Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

[lubeybooby]

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

PoopaRob has a nice ring to it. And much easier to type for some reason. [hgrin]

samhaircin don't feel embarrassed or guilty or any such other emotion. Just cancel. Tell him after giving it some further thought you have decided you don't want a second date. You don't have to justify yourself but if he asks why just tell him that there was no spark for you and you don't want to waste his time. Ignore any further texts he may send. No further contact. Be assertive!!

izzy LMFAO!!!!! and pooprob lol....visions of you on the treadmill wanking, arf!!!!!

Anyway ladies....PLAN B has been put in motion and I have a coffee date tomorrow evening. At Watford Gap service station cos its half way and I don't know the area. I'm a bit worried that we might be on opposite sides of the motorway though lol!!

OK to give you a brief....been chatting on msn for a few days. He's alot older than me (10 yrs) but he looks in good shape, seems to have hair and teeth lol, is a top nob (not literally I hope) at the place he works (Birmingham) and has a place down in Weymouth. He has a fab sense of humour and hasn't mentioned body hair, the size of his cock, or anything like that yet. Oh and I checked whether his mum is still alive and she dies 1997 and his dad in 2005, he hasn't got a hedge and he's got a wart on his leg.

He sounds extremely normal CM! Go for it! :)

Oooh I love Weymouth.....................

What time is your coffee date Charlotte?

Checking in once again - still away but conference has ended and I'm taking a few days on my own here, which is lovely!

I sent an email to Geordie about lack of communication - he replied in quite a few paragraphs. He's not a prolific texter/emailer, isn't looking for anyone else but is worried about distance (we live 45 min drive from each other) The distance could be problem on top of work and family commitments, not on it's own. He also said, he has no intention to unhide profile/re-add pics which is a good thing, I guess

Now, I can see his point a bit. He works some days/some nights and I work similar - our shift pattern will take some forward planning but I think it's doable. Then added to the mix shared care of his child, I think it could be a little tricky. I did point out that as my family are all adults, I have more time to travel at night and more freedom

So that's where we have left it. We have penciled in for dinner on thurs, with possible lunch on weds

Disappointed as if he wanted to start a relationship, distance/work/child wouldn't be such an issue, I don't think but then I am an overthinker and a major forward planner! Comes with my career lol

45 minutes is nothing Cello! My closest decent shopping centre is half an hour away and I'm there a few times a week.

cello ffs 45 mins is nothing!! I live in Bedfordshire and here people do a 2hr minimum commute just to go to work every day (in London). I would think about whether you want to continue with this? And if he isn't a prolific emailer/texter why was he on a dating site? (was he? can't remember your back story).

Agree with poppa (can I call you poopa now?) - i live in a village and it takes me 30 mins just to get to the supermarket and 25 mins to get my daughter to school.

If you must CM, but I'd rather you didn't.

I know 45 mins is pityfull lol but I do see some of the problem. He works 45 mins in the other direction and has a very odd shift pattern and a small child 50% of the time. I also work in completely different direction lol

It's 45 mins at 1am in reality - 90 mins on a bad day, large part of M25 is involved. I did the journey in 45 mins, it took him hour 15 on saturday

But, now I know this could cause an issue, I'm not so uptight about it all. If he can't be arsed, there's not much I can do

He is being a wimp Cello... agree 45 mins is really nothing.

Yeah but many people have successful relationships with very odd shift patterns!! I work 2 nights a week and 3 days and have my children 50% of the time but still manage to have a social shagging life!!

Is he really into you?

Is it considered rude to continue to contact people on pof whe you have agreed to a 2nd date?
Complete novice at this :)

Where there is a willy there is always a way!

I wonder too if he is really into you/the relationship.

I don't think it is considered rude at this stage daisy. You have to have back up's in case this one turns out to be a flop.

No daisy it's fine until the 'exclusive' chat when/if it happens.

I'm happy will accept being to be someone's plan B, C, D, E or any other letter. At least I'd be in with a sniff! :-)

daisy... until you've discussed some form of exclusivity or partnership I think it's fine to have a backup plan.

Thanks ladies, just wanted to check it wasn't bad form to continue looking.

I have a date! tomorrow! for lunch! I only started talking to him yesterday, but he's in London for the day and goes back to the south coast on tuesday morning. Nothing ventured & all that, I will get my moneys worth from GS!

This is terrifying! this is the first 'first-date' i have been on in... living memory. My kids dad and I used to work together & copped-off in the pub after work. The guy I went out with after he and I finished was also a work colleague on a drunken night out.

aaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh!!!

Oooh good luck Snape :o

date! date! date! date! eeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

I will not go to the lengths of shaving my legs or fanny topiary, but the chin-hairs have to go!

he's 34! practically a child!! eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

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