The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Blowing Away The Booze In The Autumn Breeze.

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Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

I'm mouse and I have an abusive relationship with alcohol. I can't have just the one drink, ever.

I'm not alone here, there are Babes who are sober and have been for some time, Babes who are still drinking and trying their best to stop or cut down and then there are Babes who aren't ready to stop drinking. Yet.

So, why not come and say hi?

No judgy pants allowed on here I'm afraid, cakes and cheeses are!

And for those who want to know a bit more about the Bus, HERE is our journey so far.

well I had planned a day out in the beautiful autumn woodlands in Perthshire, but it is pissing down so there in nothing else for it.......the lining paper in the bedroom from hell is coming off today!! did so many jobs yesterday to avoid it, that I have run out of excuses good and proper.
DS has just told me he has a sore tummy and his testicles have disappeared. Not sure what to make of that....wish DH's would!!!!

is it a nightmare to take off ma? that's what's up and painted over in ds's room. it's very tempting to just paint over it again for fear of what state the plaster might be in underneath. better actually check ds' testicles if you can bear it in case they have twisted up into his tummy - my nephew ended up in an ambulance because one was twisted up and had to be removed mind you he was a baby - how old is ds?

faire - good idea but weirdly drinking becks blue when others are drinking alcohol seems to make me want a drink (like it at home alone though) as it gives me the taste for it. think i'll just buy a bottle of something treatish for me and the kids to share like ame or something.

Morning all, no hangover today (hurrah!), going to get through loads of stuff that I didn't do yesterday. And the sun is shining.

Morning fairy, as others have said, there are many posters on here who are abstinebt, and many of those attend AA- I'm one of them.

This thread does move very fast, but its OK there are no tests- jump in!

Or please feel to PM.

abstinebt is an interesting state, similar to abstinence but without glasses on!

Morning,

Well this record breaking weather has certainly not hit the east coast of Scotland. Just dropped DD off at Church, and thought that I would get the shopping between that and the 11am service, only shop is still shut , so am sitting on my butt watching more tv and eating banana on toast and drinking tea!

My day was so hectic yesterday - I managed to watch the entire first series of Downton Abbey . I must try and do something slightly more constructive today!!

HAve a good day all
Bafana
x

weather here in London is still fantastic, and have just dispatched DS to a birthday "pre-party" to be followed by the birthday party, so feel a long child free lunch in the sun coming on .

DS and I spent half an hour this morning sorting through Ben10 stuff and miraculously, although there are vast number of detachable small parts (sorry SaF), NONE OF THEM IS MISSING (XLR8 does have a bad leg though). Apparently my constant nagging about looking after your things has not fallen on deaf ears. Which is nice.

Bafana - I watched the first series of Downton the week before last! I enjoyed it, but it does seem a bit soap opera-ish. I gather the BBC has a pre-WWI drama in the making and it will be interesting to compare them.

Morning Babes

Lovely lire in here

We are cloudy here today, but with the sun trying to peek through!

Welcome Fairyloo - it is a fast thread, and like Saf said, you 'll most likely find someone at the same stage as you in your quest for sobriety that you can 'pair' with. And we all have the same thing in common after all.

The falls have taken their toll on me, achy legs and hips today but I felt so pleased with myself for not letting my condition beat me. I was literally on top of the world and the views were stunning.

I'm off to help out at the castle later, volunteering and making myself useful so DH has Nemo for the day!

Roast Aberdeen Angus beef later, with all the trimmings and M&S hot chocolate fudge cake and extra thick double cream for afters!!

Day 11, here I come xx

one word - overdoing. watch yourself mousey!

oh joy more plastic bits to police legal

day 9 here

fencing is sorted and garden is dog proof again till ms houdini proves me wrong, again! washing done and hung out. windbreaker put up so that no one can see into the garden from the street anymore - looks weird but i don't care as it means one corner of the garden is not overlooked from anywhere now so i can sit and be as woo as i please in peace.

i think all is well here

I know Saf - I will go easy, just that I said I'd help out and don't want to let them down. They are desperate for volunteers.

I have decided that I am not going to drink until mid November when I am going to see a friend for her birthday. It will be a weekend visit and I'd like to head for that as my first benchmark if that makes sense?

Right, off out. Be back later xxxx

Hi Babes
been off bus and fell off wagon last week (yes, me too Isinde)
lots of contributors,
DH had lovely cycling weekend last weekend, whilst I had to deal with DS the second's biggest ever tantrum - to do with not being able to find right shorts for his football match. In addition, I had DH's relatives overnight - helping the son move into University accommodation. They were so uptight it was untrue - leaking emotion and stress all over place while not admitting any of it. (they are Southerners, a group I just don't always understand - perhaps due to being a Mancunian by origin) (DH was originally a Southerner - born in Baaarrrrth - but moved to Lancaster where he was known as 'The Posh Kid' and where he learnt something of ways Northern ).

Anyway, one of rels left bottle of wine in fridge which I did not take out - DOH - and which I proceeded to drink upon DH's homecoming on SUnday, thereby breaking my Fri and Sat only rule. Felt so angry, and then just as I was about to storm off for a walk and a calm down, DS the second fell over outside while playing footie and broke halves off two of his front teeth (yup, the adult ones of course!)
MOnday I spend at dentist's with DS 2 and trying to finish urgent job off for a team project whilst entertaining/cuddling DS 2
Later on Monday, my brother tells me my Mum had a fall on Friday, I call DH who tells me he knew this but had forgotten to tell me (this of course made me even more enamoured with him than I already was . I rearrange work and home schedule so as to go to see Mum and Dad who live two plus hours way on Thurs, really push Mum to have doc's appointment, she won't.
She phone last night and said she had been to A and E (on Saturday much more fun than on a weekday NOT), and has a fracture of one of the bones in her hand.

