake; or (ii) received a confidential document by mistake and reflected on what an awful experience that would be. I guess there's a risk that it will make him more likely to read the email - but that's likely to happen as a default anyway, don't you think?

If he's a blackberry addict I'd contact him asap.

Daisy well done on Day 2.
Don't worry about the sleep - it comes.

What part of the outfit didn't you like?
Perhaps -
Skinny jeans and a different top?
Longer boots?

Just remember not wearing the right clothes is still far better than falling over and tearing them (yes, I have done)

Hope everyone is doing good.
All good here, definitely 100% recovered from bug last week.

Off to bed. Up early for the pavement pounding!

X posted with loads, will go and read now!

ma

Think Legal has given very sound advice.
Call him or text and ask him to delete without reading. Beg that you have put personal stuff in it. If he is worth his salt and you get on well he will I am sure. But I totally get where you are coming from. Hate that sick feeling that goes with screwing up . Twil be fine, just breathe.

noooooo, can't call him at this time of night. he has a Blackberry. he will read it. he will piss himself laughing at me - I am mortified, mortified! I can't recall it. I can't face him. I can't wear the dress with him knowing how insecure I feel about wearing it. I am MORTIFIED!!!!

oh, and make it clear that the info is really personal in a serious way rather than merely embarrassing. You need to sound serious: if you giggle it will increase the temptation for him to read it.

Text him then. at least there's a chance he won't read it, and if he does then it will at least make it difficult for him to mention it.

Re dress - if he's anything like my DH, there will be a brief moment of "god women are weird, what is she going on about it's a dress FFS" and very little further reflection on the subject.

Deep breaths....

he will read it! we have a good relationship and a lot of banter and he won't be able to resist getting one over on me. but this isn't banter/work-related stuff - this is personal and i don't need him knowing I have self-esteem issues about looking nice. i don't want him to know that i refer to a key client as MILFman and that i think he's going to look sexy in a tux......oh GOD!!!!

Ma,

I would feel really embarassed too! But I think what I would do when I saw him next is laugh. Make it a big joke and it will soon be forgotten about. Oh, just seen your next message about not being banter etc. Seriously, will he care that you have self esteem issues? I know for a fact that my boss wouldn't. I would really just have to mae a big joke about it all.

legalalien, it's the skinny jeans I'm most comfortable with. But when I put on normal bootcut ones I just looked old. I was wanting to look a little bit modern :)

Sorry for typos!

Off to bed now. I'm reading the most fantastic book "Left Neglected" Will read for quite a while so I feel more than ready to sleep. Nice to be on day 2 AF though. Very nice indeed

aargh - still have a monstrous pile of work to do but think I'm going to have to admit defeat, make a fennel tea and turn in (perhaps do some more reading in bed...). Tempted to turn on the TV to see if the eurozone has melted down completely yet - but after last night's backbench debate-a-thon (referendum debate) I had better not tempt fate..

demonicma - best of luck for tomorrow.

night all.

if he's a relaxed, easy going guy he will laugh ma. he'll see the milf stuff etc as just girls talking to girls, no big deal stuff same as you'd see it if you saw something between two blokes talking in their way of relaxed talking. swim?

legal gave great advice and was seriously quick on the clear thinking business. i need your number in case i'm ever in trouble legal

a barrister once gave me their number with a promise i could use it 'if ever' whose handbag i picked up in london as i came out of a club and managed to get it back to her the next day via all manner of tracking down and
she sent me her number

my post got swallowed and posted with half missing. arghhh.

is anyone around?

Morning all,
We're off to the nearby Children's Literature Festival today, pretentious, us? It sounds like a story time for primary school aged children with a posh name!
sAf was everything ok last night?
ma if you couldn't sort it out last night I would get in there first thing, cards on the table, and apologise, saying that the mileage thing was a joke and you are utterly mortified about that. The embarrassment can be sorted at a later date. If the client used MILF about you, then he looks in the wrong really. And if you'd been drinking when you sent it, you can add it to the list of things that will provide evidence, when you're ready, about how unmanageable life is with drink in it.
Daisy I think you've done great on day 2. I struggle to look anything other than boringly professional or motherly - and need to lose some weight so no style advice here, where is jwn or Mouse, we need them!

It's sooo dark - at least we get a brief reprieve from this next week even if the evenings will be depressing. Love to all. x

thanks guys
boss isn't in today so its going to hang over me all day....I had had one glass of wine when i sent it but I said this in the email to my "friend" along the lines of "house quiet tonight so tackling a bottle of red". I didn't drink the whole bottle but he will think I sent the email in error because I was pissed, which makes it even worse.
I keep picturing him going to his computer, opening his email.........
I keep thinking, what would I do if the boot was on the other foot? Just say nothing and pretend it didn't happen to spare blushes?
Telling myself it could have been worse - I didn't make any comments about him personally etc, but still.......I feel sick!

Hi everyone,

ma can you call boss today and get it over and done with. Hold your head up, even if you are faking it. Honestly, it will come as no surprise to any man that women have an internal monologue that they know nothing about - and they don't really care. Tell him to delete it and if he's read it, just laugh and say you bet he wished you'd called him earlier then. And you HAVE to wear the dress because I know you will look amazing in it. Do not let this become a reason to not wear it. Have you sorted out your bra yet? You know that silver will drive the bus to you and kidnap you to do it if not?

