I think I'm the type of person you all hate

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Hi all.
Basically want some sense knocked into me and I know without question you are the people to do it! Basically I feel like the ultimate cliche.
I'm 26, blonde and I'm told very pretty (I don't have a lot of confidence and my dh isn't the demonstrative type so struggle to see it myself.) Anyway last week we had a very drunken night out and in the cab home (we shared as we live near each other) the big boss of our department came on to me. Stroking legs, trying to kiss me etc. I was totally surprised- he is generally quite flirty to all the girls but I never saw this happening. In the end I pretended to fall asleep cos he is so senior I didn't want to piss him off but didnt know what to do.
Next day at work I thought he would have forgotten all about it as we were all so pissed the night before but nope- the messages started coming.
I flirted back, which I know I shouldn't have. I find him very attractive and it was a buzz but it's such dangerous waters. Plus we are both married- him for 24 years.
He wants to meet up when he us back in the office in a month. I am so tempted but know that I must not and that this is all so wrong. My head has been turned like a silly little idiot.
I just can't get him out of my mind- and every time I try he sends more messages. I keep trying to think about his poor wife and my lovely dh to stop my self responding in kind. It sometimes works and sometimes doesn't.
So please ladies with the benefit of your experiences give me a giant kick up the arse.

Mango, I think the sexual exploitation of young, vulnerable women in the work place can encompass the fact that a they might respond to the blandishments of an older man, in a position in power. for all sorts of reasons. But it IS an abuse of power.

What happened in the taxi was textbook sexual harassment.

I think I'm the type of person you all hate because I've got long lovely legs and a full set (24) of matching ramekins and nice ham in the fridge. For these reasons I do not have to worry about shagging my boss for he is beneath my consideration.

Maybe. But I wouldn't think she'd win any case agaist him and let's not forget she does like him...she is an adult although young.

Actually, she probably would.

She's hardly young!

Snoopdogg has a point, but I think I am more worthy of hate. I have bought all my Christmas cards, started shopping for Christmas presents, AND booked our tickets for our next holiday......
(my legs arent so bad either)

26 is very young with regard to 44

I have homemade piccalilli, Blackberry Sake and Raspberry vodka in my immaculate pantry. Hate me, please.

you are all so pathetic - but you know that already ---!! have fun!!

I hate you QS

immaculate pantry is that a euphemism AlouiseG

My Immaculate pantry - open at your peril

O Dr P, please tell me your change of name hasn't come about because you married the vertically challenged and possessive Italian stallion of internet dating fame?

No! he crazee boy! dumped long ago. Have since had a dalliance with a South American dancing doctor, and am on to pastures new! There is a great threat in, oh yes, relationships for the internet dating gels here, where we regale each other with our dating fiascos! work a look.

Namechange for an IPOAT adventure in Buenos Aries.

threat? quite possibly, but of course I meant thread.

I cannot understand how anyone, blonde (brunette or redhead too) and pretty has got to 26 without learning how to fend off unwanted advances or deal with attention from men.

Gosh I was never that pretty but have had to learn from an early age, some I didn't want to put off, obviously.

OP he sounds dangerous. You might have an affair, it fizzles out and never gets messy but there are 4 of you involved and if anyone of the other 2 find out about it the shit will hit the fan. Don't do it.

If you need attention from men try and sort it out with your DH, if not, then think long and hard about your marriage. You are young, lovely and you need a man who will appreciate you.

QS I positively hate you, you christmas shopping bint!

First second tango in Buenos Aires, DrP? Way to go!!

I'm not sure there is any need to lay into the OP quite so brutally. I know she asked for a kick up the arse not to cheat. A character assasination was unecessary.

She quite clearly has no self esteem, obvious by the way she permits her DH to treat her, that her head is actually turned by this man and she obviously has no confidence.

Her OP as I read it relates to people hating her because she is considering cheating the ultimate no no on the MN realtionship board. He physical description simply reinforces her opinion that she is the "ultimate cliche" and therefore is relevant.

None of us know any idea what this man is like and what he thinks of the OP, although I am sure that there are a lot of woman who would like to believe men cheat just beacuse they want sex not because there is any genuine degree of attraction/feeling. Makes it so much easier if the OW is just "a hole" eh?

OP you know this is a bad idea, you are understandably flattered by the attention presumably because you don't receive any at home but you need to sort yourself out before you get involved with anyone else, married or not. That means either sorting out your marriage or getting rid of DH.

Good Luck.