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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sweeping Into Autumn With A One Way Ticket To Sobriety.

1000 replies

Mouseface · 01/09/2011 12:53

Phew, just in time!

I'm mouse and I love a few to drink. I love all things cheese and I love MrMouse Grin

Welcome to the Bus. We are a collection of drinkers, non-drinkers, and those who are somewhere in between but we all have the same thing in common, we can't just have 1 drink and then stop.

Come say hi, we don't bite Smile.

Here are the other threads to date, if you have a spare hour or seven to kill. Wink

OUR HISTORY

OP posts:
Scoundrel · 20/09/2011 22:28

noteven clean grief is good I think! I still haven't had that for my mum and it's been three years now Shock I drank my way through her death and the aftermath and I don't think I've managed sobriety long enough yet to let those particular feelings come in because I know they're going to hurt like hell when they do. I think it's good to let them flow over you otherwise those feelings will come out sideways in a way you're not expecting! Take care, sleep well x

MsGee · 21/09/2011 08:33

Quick check in, will post more later. In the meantime - Scoundrel you sound incredibly strong and the fact that you have been through so much with your daughter and you are still fighting strong, looking for solutions is incredible. I hope that your DD gets through this - she is lucky to have such an amazing much. x

MsGee · 21/09/2011 08:34

mum!! Amazing mum

sorry.

saf are we harvest festival-ing today. I love venus take on it about wrapping up things to save for the winter. Today I am going to write my letter to the baby and then I am going to list all the wonderful resources I have in store to get me through the winter. Hope that is ok. xx

swallowedAfly · 21/09/2011 09:21

sounds lovely msgee Smile

all ok here. day 3 and glad to not be waking up like i did on monday.

going to try and sort out the chaos zone that is the lounge/diner since building works a bit this morning but first having an extra cup of coffee back in bed after the school run.

think actual mabon (autumn equinox) is friday this year but the period around it is all part of it. think people were fed up of hearing about it though so i'll shhhh Smile

MsGee · 21/09/2011 09:32

Good luck with the chaos zone saf

I for one want to hear more about the woo of the harvest festival!!

obrigada · 21/09/2011 09:32

SAF, I, for one, am not tired of hearing about it all, I find it fascinating!

swallowedAfly · 21/09/2011 09:32

you can always pm me.

venusandmars · 21/09/2011 09:33

msgee that sounds like a lovely thing for you to do, just make sure to preserve things in sugar, vinegar or salt, and not to pickle them in alcohol Smile

I'm off for a few days, so won't be around for the start of the new thread - MOUSE are you paying attention, there are only 44 posts left on this thread Grin

thurso and ma I hope all goes well with dc. My dd seems to have settled well, although interestingly she has been in contact more than usual so there is clearly a little nervousness on her behalf (despite her confident blase approach). I have just realised that this is the first time in a couple of years that dp and I have been away without being a little nervous about what we will find on our return (following dd's 'secret' party 3 years ago - that would be the one with the 'not-so-secret' mess to be sorted afterwards). There are some silver linings to all this empty-nest stuff Smile

obrigada · 21/09/2011 09:34

x posted MsGee Grin

venusandmars · 21/09/2011 09:35

obrigada hope things are sttling down for you.

mouse only 40 posts left Grin

obrigada · 21/09/2011 09:37

Thanks Venus

swallowedAfly · 21/09/2011 09:40

have a lovely time venus Smile safe in the knowledge the house will still be standing and much as you left it when you get back!

ooh mouse - best get your butt out of bed!

Isindebetterplace · 21/09/2011 10:35

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bafanatheSober · 21/09/2011 11:00

boing
Morning all

Have been up bright and early, and went running again. All good apart from attempting to run up a hill, which almost killed me!!!

scoundrel wow, I have no words of wisdom, but you sound like an amazingly caring mum, and I am a little in awe of how tough you have it at the moment, keep posting - and know that you and your DD are in my prayers.
msGee writing a letter is such a positive and catharatic thing to do. I hope that it brings you a little peace.
saf am loving the "woo" stuff, please keep sharing Smile.
indie no projecting!! . Keep it in the day. Worry about tomorrow, when it gets here!!
Waves at obrig, venus and Noteven

Have sent mouse a text to let her know that her presence is required.

