The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Blowing Away The Booze In The Autumn Breeze.

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Hello.

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

I'm mouse and I have an abusive relationship with alcohol. I can't have just the one drink, ever.

I'm not alone here, there are Babes who are sober and have been for some time, Babes who are still drinking and trying their best to stop or cut down and then there are Babes who aren't ready to stop drinking. Yet.

So, why not come and say hi?

No judgy pants allowed on here I'm afraid, cakes and cheeses are!

And for those who want to know a bit more about the Bus, HERE is our journey so far.

and just in case, doing a friday night cooking thing is not trivial and irrelevant it is addressing how hard a lot of people find it here breaking the friday night routine of opening a bottle. new routines.

"Step 1 is difficult" - ironic, isn't it? For most of us, Step 1 should be the easiest - the evidence was staring us in the face before we even read it!

tbh, step 1 is as far as i have got! , i figure that it took me years to get to this point and now ive got years to do the next 11 steps, i feel no need to rush in to them!

that's the whole point of it being step one i suppose. can't get anywhere without giving up the idea that it is harmless to us, our friend etc.

so the stumbling block is reaching that point. not wanting to let go.

No-one is pushed away from here (and yes, I know, I have flounced but I did eventually get over myself and come back).
I am in emotional agony about my sister's reaction to my mum's death and the fact she hasn't let me even see her children since she found out about my alcoholism. That's over 6 months. I am possibly being self-pitying about this but it bloody hurts to be considered this way. I don't know if it's meant to be catching, or if, like so many, she sees it as a moral weakness, I might relapse at any time and am not an appropriate person to expose her children to. I am angry and upset and so, yes, I am more than capable of taking comments to heart.
But I hope I am also capable of now I've got that all out, just leaving it there and helping and listening which I am more than happy to do so juggling Myodd and anyone else wanting to go elsewhere, you are welcome to stay, go and come back at any time. As you wish.

just for jesus - i have started using cream blusher and i really like it.

I've got lots of leeks in my vegatable box this week - so any recipes that include leeks would be much appreciated

oh and i now have very dark brown hair

wow - I have missed loads. All interesting. You haven't offended me MYODD and MIFLAW is always ready to engage with posters who don't want the softly softly approach.
This thread may not have directly saved my actual life, but it has vastly improved it and certainly saved my sanity.
It's ok to rage and feel shite - drink does that to you. Just try and bear in mind that the people on here nattering about salad dressings and lipgloss today may well be back on tomorrowtalking about having been shit-faced, arrested, beaten up, sexually abused, social work involvment, abusive marriages, bereavement and a whole host of the other real stuff that they cope with on a daily basis, while battling the demon drink. They are strong, wonderful people but also vulnerable to attack - we piss heads are a sensitive bunch.
Stay with us if you can and if you dare - you will get help here.

quick post - nivea do a pearl something or other lip gloss which is nice.

leeks, leeks in cream / cheese sauce is nice. I don't have a recipe but my mum makes it and its pretty yummy.

saf - yay!

noteven - i feel very sorry for you!, it would break my heart to not be allowed to see my nephews and niece! i think i must be very lucky, my family have all been so relieved that i finally admitted the problem that they have positivly encourged contact, and plenty of it! they recognise that seeing the kids and being a good aunty is very important to my sobriety. - i guess thats why i got pretty mad earlier, to be written off as a danger and someone who is more than likely to to be drunk and stupid really pissed me off!

seems pretty cruel to her children too - my neice and nephews would be gutted if they weren't allowed to see me and ds.

speaking of whom i'm off to the school run with a stained forehead laters

The one useful thing I learned from DD's father (with the exception of not getting involved with a total ** and to take notice of red flags) was how to make sauted leeks.
Chop finely (abt half cm) and seperate the rings out a bit. Rinse in colander but don't remove excess water. Put in nonstick saucepan with well-fitting lid with about half an ounce of butter for every 2 leeks, freshly ground pepper and freshly ground nutmeg. Cook over a low heat, shaking regularly, removing lid as infrequently as possible, for abt 4-5 minutes.

Goes with everything and am off out to school - how brilliant is that - sobriety is amazing :)

i discovered mineral make up a couple of years ago, i absolutly love it!, i find its light and dosent clog my skin, dosent go shiny or flaky, i use bare essentuls or no7, i like clarins for for facial skin care and dove pro age for body skin care, i spend a lot on hair care as mine is bleached to within as inch of its life, i have regular pedicures/waxings/body polishing (makes me sound like a car! )i was going to the gym everyday until i found i have this foot thing, plantar something, bloody painful whatever it is - i can afford this as i save a fortune by not drinking!

oh and talking of cars (which we werent!) someone ask me what my new car is!!! im dying to show off!! im really proud of it and im even prouder of the reason ive got it! dh would never have sanctioned it had i still been drinking, now, he took me to the showroom after finding it for me!, just a little more proof that he believes in me and my soberity!

Plenty of food for thought on the thread today, head spinning trying to keep up with all the posts

Oh and JWN what's your new car???

well ob (jwn hops up and down with excitment), its an xk8 4.5 litre engine with HUNDREDS of extra gadgets, including speed limiter and heated seats and special headlights and mirrors and alloys oohhhhh i love it!! and it goes FAST!!!!

Wow JWN, a Jag, ok honesty time here, had to google xk8 to see what it was

jesus that'll guzzle petrol!

Hello again,

I'm not going to add much of any signifigance, but I just wanted to say to makeyourown... Keep posting on here, people will engage with you, or not, but don't leave because you imagine people aren't taken you seriously. Believe me, they will be, and want to help, if you will let them.
The first day I came on here, I had finally acknowledged that I had a problem, I won't go over it, because it's not helpful, but I took issue, and flounced, only to re-register (about 3 times), and explain what I was thinking, I'm so glad I did, and I hope you will feel that way too.
I've been on this thread for a while now, and truly, people do care because we are all here for the a reason, and the subject matter is the same, differing degrees, and aspirations, but even so.
Sometimes things don't come across very well, or as the poster might hope, but, often that's because we are trying really hard not to sound cliched, or trite.

I often post about stuff that isn't drink related, because this is the one place I can come to discuss anything at all, honestly, because sometimes writing it out on here is the one thing that keeps me from the fridge, and people on here know that. The reason I can't respond to your specific questions or thoughts (not that you asked me too , is that I don't know how to give you a proper, helpful answer, but, I do know that there are people on here who will, if you let them.

I hope this doesn't upset or offend, or do anything negative to anyone.
(peole pleaser here too, Venus)

Just wanted to share my thoughts
xx

Where's a peole when you need one

ob - its only new to me! (meaning second hand! ) its my third jag, ive had 2 x types before, both lovley cars but not in this league!

i'm glad you translated obrigada - i didn't have a clue either. congrats jesus

for facial moisturiser and serum i like ren. swear by the omega3 overnight serum.

AArgh, maybe I should re-read in future, too many spelling mistakes to mention .

P.s Fab car JWN, can you drive in high heels?