General internet dating support and chit chat thread

[lubeybooby]

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

Right Shiney I really do think you should get married, just think of all the potential dates for your online friends on here. Yes I know it seems like a big sacrifice but if you make sure he invites lots of single friends then you will be offering us all a way out of the shark pool dating sites.

Why do guys do this, act all keen, say they want a 3rd date but won't commit. Poppa ideas on a postcard please.

Only 2 days to go now till me date with Mr Body, me nervous, hell yes. I really like him already.

Hi everyone.

Shiny CONGRATULATIONS!!! I look forward to the links of wedding dresses. Maybe you could have a beach wedding in Oz while at the MN meetup so we could all be there!

lubey I can relate to the extra 10lbs of weight. I'm packing a bit extra too, some days it affects my confidence but at other times it doesn't. It's most definitely affecting me during this Indian Summer we are having because I had got quite comfy in my cover all cooler weather clothes and am seriously resenting having to shed the layers. I do want to get rid of it though so am starting low carb again. I want to be in fab shape for all those parties I'm going to be invited to around Christmas in my dreams

watch it was me who mentioned the lowering of standards and yes, you would be doing exactly that if you redated a failed date. Don't do it!!

charlottesmum Good for you!! Go forth and find new material for your research! I quite like OKCupid but it's gone a bit quiet for me. I've just had a message from a guy on LoveandFriends "hey, do you want to meet for lunch? Restaurant/drinks?" Checked his profile, he fits none of the criteria I specified and he lives in London!

I agree with Zany, Shiney should go for it just so that we can nab all the single men at the wedding for true love, it's only right and proper. :o

Charlottes - he must have a screw loose! Ditch him.

Watch, nice one!

Hairy - good luck, hope it gets sorted soon and you get laid

Time, it wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't already overweight and hadn't already worked so hard getting rid of 25lb of it only for 10lb to come back. Bastards. I don't even understand why hides danish pastry and whistles innocently

well I know where my blubber has come from lubey and that is from contentment! Being happy, relaxed and eating what the hell I want. It's been fab, but I don't like the flab!

Just got a message saying "your (sic) gorgeous"

Yes I am, mate, and you live in Cairo.

And he is 32.

fgs! Noooooo!

though he is incredibly goodlooking, half italian half egyptian.

Oh, now says can he take me to dinner, he will in in London in two weeks.

Zanywany.. "Why do guys do this, act all keen, say they want a 3rd date but won't commit. Poppa ideas on a postcard please." I'm not sure. If there's been no "chemistry" then chances are we're just being a bit proactive and given up rather than wait for the emotional kick in the balls better know as the "just friends" talk. The sad thing is I do tend to keep those people on as FB friends in the hope that their plans B through F didn't work out and then get drunken messages at 1am on a Sunday morning bemoaning the fact that the guy they dated the night before didn't come across or didn't like them. Pick me... dammit woman! Maybe I need to be like Shiney's silver tongued devil and just tell them I want to bend them over and fuck them so hard? Another option is that they just weren't into you. Call me shallow, but if I get a first date I'll always accept a second date, but by then a pattern may start to emerge and (given that the best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour) they're just hard work or some other red flag. Sorry zany... I went over postcard size yet again.

lubey and time... I work on the principle that brown fat is better than white fat, but if it's an issue just turn the light down/off.

Now he is offering me a practical deal just for sex then, as I told him he was too young for me.

He promises to do me 9 times in a night.

PoppaR, are you ignoring me?

(tis MmeD, btw)

My fat is brown Poppa, thanks to the fake tan! Although, I will admit to only slathering it on the bits that are visible to the public eye more recently.

I agree with Poppa, Zany, if a guy goes cold after a couple of dates then he can't really be that into you. There is no excuse for not committing to a next date, even if said date is days/weeks down the line. Communication is the key to keeping things going, if he isn't communicating bin him off and move on! NEXT......!

