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Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

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lubeybooby · 12/10/2011 15:14

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

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prettypurpledaisy · 16/10/2011 14:31

Good luck snape :)

Makeyerowndamndinner · 16/10/2011 14:32

Ah that's fab Snapes - hope it all goes well!

I'm on GS too.

The bloke that has messed me around is anderoooo if you want to avoid him er, check him out.

Is that ok to say that? I don't want to slag him off really. He wasn't great to me but he might be perfect for someone else if he was properly into them I guess....

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 14:37

oh! he came up as a match for me. didn't like the look of him! of course it's ok to slag him off warn me off! i appreciate it! :)

adamschic · 16/10/2011 14:38

Snape, woohoo! Look forward to hearing how it goes, he must be quite special for you to agree to a date.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 14:39

Yay! Snapes Go for it!!

Course it's ok to name and shame Make it's what we do every day!

Makeyerowndamndinner · 16/10/2011 14:47

Really Snapes? I thought he was gorgeous... (wanders off thinking maybe she needs some glasses....)

ChildofIsis · 16/10/2011 14:50

Can I join?

I'm newly single and not sure what to do or where to go.
Was with ex since 15 years old so never been on the dating scene.

Now I'm 43 and it's like I'm 15 again, iykwim!

I'm still in emotional fall-out from ex leaving but get a sense that I need to start being 'visible' sooner rather than later.

Makeyerowndamndinner · 16/10/2011 14:53

Hello there ChildofIsis, and welcome. Smile

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lubeybooby · 16/10/2011 14:54

Hi CoI

I'd recommend you get started with okcupid. User friendly, free and fewer twats than on other sites (still a few though Wink )

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Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 15:02

make he is good looking, looks clean and presentable, so obviously not my type! Wink

adams he likes classic doctor who! if nothing else we can geek each other silly.

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 15:09

and Hi CoI :)

hatesponge · 16/10/2011 15:18

snape exciting! hope it goes well Grin

re the distance thing, it does kind of depend on what you're used to. I have friends who live in v v rural areas (20 min drive to nearest shop - and just a small convenience store, not supermarket - that kind of thing) and they expect to have to travel for everything, iyswim.

Whereas people like my Ex (the evil tosser, more about him in a minute) are used to living in London, with everything on their doorstep, and never having to travel more than 10-15 mins, and anything further afield is a bit outside their comfort zone.

And re my Ex, those on my FB will have seen he's taking me to court to sell the house. Nice of him Hmm It's a bit of a relief though as I've known he was plotting something for ages. At least now I know, and can fight it...looking forward to showing him up in court for the liar he is!

on the dating front, have a couple of possibles in the wings. Also been messaged for the 3rd time (in as many months) by a 23 year old. Have always ignored him so far, as I think he's too young, but his persistence is wearing me down!

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 15:28

sponge I think you should respond positively to the 23 year old! If I am actually going.on.a.date (did i mention!? Wink) then everyone else has to be equally reckless brave as well.

Angry at your scummy wank-stain ex.

i'm excited. DD is on her way home from Camdem market to tell me what the hell to wear.

adamschic · 16/10/2011 15:31

Sponge, sorry to hear about the house situation, I'm sure you know where you stand legally [hwink]. Sounds like you are curious re the 23 yr old. Go on reply.

Ha snape Dr Who fan is perfect for you.

Welcome to COI.

I need a new dating site. I just changed my search to lower the age limits and had a good look through and there is no-one that I would touch with a barge pole. If the photo looks acceptable they usual cannot spell correctly etc. I'm in the sticks and don't want to pay so that's why I'm on POF. Might even look at GS, in desperation.

wrigglytummy · 16/10/2011 15:33

Snape great news, good luck.
CM I'm impressed at the speed of your work, I need to redouble my efforts on my Plan B.

Sadly due to plans that are already in place (non-dating, family stuff!) I may not be able to get a date and I'm worried I may miss my opportunity, in my vast 2 weeks experience of ID I think you need to strike whilst the iron is hot and get the first meet done so you do not waste time on mingers unsuitable men.

wrigglytummy · 16/10/2011 15:35

Hello CoI Smile

PoppaRob · 16/10/2011 15:53

Hi CoI. Well done being all proactive and moving on. Just remember (as Charlie said in 2 1/2 Men) things have changed a bit since you last dated. These days the woman pays for everything and sex is a given. Wink

PoppaRob · 16/10/2011 16:30

Goodnight all!

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 16:32

night Poppa. :) wishing ou the best dreams! :)

adamschic · 16/10/2011 16:34

Went through the 'wants to meet you' on POF out of desperation and someone caught my eye. Found him in my inbox from a couple of weeks ago, I had ignored his first message so decided to say hi! The message must have crossed his second message trying again.

He's using text speak but might be worth a meeting. Should I wait until we've met to tell him to 'stop already with the freaking txt spk'. Think this one might be worth a hasty meetup rather than long meaniful messages/poetry etc Grin.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:35

Hi CoI.

I must be getting old. I just nodded off again, so missed last part of Xfactor again! Hmm

Sorry to hear of your troubles with the ex sponge Mine has got his twatty twat hard face on at the moment which makes me expect some sort of trouble. He likes to try and throw his weight around every now and again. Usually when he notices me looking gawgus and happy. Sad bastard man. Anyway, I hope you are ok with things and trying not to let it get you down. And what snape says re the 23 year old. Give him a go! Wink

That reminds me, did I hear right? Snape has a date tomorrow? Grin

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:36

Hi CoI.

I must be getting old. I just nodded off again, so missed last part of Xfactor again! Hmm

Sorry to hear of your troubles with the ex sponge Mine has got his twatty twat hard face on at the moment which makes me expect some sort of trouble. He likes to try and throw his weight around every now and again. Usually when he notices me looking gawgus and happy. Sad bastard man. Anyway, I hope you are ok with things and trying not to let it get you down. And what snape says re the 23 year old. Give him a go! Wink

That reminds me, did I hear right? Snape has a date tomorrow? Grin

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:37

OOh, I didn't do that!! Google killed the page but yet posted twice Hmm

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:39

adamschic are you lowering your standards? Are you? I mean, txt speak! I would tell him now that you don't like text speak. If he tells you to fuck off doesn't take it very well then don't meet. If he apologises profusely then report back and we will reconsider Grin Text speak implies 'lazy' to me. But that's just me.

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lubeybooby · 16/10/2011 16:44

My bit of rough does the odd bit of txt spk, I forgive him though seeing as he is using a phone that's a PITA to type on. That is the ONLY exception I'm ever making :o

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