The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Blowing Away The Booze In The Autumn Breeze.

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Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

I'm mouse and I have an abusive relationship with alcohol. I can't have just the one drink, ever.

I'm not alone here, there are Babes who are sober and have been for some time, Babes who are still drinking and trying their best to stop or cut down and then there are Babes who aren't ready to stop drinking. Yet.

So, why not come and say hi?

No judgy pants allowed on here I'm afraid, cakes and cheeses are!

And for those who want to know a bit more about the Bus, HERE is our journey so far.

And hi onemorning. I've missed a big chunk of this thread so am not sure if you're new?

BOING!!! having a good day here, loads of sunshine, loads of decorating!! i feel all organised and efficient!!

'coatgate' has made me smile!!! you pair of daftys!! when dd was little i was a single mum, i dont think she had above about 5 new items of clothing a year, she was usually dressed top to toe in hand-me-downs, and very pretty she looked too! i do understand where the 'prickly-ness' can come from though, i was once offered a cooker (a very nice cooker but it was the 'wrong colour' i thought 'what a fucking princess, if the bloody thing isnt good enough you, its not good enough for me'! made me feel very poor and inadequate, now of course i see it for what it was, a kind gesture by a friend, not an attempt to make me feel shit!

Hi legalalien, I posted on the last thread but only the once.

just checking in
welcome dubs. the cool babes are at the back and the weary at the front. I am a serial relapser so often travel in the sidecar, too embarrassed to join the sober ones. i still get the bacon butties and stuff though.
Thurso should have drowned the bugger while you had the chance
today i had a lie-in until 9am - great - but have made up for it with two loads of washing, a ton of ironing, general cleaning, doing the inside of the kitchen windows (who knew they were transparent?), making a big pot of homemade soup and a chocolate and vanilla marble cake, and peeling horrible sticky lining paper off the bedroom wall! First time I've sat down today. Still got meatballs and spag to do for dinner and the ironing to put away and the bed to re-sheet, house full of wet washing - heatwave/shmeatwave. Dreich here, as Bafana so rightly says.

welcome aboard dubs - i don't think it's the cool people who hang out back there but the ones with hangovers! i'm a travel sicky up fronter too.

legal - thank goodness - i really have been worrying. will pm you

i'm really not prickly - well i am when it's people posting about how there are too many single mum's and they're all benefit scum trying to get council houses ra ra ra i was genuinely joking - i take the piss too much sometimes and assume people know i'm joking

hi onemorning. day one?

i've done some decorating and been into town with my neice, did my shopping whilst she hung out with a friend then met up and came home together - it was a training session on where to get the bus, how to read the timetable, what fare to ask for, where to get off etc so that she may finally be allowed to go into town on her own. i love teenagers, realise that's seen as odd.

went into a pub to use the loo and didn't buy a drink, had half an hour to kill at end and didn't go to the pub but bought a coke and sat on the grass in a church grounds. quite pleased with myself.

Well done Saf on not buying alcohol. That's never easy when you have time to kill and a pub near by!

Dubs - YAYAY you're back!

onemorning - welcome back to you too.

Had a fab day out at the waterfalls, it was pretty busy but so worth the hour and a half walk to get around the place. The Welsh mountains are amazing at this time of year. Golden browns, purple heathers and shimmering water making it's way to the bottom. So lovely to just stop and see, breathe in.

Got your message SaF- will sort on Monday. or more likely tuesday as have class on Monday!

I had to look up "dreich" as I'd never heard it before and found a great site called parliamo Scots

I've just poured a large diet lemonade, crushed some ice and sliced some limes into a tall glass, looks just like a G&T

Sorry to say but I'll be dashing off to watch X Factor soon with DD.

Might pop back later xx

Evening all, and welcome back to Dubs and onemorning
Onemorning can you tell us a bit more about you? You don't have to, of course. What is the plan? What have you tried?
I am worn out - the beach was full of children enjoying the freak weather conditions - I think it's the first time DD's swum in the sea this year! We had a great time, this was joyful sobriety at its best and if things had never got so bad I don't think I could have this feeling.

