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1 wedding, a wank bag and 52 dates. Internet dating chat thread no 2

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lubeybooby · 29/09/2011 14:40

A new one!

title courtesy of Shiney :o

Chit chat about all things dating related here.

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lubeybooby · 04/10/2011 08:18

Morning all.

What message is that hatesponge? Must have missed that one. And I used to get those kind of 'you look great for your age' type messages from younger men. It's why I've mostly got the younguns blocked... from the age of 28 I was told I looked good for my age, like anything over 25 is ANCIENT or something. Fuck off knobbers.

Shiney... do you this this idea of marriage he has in his head is one of those such repetitive thoughts for him?

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TimeForMeIsFree · 04/10/2011 09:33

Morning everyone Smile No Smooch action here last night because I fell asleep with DD at 8pm! Although before I nodded off I did receive a message from a guy who had one photo of himself on his profile and half a dozen others of a little girl! Hmm

Shiny I can't help but feel concerned about this one. What is it exactly you like about him, that makes you really want to be with him?

Zanywany · 04/10/2011 10:29

Morning

Well I've had a meet me from POF from a guy that looks nice, and is tall so I might message him in a bit. No more dates on the horizon at the moment, I'm out at the weekend but its a parents thing with football so any blokes there are married.

Did he really expect you to go out with him last minute like that Hatesponge, Jeez

Zanywany · 04/10/2011 10:59

Just had to share a promising looking profile with you.

I LOOKING FOR FUN

YOU MUST BE INTO RUBBETR LATEX FETISH BDSM

i WANT KINKY SEX

BONDAGE STRAPONS THE LOT

RUBBER RUBBBER RUBBER

LATEX LATEX LATEX

Bet his inbox is full!

adamschic · 04/10/2011 11:46

Sponge, that guy with the 7 yr old sounds creepy. What are the chances of him sending the same message to you both, how many others. I would be tempted to report him tbh.

Arranged to meet someone this lunch time. I'm in my work stuff, hair unwashed but he is in town today so thought why not. Tbh I don't really fancy the photo so am not bothered how I look. He says he is interesting so lets find out, will make a change if the is. No butterflies and it is a settling thing.

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/10/2011 12:05

adams - i shall say nothing of the 'settling ' thing. only because ive done it myself far too many times myself.

sponge- that is super creepy. It has to be the same man, because, who would send that? are we allowed to post user names on here? Take it pof hasnt thrown up anyone interesting yet?

zany - yeah. thats bound to get him lots of response... lol. any dates set up with my body?

Shoney - im sorry, but i would be freaking out and running 100mph in the opposite direction from him. I really would. AND, i suspect if it was one of us saying that was happening to us, you would be saying the same thing - RUN!! So you do now know he has MH issues, and you also know hes not joking about the marriage thing. The sex was crap. you dont really like him all that much and have no intention of being faithful or marrying him, but to him, by saying you are exclusive... you are playing along and maybe consenting to the marriage thing. I dont want to be mean, but you could end up in a very upsetting/trickey situation here.

Im still swooning about mr guitat player. Hes text me this morning and had a bit of a natter, and thurs plans have been firmed up and he said, if i didnt mind could he call me later.
:)
He seems very lovely. Im getting that little excited momment when we talk. And im more convinced hes not a player at all. There has been no sexual flirting, no inuendos, no smut. Now, i like a bit of filth myself... but im not going to go tramping down that path ( quite literally) unless he starts it. Because there definatley seems to be some kind of connection. But of course its a false connection until we have met. BUT, its definatley better than having no connection at all and just meeting someone to see if something might happen.

ANyway - its sunny, work is quiet and im swooning.

Zanywany · 04/10/2011 12:11

No dates yet with Mr Body but he has been texting quite a bit and chatting online. I tried to hint by talking about what films I would like to see but he was either too male to pick up on it or busy or not bothered.

Mr Guitar sounds good Shiney and its good that you've got that connection before you have met. Do you know where you are going Thursday?

Let us know about your lunch date Adams

adamschic · 04/10/2011 12:11

Watch, I will not settle again. I will need to feel as excited as you next time I arrange a date.

Oh and don't forget, keep your undergarments firmly on! Best to build something up first even if it might be casual. I'm looking forward to hearing how it goes.

LittleHousebytheRiver · 04/10/2011 12:16

5 dates in with the Very Nice POF Man, 4 of which have been supper at mine and going to bed! He is lovely, very adoring and no red flags spotted yet. He wants me to be his girlfriend, which is lovely, and is keen for us to have a romantic weekend in Prague before Christmas. So far so good!

