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A quick peck on the lips from a male friend, what does it mean?

302 replies

waitingfornaru · 11/08/2011 16:50

I have been chatting to a man virtually every night on facebook for a couple of years. He's a family friend, we occasionally cross paths. Our conversations on there are mildly flirty every so often but neither of us like to progress into anything uncouth online.

Every night otherwise, near enough, talk about anything and everything. We don't use the Chat function or send private messages to eachother (Ok, about 2 each in two years), my reason mainly because he's already told me things like everytime he logs on, particular women always instantly send him messages, so I don't want to be like that. I also agree with him that there's nothing we can't say in 'public' on facebook, so no need for private messaging.

At a family wedding, we had our first real opportunity to sit and talk to eachother for several hours, having previously only been in the company of other family members or similar, here we were pretty much together most of the night, having both drunk, but him only a couple of pints, I gave him the usual hug goodbye and a kiss on the cheek, but he gave me a quick peck on the lips. It wasn't a misjudged aim.

What does that peck mean?

Everyone says that he likes me, but if this is alluded to in facebook conversations we both deliberately ignore it and try to change the subject!

We are both single by the way and in early 40s, both out of very long-term relationships exactly two years ago, both of us.

OP posts:
waitingfornaru · 23/08/2011 14:44

For anyone who's watching Corrie, I do believe I am in as much of a tizz as Julie over this man Haha! Grin Goddamn hormones!

OP posts:
catsrus · 23/08/2011 14:53

DITCH THE NEPHEW!

you do not need or want him there.

you go girl!

Pakdooik · 23/08/2011 15:23

You are a grown up woman wanting to go on a date with a grown up man. The date may end up with more than a peck on the lips but not if the effin nephew is there.

DottyDot · 23/08/2011 15:33

FGS ditch the nephew - you've made me stop lurking just to post this! Grin

ReadyToDrink · 23/08/2011 16:00

Another lurker - DITCH THE NEPHEW.

(Good luck Wink)

AnyFucker · 23/08/2011 16:37

Please ditch the nephew

You don't need chaperoning by a teenager

Can I again, or will you get upset ?

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 16:48

By 'not very English set-up' I meant that the references to an extended family all spending time together inter-generationally etc etc, smacked of a large Asian or Italian sort of family, all very intertwined and interdependent, rather than the typical, quite insular nuclear set-up which is the typical British family. I started to wonder whether there was a cultural/religious reason for the pair of you being quite reticent and coy, that's all!

Now, you have a started drip-feeding all the flirty stuff (WTF did you not volunteer this before? Hmmm?) I am even more sure you need to ditch the nephew. I just don't understand why YOU don't realise that, given what you've just said in your last post. GRRRRR!

schmarn · 23/08/2011 16:52

Men don't send emails and messages to a woman every day unless they fancy them. We're just not wired to spend that amount of time on a platonic friend. He fancies you. Fact.

The reason he hasn't made a move is that from his perspective he has dropped loads of hints to you but hasn't received a clear signal that you fancy him. Men are very straightforward that way. He upped the ante by kissing you on the lips and you walked off at the end of the night rather than reciprocating or saying something encouraging like "I was wondering how long it was going to take you to do that". What was he supposed to think?

Just go out with the guy. You don't need a bloody chaperone as you have known him for years and you speak to him every day. You both sound like two lovely people who are so humble you can't see that the other one fancies you. I wish you all the best just please for the love of god, don't let this slip away by not at least seeing if there might be something there.

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 16:54

And FOR CRYING OUT LOUD no, it is not 'inappropriate' to go for a drink at the cinema bar first!

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 16:54

Sorry, fogot to add a big Grin I'm not cross with you, just frustrated.

waitingfornaru · 23/08/2011 17:37

Ok. Arrgghhhh! Shock

It's T minus 2 hours to go. The Nephew is going to pull out on feeing poorly terms.

It is just him and I.

WIBBLE!

I can't even think about this man anymore without going into palpitations, what the hell is mother nature playing at?

The rain's clearing, the sun's peeping through. I am absolutely terrified.

Would it be noticeable to have a quick Baileys before he turns up, do you think? Blush I really need to steady my nerves. Can someone please send some cosmic wishes my well that Fate will intervene this evening for the best, I really need some support!!

Sometimes I'm so scared I think I'd have been better off keeping this all as a safe fantasy in my head.

I promise this is my last post now before he turns up and I will report back after midnight or tomorrow Smile

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 23/08/2011 17:39

have a double whisky, never mind a Baileys

DancesWithWolefCubs · 23/08/2011 17:43

Good Luck, have fun, and thank fuck you've ditched the nephew Grin

And you had better be back with a bloody good update, ok

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 23/08/2011 17:43
AnyFucker · 23/08/2011 17:44

< waves at stratters >

DancesWithWolefCubs · 23/08/2011 17:45

I'm home AF, I am back home Grin

OTheHugeRaveningWolef · 23/08/2011 17:46

Sending good vibes! Grin

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 17:46

Oh thank the lord for that.

ImperialBlether · 23/08/2011 17:49

If this OP doesn't tell us later what happened, I will hunt her down and kill her!

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 17:50

I'll hand you the gun.

AnyFucker · 23/08/2011 17:52

goodo, stratters Grin

coffeeinbed · 23/08/2011 17:55

FFS!

Sorry, this threads is just so frustrating, it makes me want to cry.

AnyFucker · 23/08/2011 17:57

now, now, CIB, patience is a virtue

coffeeinbed · 23/08/2011 17:58

Oh!!missed the Baileys bit.
Get a proper drink woman!

FellatioNelson · 23/08/2011 17:58

where have you been Sarah? Confused Sorry - a bit behind with the times due to dratted RL getting int way.

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