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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Joins The Foreign Legion In Their Quest For Sobriety.

999 replies

Mouseface · 03/10/2011 10:24

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile and I have a very abusive relationship with alcohol.

I can't just have one glass of anything, I have to drink until I pass out or run out. Whichever comes first.

This Bus is a place of solace and safety, where drinkers, non-drinkers and those who aren't quite sure can come and post or just sit and 'be'.

No-one will judge you, no-one will think any the less of you because we all have the same thing in common.

Alcohol.

And for those who want to read the journey's so far and the original thread by JWN, the lady who very bravely started these journeys for us, HERE they are. Smile

(PS - the title is just for you notevenamousie)

OP posts:
beakinthebeeswax · 14/10/2011 07:54

Good morning all!

Yesterday was potentially a disaster, DP came back from m&s with tenner meal for two and bottle of wine. I resisted and after meal (lovely it was) I busird myself with washing up etc. I swear the wine was looking at me........

A update on DP cousin (Refer right up thread) she made it to detox centre after getting paralytic with her idiot boyfriend. Apparently she made huge scene outside this clinic and was sick on doorstep and abused staff.

Lets just hope she can conquer her demons.

Well done to MrsGee and *Swallowed"

dementedma · 14/10/2011 08:11

Well done to msgee and saf
looks like being a nice day here weather wise. last day of my so called holiday. makes me realise how much I love my job! Roll on Monday

helpmenow · 14/10/2011 08:20

Blimey beakin you've got it coming at you from all fronts.

beakinthebeeswax · 14/10/2011 08:49

You bet I have. I just battle on, its only thing can do with 2 dcs. I will never let booze grip me again, I have made very foolish decisions and made self a laughing stock locally whilst under influence. My life has changed immeasurably recently and its for the best. So glad I found you guys, I feel like you all wont judge and have been where I have.

I keep thinking about DP cousin and thinking how she could be so happy and healthy if she got properly dry. I cant force her. I can only hope. She is a lesson to us all, if you saw what she was and what she is now, you would cry.

I pray for her, seriously. Sad

helpmenow · 14/10/2011 09:02

beak your example can only help your cousin.

Does she live near you? Could you perhaps attend AA meetings with her once she's out? Perhaps checking them out before?

helpmenow · 14/10/2011 09:03

Mouse are you you brewing a spooky new name for us all?

cidre · 14/10/2011 09:57

Morning all,Day 10, hurray! Weekend looming, and holiday, but am still determined.
So sorry to read of the hard times so many BBs going through at moment, hugs to all.

beakinthebeeswax · 14/10/2011 10:23

helpmenow yes she lives nearby, I have been to the local help groups with her a few times. I have told her I will help her in any way possible.
Sadly, the group she goes to regularly in a local town is a bit of a flashpoint for relapse for her as she seems to "pal up" with her old drinking mates and she can end up on a bender.

If I went with her I would stop this happening.

I would give her mates the death stare

I am not judging these people, I know they are lost and struggle daily.

I was nearly "these people"

Not now though, I am on this bus, oh yes siree!

Oooh oooh before I forget.... an old school friend of DP who was a local alcoholic and always in Lidl buying loads of booze is finally dry after 15 years of drinking. I have always likd her, even when under influence she was nice. She has had tough life. I am pleased for her, she looks much healthier.

I hope cousin can follow her example..... trouble is they hate each other!!!!Confused

MIFLAW · 14/10/2011 11:20

"Sometimes I think that drinking is actually quite an appropriate response to life. How else do you forget?" It is an extremely appropriate response to life - if you are so fed up you want to end it all. If you want to continue living and just need a break, can't you just kick a box around the garage and shout a bit?

"I often drank to get 'out of my head', literally." What is in your head that is so bad that you need to get out of it? Your head is yours - wouldn't it make more sense to evict the stuff you don't want in there rather than "get out" yourself?

"I wish I had faith. In anything really." Do you have faith in this thread to help you not drink? Will that do you for now? Keep it as simple as possible - you'll get there.

notevenamOoOooOoooosie · 14/10/2011 11:24

Hi everyone,
I am finally taking advice and having a day resting, have finished rushing about doing everything that needed to be done so I am going to have a nap and read.
cidre well done (and don't project into the weekend)
sAf and MsGee well done also.
I need to do some guitar practice but it'll still be there tomorrow.

