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Plenty of Fish, yes, but where are the men? Dating chat thread #4

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lubeybooby · 12/10/2011 15:14

A new one (again)

Dating, internet dating, all kinds of dating.... chat about it here.

Off you go! :o

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FabbyChic · 15/10/2011 00:21

POF is really shit, seriously it's so crap because it is free, hence more weirdos.

Some people are so fucking rude to!

FabbyChic · 15/10/2011 00:22

NO you dont go to another meeting, it's pointless. You had no wow factor in the date so no point doing it again. It will just reaffirm what you already feel which is nothing.

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lubeybooby · 15/10/2011 00:32

Hmmm... that sounds like a not-bother-wither to me especially if there isn't even FWB potential

But yaaaaaay you had a date and wore your outfit and everything :o

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TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 00:32

Thanks Fabby. No, no wow factor at all. I tried. I sat there looking at him willing it to happen but it didn't. No point is there? Damn it!!

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lubeybooby · 15/10/2011 00:33

Oh and the lack of kiss is probably down to shyness/gentlemanlyness/picking up on that you weren't exactly hot for him

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PoppaRob · 15/10/2011 00:34

He picked up on your hesitancy and decided to be a nice guy and not push for anything. It's up to you to process the date and decide from here. When you said goodbye was there much eye contact? Did he drive off straight away or wait until you were at your door/inside, and if so was it fast and decisive or did he just drive off slowly?

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 00:36

yaaaaay, I had a date!! That's the positive! Had about 25 wee's in the half hour before he turned up too!!

I'm quite pleased/relieved to hear it's a no bother. I think it would become quite hard work. I feel as though I was more fun and had more 'spirit' than him. Ahhh well.

NEXT!!

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lubeybooby · 15/10/2011 00:38

Who's next in the queue Time? :o

I really should sort out something to wear tomorrow.

This date will be interesting. Totally not my classic type but we get on well on the phone

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TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 00:40

I have no ideA PoppaRob because I was dying for a wee so ran down my path BUT, BUT, I do think if he had been so considerate he shoudl have got out of the car and walked me to my door and even if he had picked up on my hesitancy he could have at least offered a kiss on the cheek! Or something. He said we can talk tomorrow, see how I feel and where we go from here. That's hardly passion taking over is it?

I had a nice night, we had a laugh but to be honest I think I'm a bit much for him

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 00:45

Well the nest in the queue if officially the Billdates bloke I posted but I have a feeling he might be the same as tonights bloke. A bit dull. I certainly couldn't imagine passionate, sink breaking sex with him. I tried to imagine it but I just couldn't.

Hope your date is more successful lubey. I will think about you while I'm watching XFactor

All that effort thouugh, all those nerves, the build up, preparation and that funny tummy, for no snog shag at the end of it. HUH!

PoppaRob · 15/10/2011 00:54

You went on a date and he wasn't a dickhead. You're back in the game! I spent last night watching Richard Dawkins videos, Grey's and Big Bang Theory! Lubey sang to her cat!

Don't prejudge the next guy on the basis of tonight's date. It's a numbers game... kiss enough frogs and you might find your well hung bonkable prince. You'll have very slimy lips, but you'll get there.

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 01:09

I won't prejudge Poppa, he was a nice bloke, quite sweet but just didn't do it for me. I didn't feel any desires for anything, snog, shag or even a second meeting. I was sat there wondering if maybe a second, third, fourth meeting might make him grow on me but decided to ask you lot that question rather than put myself through it.

I didn't even get a snog so no slimy lips here!! He didn't even lean in for one, not even a kiss on the cheek so I reckon he must have thought the same about me. He does know a bit about my history though, he knows I was wary cos it's taken me over 12 months to agree to see him but men don't usually let that stop them from giving a girl a goodnight kiss. He didn't even get out of the sodding car!!

I will see what he has to say tomorrow but I am not chomping at the bit to see him again. I'm all for telling him I had a nice time, think he is a top bloke but don't feel we are romantically suited.

NEXT......................

samhaircin · 15/10/2011 01:41

Time I had a similar experience to you. Met a nice guy but just could not even imagine myself kissing him, or being in a relationship with him, and I really wanted to like him. I remember reading other people here saying they met someone nice but couldn't see it going anywhere, and I thought maybe they were being too fussy, or making too quick of a judgement, but now I get it! I think there needs to be an attraction of some sort, as well as compatibility and the like.