Meanwhile I cook, prepare, organise, etc for DS 2's birthday party this weekend, and have massive row with DH, which descended into counting number of days he away sailing or cycling - 15 of the last 60, and number of days me away = 1 - at Mum and Dad's. He did not seem to get it, we have had another talk this morning and I was really blunt and said this level of activity by all of us was just not going to do our relationship any good in long term.
Also am going into some quite challenging stuff with my therapist, which will help me I know but I fell a bit tender at the moment.
AAAAGH.

however, I am not drinking today, and I would love to have a couple of hugs or high fives from those of you on bus today. I know only too well that everyone's lives are just as tumultuous, but that it is nevertheless possible to be sober and deal with it all (much better than when drunk). Just remind me of it please!

PS for anyone who did not work this out, I am also premenstrual

PPS sorry for any inadvertent rudeness to Southerners

Hey clambering yep, it's always a challenge . But think about how much better you are dealing with it than before - have a and a high 5!!!
Being able to say to you DH that it is not possible to keep all the balls in the air when doing sooo much outside the home, is not a conversation I could ever have when I was drinking, I did not feel that I was worth it . I am glad that you could - and you should be too.

High five clambering and hi to Dubs - I think we met last time I was on the bus!

Skipping through day 9 here. Slight wobble last night but I sat tight an let the moment pass.

All ok here. DD keeping me busy making up for her days of constipation .

Big news is I bit the bullet and put horridbaby doll in the wash. Took her out, not a smidge cleaner. In fact her eyes just seemed to say "fuck you biaaatch". She is now smothered in stain devil and awaiting her turn in a long wash. Next stop ace bleach if that doesn't work. DD less enamoured with her, keeps saying baby pokes her in the back in the night...

Afternoon Babes

Well, a lovely day helping out at the castle, I felt like I had a purpose other than mum, wife, carer etc. The roast beef is in, spuds too and The Goonies is on in the lounge. What more do I need?

msgee horridbabydoll has it in fer you - get her out of the house NOW!!
all the lining paper is off the walls and ceiling and sloping eaves bit. Have plastered the small holes but the rest isn't too bad apart from very big crumbly bit under window. Now we need to sand down the plastered bits and little stuck on bits of paper, then we can do the undercoat and then, finally, paint the bloody place!!! What a job!
have to wait for insurance to pay out now for the carpet and cupboard doors then we can do the big switch with DDs going into big room and DS moving into small one. Be glad when its all over.

Right babes, i have seen the posh frock I want for November 3rd - have never done a link but might try. I have 4 weeks to lose some weight or it will look hideous. todays' huge plate of mashed potato and beef in ale casserole is not the way to go, I;m thinking
HELP!!!
www.ebay.co.uk/itm/BLACK-HEART-VELVET-GOTH-VTG-PENCIL-DITA-COCKTAIL-DRESS-/270791696078

Oh Ma you will look stunning in that. WOW!!!

How much do you want to lose? Cut your carbs in half at least and fill up on proteins, eggs, chicken (skinless) and fishes. Salad if you can, cereal rather than toast for breakfast, no refined sugar, baked beans and ketchup are both loaded.

Watch your salt levels too, it will make you retain water.

Try and drop to 1500 cals per day, try Food Focus, that's what I use when I want to check my cals verses my exercise.

Oh Ma I bet you will positively steel the night looking like that in that dress. xxx

I agree about the dress - it will look georgous. Also agree with the diet advice, you can lose half a stone in 4 weeks on a high protein, low fat, low carb diet. Have a look at the Dukan threads for some ideas. You will knock 'em dead

guess I have to stop drinking too huh?
You don't think the dress is too........young? I'm an old bird remember!!

Nope, it's a classic Ma, timeless. You'll look fab. xx

and have just eaten a family sized bar of fruit and nut!! is there any hope for me? I have ZERO willpower but so want to shock people by seeing me as someone pretty and feminine in a nice dress, instead of a middle-aged frump.

Well, I?m getting on. Since I found the very first page from JWN I have been reading and gaining support from your postings. So many messages have had resonance with me. I have been drinking 1-3 bottles of wine a day since 11/9/01. Anytime. My children have grown up with a drunken mother. I knew this was SO wrong but I didn?t stop. Realising I am not the only one has given me space to contemplate and strength to say enough. A good thing to come out of this shame is that to me there is NO doubt I am an alcoholic. Even with my first teenage drinking there was no off switch. My selfishness and indulgence have made me lose chunks of my childrens years I will never regain. But we still have the future. I don?t even have a hard life. I am a single mother (my decision) which has allowed my wine relationship go unchecked. My family are dead. However in every other way I am blessed. OK, plain and stumpy, but surprisingly healthy. I have now stopped drinking since 12/9/11. I know I am on day 20, but prefer not to count, just do odaat. It has been remarkably easy. But I choose my name thoughtfully. I am on very thin ice and I don?t know where all the weaknesses are. I have to tread very carefully because otherwise ?crash?, right back down I go. I realise I have to be constantly vigilant, there is an invisible cord really to pull me down any time. What a FUCKING bore. Will post this long stuff all about ME, but you have all really made a huge impact on changing me and my small family for the better. Thank you so much.

evening all

had dinner with family - stuck to a small portion and no dessert and sat quite happily drinking orange and lemonade with the kids and not feeling i was missing out by not drinking the red wine i kept being offered. day 9 done and dusted - into double figures tomorrow.

lots more exercise, less carbs and lots of protein and yes ideally no booze demented - could be a good motivation.

glad you enjoyed the castle mouse and hope you're not too sore.