The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Blowing Away The Booze In The Autumn Breeze.

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Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

I'm mouse and I have an abusive relationship with alcohol. I can't have just the one drink, ever.

I'm not alone here, there are Babes who are sober and have been for some time, Babes who are still drinking and trying their best to stop or cut down and then there are Babes who aren't ready to stop drinking. Yet.

So, why not come and say hi?

No judgy pants allowed on here I'm afraid, cakes and cheeses are!

And for those who want to know a bit more about the Bus, HERE is our journey so far.

Its a good idea to chuck out the cooking sherry- the most revolting things are drinkable when you want a drink.

When I stopped we discussed not having drink in the house and for the fisrst few months DH would bring in what he wanted and throw out anything he didn't drink.

It does complicate things if you think DH needs to cut down too, but perhaps ask him to buy just for him. Try not to make it about his drinking.

I can't find the sherry, I wonder if I finished it another time. I did find some elderly avocaat, a weird Latvian liqueur and bit of rum. It's all gone down the kitchen sink.

I'll suggest that to DH, thanks for the tip.

yes ask him to buy just for him and to take anything he doesn't drink away in the car with him for example.

Morning - BOINGsnooooze. Up a lot with DD last night and had to dish out the no TV rule this morning. She was very upset and kept saying "please - I is saying a nice word". Bless her, I nearly caved but I thought of the knife analogy and kept my focus.

Anyway, very tired today but coffee helping.

Must do lots of work after slacking on the weekend. Just going to faff about with a spreadsheet first...

Morning Babes

Onemorning - This is where you have to be selfish for your own sobriety to even have a chance. You have to leave DH to it. If he wants to drink he will. You have to do what is right for YOU just now.

He may resent your not drinking, my DH struggled at first, the first time I stopped completely. It's not easy and if he drinks, you may feel that he's rubbing it in.

Just take it a day at a time. Getting rid of the booze is a huge step, (we have lots of alcohol in the house for Christmas etc but it doesn't bother me) now you can get some lovely soft drinks in, treat yourself. Spend the money that you would on drink on YOU, on treats.

Right, I'm off to do the new thread, be back soon.

Hi all
Drank last night, wish I hadn't. It was a tough day, I stood in the kitchen in the evenign, when DH out of the room, and thought a lot about why I did not want to drink and what consequences would be before I poured it out, then stopped thinking. Feeling upset about my mum (broken hand after latest fall) and about row with DH (him away for leisure activities too much for me to manage and maintain sanity), and just exhausted after DS birthday party and its preparations - probably with too high standards, home made everything.

The latter reminds me - i started therapy a few months ago because of irreconcilable aspirations - to be high flying highly productive academic and also calm and perfect domestic Goddess . Both impossible for me even on their own I think, let alone in combination. I'd got to a point of feeling comfortable with my real life rather than those two unattainables, but slipped back into it in face of the various family traumas of the week.

Looking forward to some boing tomorrow morning which means not drinking tonight. DH probably going to be away with work so I will need to be back on here later, not on the wine.

Hi one morning and a (( )) hug from me, forgive yourself and move on. I am tring to do so too.

saf think I am going to have to go downstairs now and put SoulIISoul club classics on [groovy girl with big dreads smiley]

thinice like what you are writing about dealing with shame. Well done on stopping - it's a big big deal.

legal I pm'ed you.

NEW THREAD HERE

Same as always, can we please fill this one up first so that we don't miss anyone? I'll keep an eye on the new one and direct newbies to this one.

Thank you Babes xxxxx

wow this thread has filled up quickly!

It's a good job I heart you IsinDe

This is from Spaqueen, I ve redirected her back to here.

"sorry, not been around for the weekend, but managed without a drink. there was talk of a Face Pack Friday, I think. can I take mine off now?

i am sure those of you who have been sober for longer than i have will have noticed this, but since i stopped drinking, i have realised how much of our culture is all about the booze. a friend, knowing i'd had a bad day, sent me a text saying 'have a large glass when the kids are in bed', and everyone i met on saturday morning said what a stinking hangover they had, and it just turns up every where..."

ha! now listening to soul II soul on you tube

Onemorning, mouse is right. You need to do it for YOU. Easily said. I?m a lucky one, whilst there was no adult to see my appalling levels of consumption, now there is no one to tempt me. I have to be in an alcohol free house. None for cooking. (any tips on replacements) Living in a bottle free house has a recycling impact too. No longer am I loading up the boot, trying not to clink the bulging contents of my bags. No longer do I have to feign nonchalance as I smash down the contents of a normal persons party, but were my solitary intake for 5 days. A friend wanted to put something in the boot last week. Normally, I would have grappled it from her and done it myself to avoid her seeing the remarkable contents. From such things, I take motivation. One strategy I have implemented is online grocery shopping. Firstly, no temptations down the aisles and secondly I love that I have a new identity that is alcohol free. No wine offers in my favourites list.