Mwahahahahahahahouseface · 14/10/2011 12:11

Hello all.

helpmenow - I thought you could be HauntMeNow? Smile

Beak - good news re your DP's cousin. Hopefully she can get the help she so desperately needs.

What a bloody struggle yesterday was. I really have no idea how I did it. But, DAY 23 here I come! (is it 23 or 22?)

Nemo was up in the night, very upset and didn't want any cuddles from DH so I was wondering if he'd had a bad dream about him.......

We're both (DH and I) very tired and emotional still.......

How is everyone on here today? xx

hauntmenow · 14/10/2011 13:55

[hsmile]

BafangaTheSombre · 14/10/2011 16:05

Hey All

Going away with friends for the weekend, so doubt very much that I will be online
Have a safe and sober weekend all
Bafana
xxx

dementedma · 14/10/2011 16:36

I HATE HIM I HATE HIM IHATE HIM!!! Angry
there, that feels better.
Bigger size dress has arrived - marked XXL Plus size would you believe (I am a standard size 14!) and looks good apart from gaping a bit at top and round low cut back as I am obviously not as obese as they think. I need jesus to help me with my norkage Grin. How do I hoick them up to fill the top when it has no straps or back to hide a bra. DD2 was right - I AM rubbish at being a woman! I look like a hod carrier in a frock Sad

ScareyFairenuff · 14/10/2011 16:55

Dunno Ma. Sellotape, blu tac? Confused Grin

MsGee, Saf & Mouse you would think it would get easier wouldn't you. I've had such cravings all week around 8pm and have come 'that close' to picking up. But experience has taught me that by 9pm I'm over it. I think a lot of it is listening to your body and recognising the cravings for what they are.

For me, the really useful thing is to make the decision in the morning. Maybe actually write it down. Then, when I start to waver and think I want a drink, I remind myself, No you did not want to drink today. Then I go do something else. I've booked badminton for 8pm today to try and avoid that tricky hour.

MIFLW good advice, as usual Grin.

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Mwahahahahahahahouseface · 14/10/2011 17:41

Dubs - mwahs xx

hauntmenow - great name [hwink] xx

Ma - you can buy tape from a good bra shop, or the bigger department stores may have it too, that actually does lift the bosoms up. You can wear it under your breasticles. Do you have a strapless bra? That would help too if you have one that's underwired.

I use the tape when a bra will be seen. Do a couple of 'laps' round under your breasticals.

I didn't realise that you could get your dress in a bigger size, well done for doing that. My wedding dress is a size 16. I weighed 9st4ibs on my wedding day, that's how different dresses can vary from other clothes!

My friend called today and asked what dress size I was, I'm 10 on the bottom and 16 up top, he thought that might cause a problem because he wants me in a white jump suit al la ABBA for his wife's 60th!

He's rounding up those who can sing and getting them kitted out! [hgrin] lord help the audience watching me in a tight white jumpsuit, giant breasticles wobbling all over the show as I belt out 'Gimme, gimme, gimme'!! [hgrin]

swallowedAfly · 14/10/2011 18:36

about to get some elderflower and fizzy water - feel like a drink and reflex was to feel like an alcoholic drink.

will start making facepack too i think.

dementedma · 14/10/2011 19:22

mouse so how does the tape work? I need strapless AND backless but it need to hoick the norks up a bit to give me cleavage. I am 38D, I think, but saggy! I think I might need a wee tuck in the back to pull it tight and stop my tits falling out onto the table. I took a photo of me in it on my phone and showed my mum who said I look "matronly" Shock FFS mother, that helped a lot. NOT!!!!

MsGee · 14/10/2011 19:34

You can get special bras that go across back at bottom for braless and strapless ma. Not sure where but I have heard of such things. And you are not useless at being a woman. You're lovely. I don't even have norks (and yet they still sag) so am v jealous.

MsGee · 14/10/2011 19:35

Strapless not braless.

swallowedAfly · 14/10/2011 19:36

i have a face full of porridge and honey.

swallowedAfly · 14/10/2011 19:36

i realise that doesn't help the breast situation.

MsGee · 14/10/2011 19:37

Fuck. I can't lie to my lovely friends.

I am drinking. I'm so sorry. I know I'm lettig you down, especially saf and mouse but I just can do it today.

MsGee · 14/10/2011 19:38

Can't. Shit. Useless even at typing.

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