Dating a shorter man

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Any ideas?

Ive been chatting to a man on facebook for a little while, weve met through mutual friends a few times and really get along. hes really lovely and i think we could have a pretty good relationship (my first since dd was born) but hes quite a bit shorter than me and its really putting me off!

Has anyone experienced this? Did you get over it? and how?

I dont get many chances at starting relationships so I dont want to blow it by being silly!

Short men are a turn off for most women.

I feel sorry for short guys because there's nothing they can do about it but I wouldn't be attracted to one.

My DH is the same height as me (5ft 7). He is also very stocky and has the biggest muscles of anyone i know so I think he appears taller iyswim?
Doesnt bother me though, I still wear 5 inch heels on a night out and tower above him :)
He is the brunt of all short jokes and he really doesnt care. He's gorgeous and I dont think him being shorter takes away from that.

I know this threads gone off on a few tangents but i thought youd like an update!

He. Is. Amazing! he was so lovely and kind and just fab, we went to his house after and he got all his sons toys down for dd and let her have a nap in his cot and the whole evening was just perfect

the height thing was a little wierd at times but we had a joke aboutt it and got it all out the way and hes not at all sensitive about it which made it easier for me i think

it might take a little while to get used to but on the whole everything was perfect and i cant keep the smile off my face xx

Just wanted to say that I had always dated very tall men (all over 6ft), then I went out with a shorter man for a while (5'6). He wasn't ultimately the right one for me (just too different) but was such a dear, kind man that he completely reset the radar for me - I'd never have specifically gone for taller men after my time with him.

I think before I had sort of confused height and 'manliness' in my mind before then, but this guy was so kind and warm and caring - that I realised that's what manly should be!

So great news he's a lovely guy, and at the end of the day, if you can get over the height thing, then brilliant....

Glad to hear it op. Bet you're delighted now you kept an open mind :)

Glad you gave this guy a chance; it sounds like it all worked out.

There either is a spark or not.

I agree with RustyBear and others. Short Man Syndrome does not exist.

OP he sounds lovely glad you had good time.

It's a toughie, I'm 5'8" dh is just under, I often wear heels . It doesn't bother me though as he's very rugged and muscley and doesn't make me feel gargantuan.

However I had a relationship with a lovely man who was just a little it smaller but quite "slim" (weedy to me) and i couldn't get over it.....he had really thin wrists! He was too girly for me and I just couldn't fancy him at all. I'm thin and felt all spindly next to him!

Well done for giving him a chance OP - glad you had a nice time.

I am 5'8 and my DH is about 5'6. We both used to be really skinny and weighted the same (although he has always been sort of muscly/wiry and strong). Fifteen years on and I am 4 stone overweight - we look like Jack Sprat and his missus. This looks makes up look a bit 'odder' looking as a couple, but neither of us give a shit!

one advantage of dating a shorter guy is that genetically your children will be average height (due to interparental height averaging ebmcalc.com/HeightPotential.htm). For example a man of 5'6 with a woman of 5'9 is likely to produce a girl who is 5'5 and a boy who is 5'10 (ie. the exact average heights in most western countries). So your children won't need to worry about being either too tall, or too short!

My name is ForOldLandsEye and I’m heightist. There. Ive said it.

I think its perfectly reasonable to reject someone romantically due to their lack of height, just as it is for any other reason. Nobody should feel forced to date people they dont fancy.

I’m only 5 foot 6 and a half but after dating someone (ex) who was 5’8” for seven years, I do it again. He didnt like me wearing heels and in photos, he’d put his arm around my shoulder and neck to push me down a bit. Plus, it was like shagging a smurf if Im honest and he had the same size feet as me so I felt huge.

Current boyfriend is an ex rugby player and over 5’11” tall with size 13 feet! I dont have to worry about looking big next to him. It just makes me feel so good standing next to him. If that makes me awful and shallow then so be it. I tried.

I’m 5’7 on a good day
Over time I’ve come to realize I really like burly shorter guys who are super smart with mischievous personalities
My ds isn’t going to be tall (5’10 maybe?) he’s ridiculously handsome, green-eyed and charismatic. He charms a room in minutes and has people eating out of his hand 🙂
He’s kind & funny and loves smallies and babies
Not even a little worried about him.
I married a 6’3 galoot. Too big. (Exh)

Great update OP! Glad it went well. Great that you could both laugh about it too.

Im glad for the OP but some of the comments are awful. It's all well and good to say, it's just a personal preference but the societal pressure attitudes like this create are immense. Not within his earshot but I often get comments not taking our relationship seriously, or negative comments about his height. Never mind his intelligence or success or caring nature. And then there are threads like this that I can't help but read (why was the OP compelled to post?) and then wonder if everyone thinks I look ridiculous or like his mum or a 'tranny' ! You don't want to let it effect you but it chips away at you. I don't know why it's always open season on short men but I think its cruel.

As previous posters said, we wouldn't make a song and dance about any other attribute like ethnicity, weight, disability because we know it is hurtful (even if we genuinely feel that way - I have my own laundry list ). I personally think this attitude towards short men helps perpetuates toxic masculinity

There are a number of threads on mumsnet that question why a posters potential new partner is still single and on the market in their late thirties or early forties. They have never married or had children. It is usually at this point that a whole list of theories and accusations are put forward as to what could possibly be wrong with him for still being single. Commitment issues, being a player or possibly gay are normally the replies that the OP will receive. Prehaps it is not the individuals fault that they are single, a lack of height seems to rule him out straight away for a number of women. This is just one of the many boxes a man must tick in order to find a potential mate. Maybe they just got tired of being rejected due to factors out of their control.

On the flip side I'm 5'2 and really am turned off by tall men, especially the gangly ones! I prefer shorter guys.
I'd be massively turned off by a tall guy so get it.