Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

End result I mean not at the time

blimey you lot can talk..

from a v v quick skim through, have gathered that snape had a good date (any news from him yet? and can someone pm me the link so I can have a look perve at him too!), charlottes has a date tonight, and make has suffered a painful waxing...(you're braver than me, am a waxing virgin, too too scared of the pain)

I need help. Gorgeous man messaged me tonight. Looks yes, but seriously conversationally challenged, what can I ask him to get something other than yes as a reply?!

Actually I should just say fancy a date on Friday in the hope he might have more to say for himself face to face!

Hatesponge yep that's what I did with BoR

He was on pof on his phone so typing was a PITA and getting answers out of him useless. He is great to talk to on the phone and in person though

Sponge, Same with one I've been messaging. Not alot to say for himself and might find out if he has more chat face to face.

Haven't arranged an actual time and place yet and I'm slowly going off the idea. Got so much on atm .a couple of unpleasant thing too, that I'm not feeling upbeat. Also the thought of working 5 days a week very soon is upsetting me.

not a word! bad doctor. I don't care. Ii got to drool. :)

have messaged him that I had a smashing time and if nothing else, I have an afficiando...and how clever ofhim to realise the best first date ever is a fiver lunch and a trawl around forbidden planet...the ball is firmly in his court, but oh! the amount of hot male friends I have that I 'secretly' lust after who won't shag me. Do i need another? does anyone who isn't a 50+ year old white van man with a vocabulary that centers around 'babes', 'arsenal' and daily mail homilies actually want to even consider getting in my knickers?

i don't like the after date bit.

if anyone still needs links to his profile, please just pm me...I'm around now. :)

Snapes, I know exactly what you mean. Looking on my FB friends list I have 14 unnattached female friends who I'd shag in a flash, 6 of whom I've dated at least once but been relegated to the dreaded friends category. One of them even created a profile on Oasis and sent me a contact request yesterday. We spent a few hours chatting off and on last night and she gave me the old "it'd be a shame to spoil such a long friendship" line and then proceeded to tell me the main reason she'd added me was so I could help her find her way around the system and get any tips on ID! This is a woman I've know for over 15 years and always got on well with, had one of her sons in my age group at surf life saving, propped each other up emotionally through marriage breakdowns, generally been there in the background. Maybe there's just a point in time where friendships are so long-lasting that they have to stay as friendships?

On the contrary I think it's good to have been friends first when it comes to relationships.... Maybe she thinks a relationship wouldn't work though so it would end up just being sex and making friendship awkward

Snape I think I officially got myself my very first male friend I will secretly lust after but who won't shag me, in Mr Friday. I'm sure I haven't been in this situation before because I aim too low and with my new standards I could see this happening a lot. Sigh.

lubey, maybe it's just me, but I have no problem with the concept of taking a friendship a bit further to see what happens, and if it doesn't work winding it back a notch. A few of my female friends would be fantastic for at least short term relationships, but they want to stick to just being friends.

Hurrah make you are no longer a waxing virgin! Brazilian is the landing strip and most off underneath barr the very...back I only ever have the front and undersides done, can't bear how itchy it can get when the hair starts growing back in! Hopping around with your hands in your pants just isn't a cool look for anyone

Lubey - well at least mr Friday was honest and did get back to you. Maybe as gig buddies perhaps there could be a slow burner thing?! Never know.

Sneeeeeeeeezing fit. I am clearly allergic to winter.

BeNaughty has to be a scam doesn't it? I created a profile with no info and no photo and I'm getting winks and messages from 23 year old hardbodies!

Well I got back from Mr 22ft boat at 12.30am and haven't slept a wink all night. OK lets get to the nitty gritty here.....cons: looks his age (55), bit of a belly, crunches when he eats, walks a bit funny.......pros: we talked for 4.5 hrs non stop, he's very clever, very funny, very open, flattering, listens to me and doesn't butt in, good kisser ...oh and did i mention the 22ft boat, the 3 bed pad down in weymouth and the bmw? And the fact that he would like me to go to Dubai with him a week on Thursday?????

charlottes!!!!!

well, take all the nice toys out of the equation and imagine that he's a ...window cleaner. would you?

Am chatting away to the doctor still. I think I will up my flirting a little. :)

snape definitely up the flirting..men love it!! Now if Mr 22ft was a window cleaner I defo wouldn't go for it - only because I've been on all the POF/free sites and have't met my match intellectually on there, and one of my tick boxes is that they have to be interesting, worldly wise, ambitious etc. But if he didn't happen to be a Director of a very large organisation but was, sayyyyy....an accountant, lawyer, doctor, lecturer..then I would still be interested. The car, yacht and seaside pad doesn't interest me.

Morning everyone

Lubey I think the fact Mr Friday has been in touch means you made an impression and you are obviously in his mind. I mean, my Friday date is long forgotten, the face, the non personality is anyway, I can still remember the gum! I think he may be tempted you know BUT, i do like the sound of your window cleaner. And I bet he has a tele!

