I really need some honest advice please.

[uknowme]

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or he could go into a bed and breakfast for a fewdays.
The net is a great place to find one.
Good luck xx

I think the 2 Week idea is a god idea. If only so that your H will agree to it more readily than saying that it all together over. I think it would give you both the space to do some serious thinking. I am sure you would think MUCH more clearly without him around for a while.
If you would like me to search the internet for B&B's or other accomadation, email me with your area. Don't forget any other help you need - just let me know.

I've not read this whole thread just your message at the bottom. I sympathise with you greatly as love will make you put up with everything. Everyone will tell you to leave but when the man says sorry you believe them. This must be terrible for you the pain of a heart is soul destroying. I will say though that i wish i'd left my x after a week because i saw his aggression then. I spent 6 years telling him i loved him and that he must be hurting a lot to be so angry. I tried to help him in everyway and now he has shot me in the back. There was nothing i could do i physically couldn't change his personallity. The confusing thing for me was that when he was good we got on soooo well, i made him laugh, and he did me, it was passionate and loving. It always came back though it took a year once and i thought i had cracked it. I wish i'd not spent so much time looking after someone else and concentrated on me, but you can't with men like this they are hard work and time consuming. Take care xxxxx Thinking of you and hoping you come out of this pain x

Oh, I can post on here now (see other thread)

Uknowme, whatever you decide, MNs will be thiking of you.

Hope the address that I left on the other thread I started will be of some use to you.

Hello, my e=mail is down AGAIN but will send those contact addresses asap. Look under holiday lets/anything like that and you should get some results. Speak soon.

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Well done Unknowme!!!! Good luck.

Uknowme good luck in whatever you decide. I think a break will either make you or break you.
I used to hide money in my tampax box as that was the last place he would look.
If he doesnt want to leave the home get an injunction and make him go.
It is about time you started living your life with some peace in it not aggression or walking on eggshells all the time.
Your kids will be fine and probably relieved as kids pick this tension up all the time.Have they been acting up or differently lately if so this is probably the reason.
Most important you have all your friends here on mumsnet that WILL help you through the hard times.
hugs and take care
xxx

Do you feel able to tell friends and family now, uknowme? Because I think that would help a lot at this stage.
Good luck.xxx

Doormat - you can't get an injuction unless you are prepared to press charges. Been there - tried that!!
U, really proud that you have made a decision, I know that its been really hard for you. You can't however keep him out, if the house is in joint names he has to have access at all times. If he is locked out he can use 'reasonable force' to gain entry and has to make good any damage he has done. Sorry to be the bearer of bad tidings but as you know I'm quite up on these things with my recent experiences!!
If you want to find somewhere for him to go and I think that is so reasonable of you, look in the yellow pages under letting agents and phone them for info, but I think that you will find that most of them do 6 month leases only. Could he stay with a freind/relative?
You've done really well, so pleased that you have decided what to do and I think the two week thing is a good idea.

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You are and you can and you know where I am if you need somewhere to stay. Home by 9:45.

good luck uknowme and (((((hugs))))
be strong xx

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You WILL feel better. At the moment you're going through so much - of course you feel awful. But you are doing the right thing, and you will, you will, you WILL feel better.xxxxxxxx

I'm in a lot this week, don't forget offer on Sunday (or before). E-mail me/give me a call. sorry you feel so crap.