Our family's big news is that my FIL, who lives in the next street, has had word on when he gets his guide dog puppy. He is going to be a puppy walker. SO - she arrives in 2 weeks, she is a choc lab, and we are all very very excited! Lots of walks and dog type things to do. Children are super excited - and I am looking forward to almost having a dog without the total responsibility. So all good here. Grin

Have a fab day everyone
Bafana
xx

venusandmars · 21/09/2011 11:44

Ha ha ha. Here is something that never happened to me when I woke up hungover.

(ignore the article, just scroll to the end and watch the advert)

The morning after the night before

Original poster
Mouseface · 21/09/2011 12:06

Off to do new thread. Smile

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Ilovemypinkflowerywellies · 21/09/2011 12:11

Failed dismally last night Sad

Drank 3/4 of a bottle of wine because I had company round and already half a bottle in the fridge which I had been ignoring since saturday. Plus we had another bottle between us.

I feel yukky today my head hurts lots Sad And I am seriously disappointed with myself too , stupid stupid stupid why do I never ever learn.

bafanatheSober · 21/09/2011 12:16

Love it venus if that had ever ever happened to me, I think that I would still be drinking Grin

Waves to her little mouse friend! Morning Grin.

wellies is 3/4 as much as you were drinking previously? Can you pinpoint the emotion that encouraged you, given that you had ignored the wine for 3 days. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start again. You can't change what you did yesterday - you can let that help you make better choices for you today!

Zanywany · 21/09/2011 12:18

Morning everyone. A bit very upset this morning due to DP's inability to talk things over and not use it as a brain washing/manipulation exercise. Think I need to just accept that things aren't going to work. Yes I am too sensitive but realise I can't change that Sad

You sound like an amazing Mum Scoundrel, your DD is very lucky to have you and when she has got past this she will realise

Noteven sounds to me as though you are going through the different stages of grief. Keep looking after yourself

Mouse how are you today, any more black outs? Pleased that the scan came back OK

Saf I love to hear about the woo's, I am really interested in that sort of thing

Ilovemypinkflowerywellies · 21/09/2011 12:22

No I would easily have drunk a whole bottle or more before on my own, being honest I think i just got a bit 'I can do this' happy rather than anything happening to kick me into drinking it.

I guess I need to learn to walk before I can run in future because I feel really really urg today

Original poster
Mouseface · 21/09/2011 12:26

Hello all.

Sorry for the late thread, I forgot I'd be at nursery with Nemo this morning.

HERE is the new thread, same ask as always please - can we fill this one up first so that we don't miss anyone?

Thank you Babes.

Off to catch up. Smile

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obrigada · 21/09/2011 12:30

Can I ask a question off the Brave Babes who attend AA .... checked out meetings in my area (tiny) and beside one of the meetings is the letter S, which I understand means the Steps, my question is what is the difference between a Steps meeting and another meeting?

venusandmars · 21/09/2011 12:41

wellies "why do I never ever learn?" well actually, I think you are learning. What happened yesterday was an interesting experiment for you. You stopped for a few days, but then decided it was OK to drink 3/4 of a bottle. Do you like the result of that experiment? If not then that is something learnt. No need to feel stupid or to beat yourself up about it.

But if I could give you some advice, I'd say that repeating the experiment is VERY likely to give you exactly the same result Smile.

You may also like to learn from the wider conditions: you had half a bottle of wine open in the fridge, your friend either came with wine or you'd bought it - either way you didn't have a plan for how to deal with it.

None of what I have written is intended to be 'tough', it's just what I have found out through my own experiments Smile

Scootergrrrl · 21/09/2011 12:41

Oops - got excited when I saw the new thread! Blush

Am celebrating two wine-free nights by making chocolate brownies! Anyone want one?

venusandmars · 21/09/2011 12:45

obrigada I'm not much of an AA attendee, although I have been sometimes.

If MIFLAW were here, I think he might say that a steps meeting would be one where if you particularly wanted to follow the steps, there would be people there who could support you, and who would speak about their own experiences, HOWEVER, that all meetings are for anyone, so you do not have to be immersed in the step programme to go to it. I think he has posted before that in his experience, often the meetings all look very similar regardless of any specific title they are given.

Please, please do not let the letter 'S' put you off trying out something that might help you.

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