CM be careful! Just that. Don't be flying off to Dubai without letting us check him out first! After wart man and 8" cock man I cannot help but worry about your judgement No offence!

snape I'm pleased to hear you and the doctor are chatting. Ask him if you can have the next available appointment to see him

As for the friendship thing, I think it would be lovely to have a long term friend who becomes a lover. I can't think of anything nicer to be honest but that's probably just me.

Getting really fed up of POF. Got a bit of a possessive one who has already decided we are going to meet. Today he will be meeting the rest of the blokes in my block list!

CM does he rent out his Weymouth pad for summer holidays by any chance. Mates rates of course

Oh it would be glorious to have a long term friend that turned into a lover. I have a candidate in mind, but I suspect it won't ever 'go there'! I agree with Poppa, I think it is a sign of maturity and an enduring friendship that means people can go back to being 'just friends' rather than Lovers. I'm Ok with that. As with all things if you don't take that step, you'll never find out.

Oh I totally agree with everything you say in your post snape. Just that.

Still waiting for a reply from Mr Friday after (gently) delivering the news that actually, I did fancy him. I did add there was no need to feel awkward because I knew what he told me anyway and was more than fine with it.

I'm not taking it personally that he thought there was no particular spark, he has 'awards' on okc from two women who he has clearly had a date with but then just been friends, and he has mentioned two dates over the weekend that won't be going anywhere. I think he is just hard work and virtually impossible to please romantically, because I've seen the profiles of the ones that gave awards and they look great, intelligent etc, and I'm sure there was nothing wrong with his two weekend dates either. Looks like he is even fussier than me! And yes Time I'm pleased that I'm not just forgotten. Damn right too, I astonished myself with how good I managed to look that night and I held my own really well with him in deep, braintwisting conversation. Glad I didn't give myself brainache and faff about with fake tan and airbrush legs for nothing

Poppa I'd have no problem giving it a try - but then I'm the kind of person who is good at putting feelings aside and being friends still if things go wrong. I know some people aren't and she might be one of them.

Charlottes he sounds nice. If he ticks the boxes then I'd give it a go. I know I have a clear idea of what I'm looking for, but I'm open minded about what package Mr Right comes wrapped up in physically

Snape definitely up the flirting :o

Sounds very tempting Charlottes, just try not to be swayed by the extras (boat, dubai) although it does sound like you got on well chatting for over 4 hours and the good kissing is a bonus

I've only ever once had a normal bikini wax and it was painful. I have since had my bikini line lasered which was painful but permanent.

Things could still work with Mr Friday Lubey, you have obviously made a big enough impression for him to want to remain in contact, just try to see him as a gig buddy and see how things go.

Any plans for a second date Snape

I am now seeing Madmax from POF next Tuesday as he rang last night and he has to work late today, spoke to him for about half an hour last night and while the conversation flowed I didn't like his accent - shallow or what.

Oh and Mr Yacht has asked me out (dances around the office)

Nooo CM, if you want to go to Dubai, go with your family, your gf, pay for yourself. Not with some old duffer that you obviously are not physically interested in and certainly not one who asks you this the first time you meet. I've been btw and it was a fabulous holiday. Not somewhere I would chose to go but a relative of mine was working for Emirates Airline at the time. Very glittery with lovely beaches and hot.

Must admit I have a few men on fb that are friends but I wouldn't shag, not in a million years. If I did I wouldn't be single now. Always the case for me, ones I don't fancy would be there for me like a shot and the ones I do only want to casual thing.

'Nooo CM, if you want to go to Dubai, go with your family, your gf, pay for yourself. Not with some old duffer that you obviously are not physically interested in and certainly not one who asks you this the first time you meet.'

that. exactly.

No plans for a second date as yet - well, not officially although it was spoken of yesterday (as was third date!) it's not official until it's in writing i think.

lubey as he has agreed to be a gig buddy you need a gig to go to. He may just need a little reminder of what it is to let his hair down and have some fun. I've come across a few men who have a list of what they are looking for and are sticking to it, therefore doing themselves out of some potentially good shags dates. If you think he may be worth it then you could be the one to give him the reality check that some of these men need. One I've just been chatting to has had well over 30 dates with women he considers to be lovely, tick most of the boxes but not all of them, so he dumps them! I fear he will be single for a long time to come.

CM what adamschic and snape said.

Just a thought but do any of you have male friends on facebook that I would shag you think are nice enough to share? I have room for more if you do

My friend who I saw last night is perfect. I'm trying to get him on OK Cupid (He's not on FB) and will let you know if I do. On my FB there is a guy with the initials NF who is single, possibly a little wet behind the ears at times but good looking etc.

Time yes that sounds like him. I am awaiting his first recommendation for one to go to, he said he hasn't any planned at the moment but I will give him a shove in the right direction if he doesn't get back to me soon.

CM what adamschic, snape and time said - I'm not one for refusing genuine generosity with someone you're seeing, but you aren't at that stage yet so it's a leeetle bit early to be swanning off just yet. You will need to know him well enough to know he doesn't think he owns you.