Isinde am so sorry I have not been in touch ... once the hell of work finishes I will I promise.

Mouse please stay away from the garage. And the bottle. I'm serious. Can you hold off drinking till you get all the test results from your falls? Can you tell the doc that despite the results from the liver test you are struggling not to drink. I am only being bossy because I care ((( ))) LittleGee is much better now thank you. She has been a ray of sunshine this week.

Daisy try switching the top, might work better. Something soft and floaty? (Phase Eight has some very flattering gypsy tops in the sale - I have them in two colours - look good with jeans and are uber flattering. However, they might be a bit middle aged for you!)

saf

All ok here. Day 5 I think. Work is ticking along. Stopped yesterday to get DD, started the second she went to bed, slept and am here again. Two major crises for one client with their biggest funder yesterday which I managed to resolve . I don't think I would have had my clear thinking, phone juggling, problem solving head on had I been hungover. Need to do another marathon work session today and tmrw and then the month of hell is OVER.

Then I will focus on the important things in life: baking biscuits, skipping in leaves and finding a ghostly MN NN. Till then my fellow passengers, love, strength and wisdom to you all. xx

Morning all,

Ma What the others said .
The worst your text shows is that you have a bit of a lack of self confidence with regard to the dress, and the "do", nothing that your boss hasn't overheard around the office from others about themselves I imagine. In fact it shows you in a better light than if you had sent a self aggrandising, I'm so great message, it just shows you are human.
You must go to the ball!! You will look fab. As I think I mentioned I bought an elegant, understated (read boring!) frock for Dc1's graduation, because I thought that was what everyone else would be wearing (I don't know why I thought that, it's not very fair to the other mums), and just felt like a big old frump all day. You rock them, girl .

I feel achy and tired today, I went to the dentist yesterday, to have a filling replaced, I haven't had any work done to my teeth apart from check ups for about 35 years!, and I was so tense and stressed out, that today I feel as though I've had a work out in the gym!!
I also still feel pretty queasy about the episode with my tutor. I'm glad I faced it up, and went to the lunch, but it's made me feel really sick about going back, so I'm going to "la la" about college work today, and have a day off.

Isinde your story made me laugh, did you see the item on television a while ago, where they were filming on the floor of a financial institutionand they caught a chap looking at pictures of Jennifer Lopez or someone, on their screen when they shoud have been dealing?
How are you feeling today?

Saf How are you today?

legal I hope your night wasn't too late.

Daisy well done on day 2, you will feel the benefits in a big way soon.

Bafanga I am in awe of your commitment to running, I have been very lax with the swimming this past couple of weeks, but must get back to it, as I feel so much more awake afterwards.

Noteven your day sounds lovely, anything with a storybook in it, sounds good to me!

Mrsmousiethemouseface How are you, and the lovely Nemo. Did Nemo sleep ok at your SILs?

Venus How are things with you, I hope DD is not in so much pain now.

Silver

Sorry to anyone I've missed, I haven't written such a long post in ages, and will be filling up the thread, if I carry on .

Oh, I've been meaning to ask JWN is DD's wedding theme still the same?, or have you been waylaid by new ideas at the wedding fayre?

much love to all
xxx

Day off from spelling and grammar too

X posted Msgee Hello!

sigh have emailed the boss telling him to get it over and done with and I can't take the suspense any more......
will let you know the response.....

fingers crossed ma. i second all that isindie said - he'll put it down to 'women' talk. be handy if that can work for us for once rather than against

msgee good luck ploughing through the work and well done on day 5. not well done on sending me on a detour of looking at phase eight sale.

yes i'm ok - thanks to those who asked. think i was looking for someone to tell me off or something last night.

day 1. i hope.

i had a couple of dresses just arrive from blue banana - a friend recommended their stuff as very flattering. it came beautifully packaged with little lollies inside so obviously ds's favourite clothes retailer now. fingers crossed they will look ok - seem to spend my life sending things back at the minute that just aren't right.

hmm black one = safe, slimming, very safe 'me'.
teal wraparound = scary, feel all on show and 'look at me' in it.

dilemma - keep the teal because i should wear it, it's different, it probably looks nice or send it back because i'll end up never wearing it and it will sit staring accusingly at me in the wardrobe till i finally pass it on.

Just jumping on the bus, hope you are all OK.

How are things with your DD at home permanently Noteven

MOuse when do you get your results

Hi Silver

Ma don't beat yourself up, its a mistake lots of us have done. I once accidently sent a joke email round to everyone at work not realising that the last joke was something to do with a funeral and being off work - I didn't see this until it was too late and I had sent it to a colleague who's husband had just bee diagnosed with terminal cancer!

I am good, been on a few dates recently and have been making sure they are sober ones . Still managing to control my drinking. Been spending lots of quality time with my DC's going on long walks with the hound and trying new things with them.

response came back thus:

I am still ROFLMAO with tears rolling down my face

I will be able to use this cock up for months if not years to come

:)
L

Saf go for the teal one. and get a good bra . I am going to get one this week - might as well seeing as the boss knows all about it now anyway.