1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

[lubeybooby]

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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No, I wouldn't say he is, unfortunately. I think it would end in tears and you would end up experiencing what you most fear. Standards, Shiny, Standards!!

No. He is not making your heart skip a little bit.

Btw, my policy is to not message anybody at all in the first instance. I let them come to me.

I don't think he is either Shiney... he's just... there.

I'm simular to you Shiney in that I would LIKE a boyfriend rather than NEEDING one if you know what I mean. After I broke up with my last ex friends urged me to give it a while before I dated but I just think why wait? I don't have ishoooos (apart from low self esteem), I'm over my ex so why wait in my quest for finding MrPerfect

Yeah, I'd like one, but don't need one. I miss nice coupley stuff, but I don't need it.

Mr Licky messaged me - he messaged one of us that's on okcupid too didn't he?

I'm very very similar to you Shiney, but this last year, I've wanted to experience a proper relationship. I've had little flings here and there, nothing major, longest lasted just over a year, I'm fucking rubbish at relationships.

One thing online dating has helped with is my standards and what I expect. Having been on awful dates, I realise what I DON'T want more which is narrowing down what I DO want.

My Heahtcliff (the date I went on on Friday, he's like Heathcliff, I get fanny gallops he's so rugged, scruffy and gorgeous) is perfect atm for me. He is rude to me (we call each other cunt and fuckface etc), he is honest, he is tactile, has an IQ of 177 and was privately educated on a scholarship, has a decent job, is funny, thoughtful and quite frankly a fucking danger too me in terms of my status of always remaining single...We both talk openly about it, and we are both equally blissfully wonderfully walking on air to have 'found' eachother, although, I'm not stupid to know that it may well blow up in my face considering we've been on only one date but speak shit for 10-12 hours a day ha.

Hang in there, learn what you don't want, and SELF REFLECT if possible

shiney "I wonder if L is just not the right one for me - although I have decided that I want him to be. He isn't though is he?"

Sorry but wanting something doesn't make it so.

DonDiego "Btw, my policy is to not message anybody at all in the first instance. I let them come to me."

That's what I generally do, although occasionally I will message someone.

So I've now joined Smooch and been bombarded by lots of messages, some of which have mentioned what a fantastic profile I have.... I haven't filled it in yet

Don't think I'll be messaging any of those, and the pictures???? oh my eyes!

Oh dear. I was just about to sign up... ok... I'm going in!

Good luck lubey :)

"So I've now joined Smooch and been bombarded by lots of messages, some of which have mentioned what a fantastic profile I have.... I haven't filled it in yet"

Oh, yes I think some may be the quickflirts rather than actual messages. Obviously they've managed to get the wrong ones so I'd delete them under the doesn't have enough intelligence to use the right quickflirt criteria

Good luck lubey

Ok... doesn't seem too bad so far. Better than pof anyway (marginally!)

Just got off the phone from guitar boy. We chatted for an.hour, seeing each other Thursday. Am swooning :) hes bloody lovely..

Ohhh nice one Watch tell us more about him

When I first joined Smooch, about 18 months ago I was on a high at how many guys thought 'wow, you are beautiful' - took me a while to work out it was a quick flirt

Mr Bosy has been texting loads this evening, just waiting for him to mention a 2nd date

I could have talked to him for hours... Always a good sign. He was all like ' you free tomorrow? Or wed.. or just soon'
Very very interesting guy.
He's also a mental health nurse.
And scruffy
And plays the guitar

Little bit of butterflies.
Which is what its about huh. No butterflies then not worth.going on the date.

Am also not picking up a player vibe at all. Nothing sexual was mentioned at all...

So, shiney. I totally agree with the others BTW. You are worth way more than someone who is just there...

Good stuff watch and zany!

Zany..that's great. Bet he Will set one soon..

Erm. More about him? He has lived in Italy for a long while. Is also a professional guitarist.
Speaks well
Doesn't watch much tv. No reality shit or xfactor. Loves music and film. Has his own place.
Needs to sort his garden out. Likes food/ cooking. Just the right mix of ego. But still being nice. Thought he saw keria knightly in Asda once, then realised he was in Asda..

There must be a catch, right?

watch this is sounding good. and agree you need to have butterflies, even if when you meet them it's a bit meh you need to feel a bit excited about the prospect (imo)

so, on smooch this evening have had the following little gems:

first bloke sent me a msg at 7.30pm - 'are you free this evening?'

WTAF? That was his first message to me. Deleted immediately.

second bloke - some 9 years younger than me - msgs me to say 'I know I'm much younger than you, but you do look very classy and elegant for your age'

Shiney have to admit the warning signs keep waving at me, Do you remember the conversation.

Well been chatting to Mr Body on text/online before he goes to work. Think I really like him but trying to playing it cool

watch I just got the same message on POF about the 7 yr old son! Has to be the same bloke? Surely there are not 2 idiots out there sending those msgs?!