I've just got a message from a 22 year old to say 'Wish you didn't live in Nottingham' Hmmm maybe a bit too young for me.

Just sent a message to a guy on my quiver list on OKCupid, can't pin all my hopes on getting on with Mr Body on Saturday, was instant chatting again last night after ne had sent a few texts but there were lots of pauses from him so convinced he is maybe chatting to other women (or maybe even just poppig to the loo etc. lol). obviously once he has seen my profile then that should be it, no other women in his life . He did say he is looking forward to Saturday - god knows what I will wear, all my leg showing outfits need high heels

No Madame, you alluring gothic princess of darkness, I would never ignore you! Did I miss something?

I must admit I had to go out to the shops earlier (bought a little Charlie Bear fluffy toy for the GD and a DVD set of season one of Being Human) and I brought back a pack of buns so I'll have something to munch on while I read this thread tonight!

I am not a gothic princess, honest! I am more Katherine Hepburn in Philadelphia Story...ahem.

I did date a guy about this time last year who didn't commit to a 2nd/3rd/4th date at the time I was with him but would arrange things for later. I could tell he wasn't that into me, not just because of that but other things, but to be honest he was so damn hot I wasn't bothered. Shallow? Me?

The thing I worry about is metting someone, thinking you have amazing chemistry, leaving the date on a high and then they don't contact you or leave it a few days. I think this is why I often date guys who I know are more into me than I'm into them so that I don't feel let down that they don't feel the same. God that sounds pathetic - guess who has no confidence

Poppa Brown fat! Genius. I have 6 different types of fake tan so should be able to go nicely orangey brown by tomorrow.

It's too hot again though - this is going to seriously mess up my date outfit if it continues into tomorrow, which apparently it will.

Stand back girls as this ones mine

'Emotionally retarded and damaged man seeks significant other as emotional crotch.'

Mme... Yeah? Nah. Never did like Katherine Hepburn. Lauren Bacall was always my pick of those old time movie stars. Whack her into an old T-shirt and a pair of cargos in her prime and she'd still be the best looking woman on the street.

Zany... So you go on the date, let it run its course (whether that includes a shag or not) and you're left with the memory of the night (and maybe sheets that need washing or a broken vanity basin!). Maybe he calls or maybe he doesn't. It's human to want to be wanted, but the reality is that we're all individuals (no I'm not!) and we all have different needs, wants and desires. Your only other option is to never go on a date again so you'll 100% sure you'll never be rejected. If you're going to go down that path you'll need some bottles of gin and cats... lots of cats.

Zany... and a thesaurus... he needs a thesaurus as well, unless he means he needs someone to live between his legs crying?

Aforementioned Charlie Bear is now on my profile on MN...
Girls: Feel free to go "Awwwww"
Abs: Feel free to think "You fucking SNAG wanker!" :-)

An emotional crotch he is all yours zany!

awwwwwww! Arf. Thats not a bear.

THIS is a bear. He was my childhood companion for many years. Until his head fell off.

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It would be really sad to buy him again at the very mature age of 27 wouldnt it....especially now they are limited edition and cost nearly fifty quid. But...that was a real bear

Crap on a cracker stay! That bear has serious attitude!
My 2 1/2 yr old GD watches Charlie Bear so I bought it for her... but we might share.

Can you believe someone put that sentence as their opening one liner.

I am so tempted to cancel the date Saturday as I feel I am setting myself up for a fall. Maybe I'm not cut out for dating yet until I find my self confidence

Zany, going on the date will help with your self confidence in some ways, embrace the experience, enjoy the getting ready, have a glass of wine while doing so, put some music on, get yourself in the mood for going out but also prepare yourself for the fact that you might not like him. Try to alter your way of thinking, you are not going out with this guy in hope that he will like you, you are seeing him to assess whether or not you like him! If he calls you afterwards then great, if he doesn't call there are a number of reason why he might not but it's quite possible none of them are related to you, he may feel he is not up to your standards! Try not to think negatively about yourself because that doesn't help with self confidence