BUT I haven't yet managed to introduce him to my best mates and I haven't met his friends or seen his house. (He has his parents living there at the mo and it is very cluttered) I am not too worried, my friends will enjoy his chatter, but a reality check is a good idea isn't it?

watchoutforthatsnail · 04/10/2011 12:26

knickers will be staying on. That is an absolute promise. There will be no drinking for either of us as he lives 30 mins away and is driving. and im driving too. Seriously, there hasnt really been any flirting, so i dont expect for one momment that would be on the cards anyway ( because you can usually tell) Hes just really interesting, he thinks im really interesting, we have a ton of stuff to say to each other it seems. I like that :)

adams - hope it goes well... report back :)

zany- id say hes either very dense or not interested. Mr 3 weeks ago kept in contstant contact after our date, kept saying he wanted to see me again. Apolgised when he hadnt been in contact for a few days. But then just didnt ever mention meeting up again. So i asked if he was free on weekend and he said he was busy... the following week of the same, ie lots of contact but no date ( and now 3.5 weeks after the first date) i replied to one of his texts that while it was all nice texting him did he actually want to meet up at some point. he said that he did and he had just been busy. And then i heard nothing more from him...

Oh - and the young stalker guy... yeah. i had 6 facebook messages from him yesterday too once he got bored of texting me. He seems to have stopped now though. The last one was quite agressive, said he was very very annoyed with me. Idiot.

adamschic · 04/10/2011 12:36

Littlehouse, agree time to find out more before you commit to being his girlfriend and Prague. Sounding good though.

Watch, good, driving to the first date is usually a sensible idea.

lubeybooby · 04/10/2011 12:45

Littlehouse it all sounds really good to me, I wouldn't worry too much about friend introductions etc just yet... just let it happen naturally (but probably at some point before you go away together)

Watch I'm really chuffed for you and so hope this works out well :o

Adamschic good luck with your lunch date :)

I feel crappy but have loads to catch up on now workwise. urgh. Nothing really happening here, my pic still hasn't been approved on smooch and haven't heard anything further from Mr Friday

Meh.

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Zanywany · 04/10/2011 12:55

I wouldn't worry too much Littlehouse about meeting your friends soon, it sounds good between you and there is plenty of time to introduce him to your friends before a Xmas Prague break.

I really can't tell if he's interested or not, just read back on my texts and it was him telling me that he has just seen a good review for a film at the cinema so maybe I didn't pick up on a hint. Meh, this is the bit I hate about dating not knowing if they are interested or not. I know he is on night shift all week but then I'm busy Saturday night so don't see that I can meet up soon anyway.

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LittleHousebytheRiver · 04/10/2011 13:10

Could be citalopram as it is anxiety related??

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Zanywany · 04/10/2011 13:13

Just had this lovely message, must have taken him ages to think of what to write

'oi'

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lubeybooby · 04/10/2011 13:15

Zany lmfao! Nearly lost half my cuppa over the keyboard then. WOW how enthralling .....

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LittleHousebytheRiver · 04/10/2011 13:20

Might he be a Yokel starting a sentence with "I"?

As in "Oi think you are lovely!" "Oi would like to get to know you"
But he became speechless in your presence? apart from the "oi" obviously...

TimeForMeIsFree · 04/10/2011 13:23

Zany I just got a similar message on Smooch but mine was a 'hoi' Grin

I'm getting far far too many messages from men without photo Hmm

stayfornoone · 04/10/2011 13:24

aye citalopram, or more specifically, cipralex, the proper form more targetted at anxieties. I was on it for a while, was fine with it, no side effects etc. I had GAD for a couple of years when I was younger.

Still keeping up with you all, just been working over the weekend :)

Zanywany · 04/10/2011 13:26

Right I'm going to set myself a timeline, if Mr Body hasn't mentioned a second date by Thursday pm then I will presume he's no interested. Is Thursday too soon / too long?

lubeybooby · 04/10/2011 13:26

Oh. My pic is now approved on smooch, and so it begins. Three messages ALL of them using loads of text speak and with less than desirable profiles. I think I might find it funny at least for a short while :o

EG this one:

"I like ladys especily ladys with nice eyes and nothing sexier than a lady who can put a smile on my face write soonxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

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lubeybooby · 04/10/2011 13:27

I think that sounds about right Zany, you will have given him plenty of chance without waiting around tooooo long

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