I think I'm the type of person you all hate

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Hi all.
Basically want some sense knocked into me and I know without question you are the people to do it! Basically I feel like the ultimate cliche.
I'm 26, blonde and I'm told very pretty (I don't have a lot of confidence and my dh isn't the demonstrative type so struggle to see it myself.) Anyway last week we had a very drunken night out and in the cab home (we shared as we live near each other) the big boss of our department came on to me. Stroking legs, trying to kiss me etc. I was totally surprised- he is generally quite flirty to all the girls but I never saw this happening. In the end I pretended to fall asleep cos he is so senior I didn't want to piss him off but didnt know what to do.
Next day at work I thought he would have forgotten all about it as we were all so pissed the night before but nope- the messages started coming.
I flirted back, which I know I shouldn't have. I find him very attractive and it was a buzz but it's such dangerous waters. Plus we are both married- him for 24 years.
He wants to meet up when he us back in the office in a month. I am so tempted but know that I must not and that this is all so wrong. My head has been turned like a silly little idiot.
I just can't get him out of my mind- and every time I try he sends more messages. I keep trying to think about his poor wife and my lovely dh to stop my self responding in kind. It sometimes works and sometimes doesn't.
So please ladies with the benefit of your experiences give me a giant kick up the arse.

What KerryM said.

What has young, blonde and pretty got to do with you potentially cheating on your husband? I've known many a moose who've been hit on by their boss after a drunken night out..

There are quite a few men out there who don't look at the mantel piece when poking the fire.

He's married, you're married... leave well alone...

he will obviously try with anything with a pulse If the big boss came on to the OP while she was pretending to be asleep, coffee, it would suggest that a pulse is not an essential requirement to stimulate his lust

A Secret Santa gift of a sleazy blow-up doll ostensibly bought by all members of his department (type the gift tag and the names of all who allegedly contributed) may make him think twice about targeting the OP or any other of his female colleagues at the annual Christmas party.

Blimey, I was too nice.
Sorry, didn't mean to...

It is to be hoped that the OP doesn't work for a firm of undertakers, coffee

i just don't like the assumption that we're all going to be older and less attractive than she is, and therefore we're all going to hate her. I mean i definitely fall into that category myself, but loads of other MNers are like, 19 and gorgeous and i don't see why they should find themselves lumped into a category so indiscriminately

Fuck him, fuck him hard, then at least that will give his wife some ammo to get shot of him. You'd be doing her a favour really. Hth.

You may as well ditch the twit you decided to marry, he isn't going to last the distance.

this is all a yucky.

Ladies. some decorum, please.

Dick or um. :o

Decorum? Isn't that what you get from wearing a twinset and pearls and imagining you're walking around with a book on your head?

As for yucky, have some more Tinto. It might help you get down & dirty which, in case it escaped your attention, is a state that the OP has been fantasising about.

No, its what you get from not saying fuck him fuck him hard in much the same manner a fishwife would say hang the fucker at a lynching.

If you were having the time of your life with DH and totally contented, you would be giving this man the quick brush off, recognising him as inherently sleazy and, consequently, he would not be getting your juices going; you'd be laughing about him with colleagues.

The boss is just a symptom (not getting them frozen off kind of symptoms btw) of the issues in your primary relationship. And because you feel unhappy, disgruntled and cheapened by DH's lack of care and appreciation for you (and who wouldn't) you are contemplating something that in your heart of hearts, you know to be self-destructive to your marriage, your reputation, your career and to you, the person. Shagging the boss is one way of bringing about change, but in a way that brings your life grinding to a halt and has you as the 'bad guy'. There are no glib answers regarding the issues with DH but at least approach it with honesty so you can look yourself in the mirror. Good luck.

But that's no fun, Don Diego

How about a compromise? The sisters fishwives among us sit by the gallows shrieking quietly muttering 'Fuck him hard and fuck him over so that his wife can take him to the cleaners'.

Deal?

(quiet roar) (getting louder) fuck him, fuck him hard, fuck him, fuck him hard...

:o. Lots of Dick or um :o

(izzy, 'tis I, DrP, MmeD, namechanged for another IPOAT thread)

mutter gently all you will. I remember being silly and foolish and insecure at 26.

Don't believe a word of it, mind you, but rather shocked at the piling in on this thread. Because of its location, nothing else.

It's all 3! With bells on, who are you? Bloody name changers

And this irks you?

My, you seem easily, and quite violently irked, for no good reason.

Umm, not particularly. You're the person telling me to eff off and getting a bit irate about things.

I'm wondering why you feel so affronted by my post and why you've name changed?

try reading my posts.Al. I am not irate, I find your posts vulgar and inappropriate for relationships. And the playground quality of them begs a playground response.

Am tired so have not read all posts; is this sexual harrassment by an employer?

Really? If you have a problem with my posts I suggest you report them.

great idea Alouise.

And I can also tell you what I think of them on here too.

Not sexual harassment as OP consented and flirted back...