General internet dating support and chit chat thread

[lubeybooby]

Relationships seems the most appropriate place for this I think? Happy to ask for it to be moved if it's maybe better in _chat or something.

Anyway!

Chit chat your dating/internet dating claptrap here!

Also your hints and tips please for dating in the shark pit on the internet

I'll start.

I'm 31, single and rather fed up of it now. Have a few internet dating profiles, am trying to improve my social life and get out more, even looking out for possible additional temp jobs just to be.... 'out there' a bit more.

Even had a go at cosmic ordering which has been cropping up in dating related threads recently. Now I'm a very scientific and cynical kind of person but when it comes to my (currently appalling) love life I will try anything to give it a bit of a boost. Whether that be focusing the mind on the task in hand or strange unknown forces I care not.

Lubey well at least he got in touch and has his wallet so you can do fave restaurant!

I know, time... springs to my mind too.

It's weird though. He is very, very hot but in a different kind of way... and he is also clearly very intelligent and thoughtful. But he is quite hard work to talk to, like the other chap, he has a tendency to veer into a conversational cul-de-sac. However, when we do get onto a non dead end subject, he is wonderful and I could blardy marry him on the spot.

However... I also feel a bit out of my depth with him. He is cooler than me and more intelligent. But then he can be so lovely too like the hitch and bring sarnies comment.

oh fgs.

I don't know what to think. Someone look at his profile for me... I need an outside POV!! PM me if you want to have a nosey :o

All the Scottish guys I have know, which admittedly isn't many, all have a rugged, well lived in look about them. I don't have much good to say about the guys my age group in Yorkshire. They all seem to wear matching clothes and have that same look in their eye.......!

Goodnight people. 2:30am here so time for bed for me!

854 messages in ten days! Are we good or what! :)

Goodnight PoppaRob.

Night Poppa - and to think I thought this thread would just die and fall off the page! Clearly not.

It's a nice thread lubey

wow...just had a dentist appointment, expecting the usual battle axe and had the dishiest dentist ever. As in drop your knickers then and there! I didnt, the kids were present but...fear of the dentist? What fear?! All gone bahaha!

Just thought I would let you all know. As it has lots to do with online dating.

Oi! Nowt nowt wrong Wi t'Yorkshire lads

Hi, can I come and say hello? I think I may have a date for the weekend. I'm so out of the loop. Think it'll be coffee rather than evening thing. So can I ask you braver people what are your top three tips for first dates? Sorry I don't even know where to start. I thought of dipping my toe in then decided to jump off the deep end and keep my eye out for sharks.

Not much eye candy around my age though Abs

stay, I used to have a dishy dentist too and when those soft latex gloved hands gently brushed my face I used to go funny all over! it gave me a 'thing' for latex gloves

Hello notsorted!

Top three tips.

1. Wear something you are comfortable in

2. Decide on a couple of questions you want to ask and a an emergency topic of conversation just in case it doesn't flow, and memorise them

3. Relax and be yourself, smile, eye contact and enjoy :o

however in reality I always forget to memorise anything, wear stupid unsuitable shoes and too tight spanx, arrive at the date location hot and flustered, and end up spilling something down my top and/or tripping over but it doesn't seem to have put anyone off yet

On a first date I had a couple of months back the one thing I wished I had done was check to window in the ladies loo opened wide enough to escape from.

I was wearing something I felt comfortable in though

I've just seen this site mentioned on another thread, am thinking it might be worth a try. I'm liking the 'and friends' bit, sort of takes the pressure off. www.loveandfriends.co.uk/AA_Home.asp?

I just joined. meh, can't hurt.

So. Ecoplumber went on holiday to Spain for 10 days, last Sunday. should he be back by now? bearing in mind he logged on to GSM yesterday.

So, do I assume he is still on holiday and had a a chance opp to show my profile to his good friends?

Or do I think he is a player?

So he should have been back at some point today? I wouldn't worry yet, he might have a late flight or something, and has used wifi in the hotel or airport but just didn't log on til yesterday.

Ok. But I am grimly negative. Bet he pulled in espana.

Grh.

Sorry, the namechange is for an IPOAT adventure...

Gosh, lubey, have you done the Psychometric test on LoveandFriends? Now that is amazing! Has me down to a T!!

I hope not DonDiego!

Time no I haven't yet... might have a look tomorrow.

Now managing another good if surreal chat with Mr Friday about volcanoes in my garden and his poor wallet having PTSD. I have decided though, that he is out of my league and this will just a be a friends/gig buddy thing at best, and a swift running away (him running from me) at worst. I'm liking thinking of it like this - I will still give it my best shot of course.... but it's taking the pressure off to think of it as friends at best.

Good morning lubey. Sounds a sensible approach. I always work on the principle that pessimists people with realistic expectations are seldom disappointed.

we already talked lubey and I agree, I think your approach is definitely best. I dont think you are out of his league but...I know why you might feel that! Just go with it...see where it goes, all you can do :)

Mornin' Poppa :)

About 6 months and 10lb in weight ago, I wouldn't have felt out of his league... I feel like I've lost a sharper edge I used to have to my humour, (no idea why) and gaining weight hasn't helped this major confidence failure I've had recently. It's not like me to lack confidence. I'm working on it though. Fake it til you make it (only with confidence though )

Stay yes I agree with what we were saying in PM earlier definitely.