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Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

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lubeybooby · 12/10/2011 15:14

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

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lubeybooby · 16/10/2011 16:45

Should add I did bring it up and said I don't usually meet people that txt spk at me and he explained about the phone. He also said he never would have done if he thought it risked putting me off :o

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adamschic · 16/10/2011 16:46

Time, yes I'm lowering my standards. I've look on GS and whilst the men on there appear to be intelligent there aren't many in my area and the ones that are have ticked the 25-45 age box. So won't waste my money. Also on POF I've tried to weed out the text speakers and look for an intelligent one (needle/haystack) I never fancy them when we meet. This ones look a bit of rough!

Lol at Poppa and the dating tips, sweet dreams.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:51

Don't lower your standards adamschic You are allowed to relax them a little, as lubey has done with her bit of rough Grin but not to the extent that you are settling for someone just because he's there iyswim?

I might have a look at GS myself, see what it has to offer. I'm thinking I should be aiming higher Grin

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 16:56

nowt wrong with a bit of rough! Wink

yes! i have a date! daaay-yut! daaaay-yut!

we're going for lunch in covent garden! I will be in such a state of excitement tomorrow that I shall be utterly impossible! even more so than usual. he's 6ft 3! he might even have all his own teeth! Grin

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:57

Just had a search of the guys in my area on GS I'm not sure I would be aiming any higher with that lot. At least POF is free.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 16:59

Ooh I love Covent Garden! Mine date was 6ft 3 too, own teeth, hair on his chin but not on his head. I was excited too. Big mistake! Hmm Grin

Makeyerowndamndinner · 16/10/2011 17:00

Text speak implies 'unable to string a coherent sentence together' to me - I hate it.

Other unacceptable dating site related speakages:

  1. The phrase 'hooking up'. No, no and no.
  2. Men that call you 'hun'. Nope, not having that either.
  3. E-mails that say, 'Hi, how are you?' Always makes me feel so special.

Well now... Feel much better having got that off my chest.

As you were.

hatesponge · 16/10/2011 17:04

time I suspect the timing of this court thing may not be coincidence, I always avoid the Ex like the plague (long, long history but basically for the last 2 years I don't see or speak to him - arrangements for the boys are made by text) but about 2 weeks ago he picked them up late - I was just leaving for a night out dressed up like a TOWIE extra. First time he's seen me in ages, and since I lost the weight. So doesn't surprise me he would kick off with the court stuff, his way of telling me not to enjoy my life or be happy Hmm It won't stop me though. And I know he would be livid if he thought I was dating...haha :) Especially anyone taller or younger than him (not difficult as he is 5'7 and the wrong side of 45)

hatesponge · 16/10/2011 17:07

ooh Covent Garden snape am jealous, hope you have a fab time. and he's proper tall as well Grin you lucky thing.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:12

I think you have probably hit the nail on the head there sponge, me ex would react in exactly the same way. He has exhausted all possibilities now apart from maintenance, that's the only area of control he has over me. His mood coincides with a funeral he attended. His cousin was also there and she is on POF and have previously discussed our failures catches. I have a feeling that she will have mentioned something to him, hence his attitude. Soooo, I'm back to hiding behind the blinds keeping out of his sight because the more he see's me the more worked up he will become and before you know it I will be served court papers for some reason or another. Idiot's aren't they?? And amazingly so alike, they do all follow the same script!

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:13

me my

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lubeybooby · 16/10/2011 17:13

BoR is 6ft 3 also. Yum :o

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adamschic · 16/10/2011 17:15

Well he's keen to meet up this week, so will wait and see how he comes across in RL. I'm meeting him because I quite fancy the photo rather than because he's there. It's only meeting up for a drink in the week. I'm driving there and won't be buying a new outfit Grin. He lives quite a way from me so will meet part way, although I will get him to do the bulk of the driving or forget it.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:16
Grin

Have you got your clean bedding at the ready lubey?

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:17

Is it a daytime meeting adamschic or evening?

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 17:19

to add to the splendor of the day, just bought this on ebay for £8.67!! certainly not a dress for a first date, especially for lunch as wow. RRRrrrrrr!!

MsCellophane · 16/10/2011 17:19

When I get home I will go a looking again I think

Such a shame though, we had huge amounts in common - with one very unusual niche interest we share. He also has family knowledge of a health condition I have which sends people who know nothing of it, running away screaming Sad Haven't ever met someone who understands it before, let alone has a mother that suffered it.

Oh well, onwards and upwards

adamschic · 16/10/2011 17:21

It will have to be late evening as we both work me in a different direction.

TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:23

Snape I love that dress, that is my kind of dress!!

Yes, MsC onwards and upwards! No retreat, no surrender!! Grin

Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 17:24

internet profile no-no's for me include -

  1. Hun, babes, calling women girls.
  2. An inability to distinguish between 'they're, their, there, know, no, you're, your, too, two, to etc'
  3. LOLing at oneself.
TimeForMeIsFree · 16/10/2011 17:30

And my no, no's are all of snapes list and

  1. 'hehe' as an alternative to 'lol'.
  2. Lack of punctuation. The whole of a profile written in one long sentence.
  3. Lower case 'i' where an upper case 'I' should be. Especially after a full stop.
Snapespeare · 16/10/2011 17:32

I always lower-case 'i'. it's so lazy, and i think shows low self esteem, as if -i- I am so insignificant as to not warrant capitalisation.

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lubeybooby · 16/10/2011 17:34

Yes, clean bedding at the ready. Won't be able to partake at mine this week though as it's half term. Oh crap... hang on his son goes to the same school so half term for him as well. Bloody Leicestershire schools always doing early half terms. If it was the same as every other county my DD would be with her dad this week.

Shite.

That leaves me with 1) no sex or 2) classy car sex or 3) hotel sex

  1. is boring :(

  2. is just not me

  3. is too planned and icky because of the planning (only at this early stage though otherwise would be wonderful)

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Makeyerowndamndinner · 16/10/2011 17:34

Oooh Snapes that dress is gorgeous.

chris123456 · 16/10/2011 17:35

I must say I quite like the idea of being someones bit of rough - how does one go about it?

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