I have been chatting to a man virtually every night on facebook for a couple of years. He's a family friend, we occasionally cross paths. Our conversations on there are mildly flirty every so often but neither of us like to progress into anything uncouth online.
Every night otherwise, near enough, talk about anything and everything. We don't use the Chat function or send private messages to eachother (Ok, about 2 each in two years), my reason mainly because he's already told me things like everytime he logs on, particular women always instantly send him messages, so I don't want to be like that. I also agree with him that there's nothing we can't say in 'public' on facebook, so no need for private messaging.
At a family wedding, we had our first real opportunity to sit and talk to eachother for several hours, having previously only been in the company of other family members or similar, here we were pretty much together most of the night, having both drunk, but him only a couple of pints, I gave him the usual hug goodbye and a kiss on the cheek, but he gave me a quick peck on the lips. It wasn't a misjudged aim.
What does that peck mean?
Everyone says that he likes me, but if this is alluded to in facebook conversations we both deliberately ignore it and try to change the subject!
We are both single by the way and in early 40s, both out of very long-term relationships exactly two years ago, both of us.
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A quick peck on the lips from a male friend, what does it mean?
waitingfornaru · 11/08/2011 16:50
Next time you are on FB with him, let the conversation go openly on status's - the just switch to 'chat' and say 'fancy a coffee sometime?'
Do it ! A blossoming romance is making me feel warm & fluffy 
It's only coffee...what have you got to lose?
Rope in sister to have an emergency once you're there?!
Four becomes two.... 
Oh, yeah, what everyone else says
For your information, I'm a social lip-kisser. But in your situation, I think it means what you want it to mean - because of the nightly chats online. You've obviously got 'something' going on between you :)
Ask him out!
In my customary role as the voice of doom, I'm a bit worried about his remarks wrt to hordes of women trying to hunt him down. Even though it's probably true, it's a tad unseemly to say so. He might be a player and/or have an insatiable ego. Then again, he might just be bit goofy and have thought this would make you interested. You won't find out until you get to know him better in real-life
SGB - you could be spot on...never thought of it that way and I've known a few bastards like that
ImperialBlether I have lots of married women and men on my facebook too, it's common in your 40s ~ most of your friends, colleagues or old schoolfriends are married by now.
Effectively, he is speaking to me privately, in as much as there is nothing we cannot say to eachother on facebook in public that needs to be private. I dont like private messaging him, he gets enough of that from other women.
It isn't about having balls. Perhaps he just hasn't asked me out because he doesn't think of me that way 
He's two years out of a very long term relationship like I am. Perhaps he is stil re-adjusting, like me. Oh I don't know, I give up, perhaps I should forget about taking this any further and just carry on talking online as we always have done than risk rejection. I'd be devastated to lose him altogether by declaring anything 
I'm so confused.
I heart you ImperialBlether for not being on FB and sounding slightly confused...And I had my first Laugh Out Loud for days at JanMorrow "slip him the tongue". Brilliant!
Sorry. As you were.(nearly Friday)
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That's correct Imperial, he doesn't like private messaging anyone. Neither do I. I have nothing to hide.
Sharing a taxi from my sister's is off though, she lives in the same village, but it's a good ten minute walk between our homes through a quite dark ginnel with a gap in the houses and a canopy of stars above, it would only be gentlemanly to offer to walk me home, wouldn't it
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