Saf love your pirouetting. You do seem to be fabulously active. Walks, decorating, tiling, fencing ?? I practically have had a house to paint for a year since builders left. I have failed to pick up paintbrush. My energy levels are steadily increasing so who knows. I should take a leaf out of your book. I do realise though that one of the factors in my drinking behaviour was to disable myself from doing things I was disinclined to do. My energy went into keeping the show on the road, which I did in a front of house superficial way. Now much mental energy on following advice of Babes who say ODAAT and no projecting. Aiming for no backwards or forwards thinking. Although will be going out on Wednesday, but aim to say coke for me, working tomorrow. If told one won?t hurt confident I can say one won?t be enough (will be totally irrelevant) so I?m not starting. Which is true, but they won?t know how utterly true that is.
PLEASE HELP ME BY TELLING ME HOW TO PUT PICTURES ON MY POSTS.

You can't thinice. You can only put them in your profile Do you know how to do that? x

Sadly, Mouse, NO x

Love the title Mouse
Hi everyone, have a poorly child at home with me today. It's one of my real, irrational struggles - just getting through the day, along with paranoia thrown in.
May drop in and out through the afternoon.

Okay, go into 'MyMumsnet' at the top of the page. You'll see a page that asks you to log in, use your e-mail and password that will then take you to a page where you can change or view your profile, registration details etc....

In the MyMumsnet bit, at the top of the page, you can go into photos. It will come up as 'photo gallery' with an option to upload pictures. Click on that and then browse your PC for the picture(s) you want to add to your profile.

I think you have to create a profile first.

If you hover over my name and click on it, you'll see mine and what I have.

Hope that helps x

noteven - sorry to hear that DD is poorly xx

And I'm glad you like it, just for you!!

Good thread title.

Nothing to report here. Just felt like posting because I'm a bit needy.

well guys, day 1 of the big diet. am going to get into that dress if it kills me. have exactly 28 days. i think including the not drinking as part of an overall diet plan might help me. Then I'm not wrestling with just one demon head to head - it's part of an overall deprivation healthy lifestyle.
Cutting out the carbs will be SOOOO hard for me though...

ma I have lost 2 lbs in the last week, dieting during the week, not so much at the weekend.

No carb tips:

• pitta bread are less calories and carby than other breads. weight watchers do some which are not great but ok if you need some carbs.
• butternut squash chips. Just cut up BNS and sprinkle in paprika or something and spray with fry light and put in the oven.
• if you eat carbs try to have them for lunch not tea
• no carb snacks: asparagus with parma ham wrapped round and put in oven for 10 minutes; roast chicken slices (without skin); lots of fruit and veg (not potatoes or bananas)

You do forget about carbs after a while honest...

Tis funny, how we now want this thread filled up in order to start the nice shiney new one , or is that just me and Indie?

I amazed at how good I am feeling at the moment, am thinking that it is the jogging in the morning!! It feels like it is killing me at the time, and the longest that I am running in one stretch is 3 minutes !! But I definitely feel much more boingy on the days that I have been out!! What is that about. And I totally and utterly blame demented. I'd had the app for my ipod for ages, but hadn't actually done anything with it.

There is no conceivable way that I could possibly do it when I was drinking. I would feel far far too awful!

So - wondering how long it will take to turn me into a toned supermodel .

noteven hope DD is feeling better soon, I hate dealing with the xchildren when they are unwell, really not a good nurse!

thinice I have been to the recycling glass place once since I stopped! I used to go about every 3 weeks [shame]. I do not miss the sound of clinking glass in the back of the car, and then my hands stinking of stale alcohol.

msgee I banned TV in the mornings here a long time ago, and it certainly improved everyones speed. I also found DS was getting up as early as possible in order to watch as much tv as he could cram in . We are a Radio 5 Live household much to both children's disgust.

Waves to everyone else.
Hopes this thread fills up mega quickly to allow us onto the shiney new one

Bafana

if you give yourself a calorie limit dementedma that will help - obviously with the diet but with the booze too as you wouldn't believe how calorific it is. back when i used to diet and drink i'd near starve myself so i could have a couple of glasses of wine in the evening not wise!