Hello everyone

After my 1st marriage ended I went to a fellowship for several years, but stopped going because I wasn't getting much out of it.

Started drinking again socially a couple of years ago, it's just become a bit of a habit and back to drinking large amounts. Not as large as before (thankfully) but bad enough.

DH and I have been going through fertility problems, and I think drink has become a way of not thinking about what the future will (or won't) hold. Today was a bit of an epiphany, I realised I want to live and to treat my body and mental health better.

thanks legal

how long has it been now dubs if you don't mind me asking?

Quick post before phone runs out of juice. Day 8 nearly done and dusted. Lovely family day today. DD seems ok too.

Off to bed now with a hot chocolate.

Day 10 DONE!!

Night night all xxx

Night Mouse and well done on 10 days. I had a quick look at those waterfall pics and wow. Stunning. You must be happily shattered from walking around there. Hope Nemo lets you get another good night's sleep. Any more test results yet? Going to see MIL tomorrow. She's BBQing for us. Bless her.

Hello Dubs and Onemorning

Well done mouse saf msgee all doing well

dubs are the things that you were masking emotional feelings, or life circumstances? (or maybe a bit of both). Of course we know that alcohol was only helping to hide the reality, and not making any of it better (and probably little by little, making it worse) but it still takes a brave heart to face everything without the blanket of booze.

On the coat-gate story, my sister used to get a wonderful bag of clothes every year from her neighbour. They were all very expensive and very pretty girls clothes. My dsis's daughter loved them but her ds felt quite left out, so every year he was allowed to choose one item from the bag for himself. One year he choose a lovely white lace bonnet. The next year he chose a short pink dress. Nothing would persuade him otherwise. He is now 25 and it's been many years since he's dressed in such sweet clothes

I have had the most wonderful afternoon with dd1. We cooked dim sum, and they were really lovely. Rather fidly, but so nice to be spending that time with her. I'm a happy mummy tonight

That is great dub it sounds as though you are doing exactly the right things, and getting the support you need and deserve.

Is there a aa/abstinence thread anywhere? Struggling to keep up with this one

Hi fairyloo, there are many on here who are in AA, and/or who drink nothing. And there are also people on here who are cutting down, and some who are still drinking quite a lot, but who know that their drinking is a problem.

I'm not drinking, but I'm not a regular AA-er (I've been to some meetings).

I don't think that there is a current mn thread that is just about AA/abstinence.

You don't have to keep up with every post on here. You can just do what helps you. Post about your sobriety, your meetings, your temptations. usually someone will come along quite quickly who shares your philosophy.

that's true fairyloo - if you post about you and your situation there will no doubt be someone on a similar or compatible path and you'll spot them/them you iyswim. feel free to just zone in on what/who etc is helpful to you i'm currently not drinking at all till november but will possibly decide to just carry on not drinking after that - who knows.

morning everyone day 9 here - up at 6am but feel fine. plans for today include sorting out the fencing at the far end of the garden (dog escape route) and going to ds's gp's for sunday dinner and not having the wine that will be repeatedly offered to me. i said no to a beer when eating their recently and it must have been re-offered to me at least three times - are you sure? you're sure you don't want a beer?

Morning

Saf how about taking some Becks Blue with you.

Fairyloo I think we all struggle to keep up with this thread sometimes as it can be get very busy, so don't feel you have to respond to everyone. Just pop in and out as you please.

If you are having a tough day or need a rant, post about it and someone will respond. There's almost always someone going through/been in similar situations.

Morning all! Boingy despite DD having another virus of some sort and I've got mouth ulcers and toothache. Not the greatest nights sleep all round.
Harvest festival this morning, then they do it again at school this week. Am trying not to turn into my mother and clear out the tins that we don't really want or are coming up to their expiry dates - I let DD choose, so it's all the things she doesn't like. Not sure that's better!
Hope all are ok today - my daily check in here is really helping, hope you all have lovely Sundays.