Unfortunately I stupidly agreed to a second date with the guy, which I am now sort of regretting, but I think I will see it through anyway just to see whether I change my mind at all. If I feel the same way I would be inclined in future to go with my first instinct and not to bother with a second date if I feel there is absolutely no spark.

At this point I have no sense of excitement about meeting up again, which is a pity and probably a very bad sign!

prettypurpledaisy · 15/10/2011 08:00

First date in so long under my belt :) He was really friendly and attractive and I had a good time. I wouldn't mind meeting him again but can't remember dating protocol, do I wait for him to text? or should I send a non committal one this morning?
What was funny was the role reversal, my DD waited up for me, asked me how it went and offered to make me a sandwich if I was hungry. She is such a good girl.
So what do I do now?

Snapespeare · 15/10/2011 08:38

time, ah well. ;) at least you have a date under your belt. :)

daisy - yes! text him! after 12, non-commital but friendly.

this is my latest propositioner
god, I hate internet dating.

PoppaRob · 15/10/2011 08:49

daisy... text him!

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 08:51

samhaircin Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I really wanted to like him too but I know I wouldn't feel excited at the prospect of a second date. If he were to ask me I know I would be saying yes just to make him happy and there is no way am slipping into that mode again! Nice chap but just not the one for me. When is your second date? Is it already arranged?

Daisy I'm pleased your date went well!! If it were me and I wanted to see him again I would text him and let him know I enjoyed the date and would be up for it again if he was.

Snape That last bit of your post should have come with a warning. I have a delicate stomach this morning and seeing that first thing almost sent me over the edge

Yes, the internet dating can be a bit grim but what's the alternative? There's only so much walking up and down Dale, hoping to bump into The One, a person can do. Did anything come from your membership at GS? Were the waiting messages any good?

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 09:00

Just had a text from my 'date' asking 'Well..... what do you think? I've replied that I had a lovely evening, think he is a lovely bloke but I felt there was no spark between us. No reply yet.

watchoutforthatsnail · 15/10/2011 09:21

time :) Im so glad you went and it wasnt a complete disaster.
Thats very keen of him to text so early, but quite an antisocial way of putting it isnt it.
Well done on saying no to any further dates, because that takes confidence to do that :) And now you also know that you are wanting someone a bit less 'wet' if anything i think internet dating is very good at showing you what you dont want :)

daisy - id say dont text him. but then id personally give in at about lunch time. Ive always found that if a man is interested he will contact you, and if hes not then he wont, end of. No amount of promting nice texts will change that. Glad you had a nice time and i do hope he contacts youi soon.

snape - that is grim, i was eating my breakfast!!! hows pickings on GS?

I seem to have given my number to a text speaking idiot, who text me at 5am this morning with this gem ' i at wrk it poo bt wot u do it pay te bil' so, er, thats a no from me then.

Lubey , - good luck for your date later, what yoiu wearing, what time? please update us :)

and zany too... as above :)!!!!

charlottesmum5 · 15/10/2011 09:47

OK can we have a Saturday night date rundown cos I'm getting lost!!! I have a date at 8pm tonight, will have to leave at 7.30pm to get there. This is with the Finance Director, he said he will meet me in the pub carpark and he has a blue S-type Jag...I'm not up on cars as I own a very old rust bucket, but I will google his so I can see what it looks like. He's come across as really nice on the website (dating direct) and in his texts, so watch this space. Off into town shortly to get most of my body hair removed and what is left will be blowdried. I'm shaking!! As you know my last two dates were awful (barnacle bill aka wart guy, and mr engineer). Good luck to you all xx

PoppaRob · 15/10/2011 09:47

time - Confidence and honesty! That's a very novel approach to Internet dating my love! :)

charlottesmum5 · 15/10/2011 09:57

snape ffs, fishing and snooker? I nearly heaved when I looked at that guys profile and pic!!

PoppaRob · 15/10/2011 10:07

Fuckit... All this dating activity and war stories from you girls and I've got nothing to show... so I've reactivated my profile on PoF and Oasis. Let's see if I can find a bipolar asexual acoholic gorilla minged maniac with BO no teeth and halitosis suitable partner to help me live happily ever after or at least have some company for a few weeks.

stayforappledunking · 15/10/2011 10:10

Time - hurrah you went on a date! He does sound very wet, I was having a good giggle sorry! all that time wasted changing the bed sheets!

Have we heard from Daisy yet?

TimeForMeIsFree · 15/10/2011 10:25

Thank you! Yes, I am very honest, I tell it as it is, don't see any point in waffling. And confident, yes, I suppose I am. I'm very sure of what I want and don't want now and it feels great!

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