I have been chatting to a man virtually every night on facebook for a couple of years. He's a family friend, we occasionally cross paths. Our conversations on there are mildly flirty every so often but neither of us like to progress into anything uncouth online.
Every night otherwise, near enough, talk about anything and everything. We don't use the Chat function or send private messages to eachother (Ok, about 2 each in two years), my reason mainly because he's already told me things like everytime he logs on, particular women always instantly send him messages, so I don't want to be like that. I also agree with him that there's nothing we can't say in 'public' on facebook, so no need for private messaging.
At a family wedding, we had our first real opportunity to sit and talk to eachother for several hours, having previously only been in the company of other family members or similar, here we were pretty much together most of the night, having both drunk, but him only a couple of pints, I gave him the usual hug goodbye and a kiss on the cheek, but he gave me a quick peck on the lips. It wasn't a misjudged aim.
What does that peck mean?
Everyone says that he likes me, but if this is alluded to in facebook conversations we both deliberately ignore it and try to change the subject!
We are both single by the way and in early 40s, both out of very long-term relationships exactly two years ago, both of us.
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A quick peck on the lips from a male friend, what does it mean?
waitingfornaru · 11/08/2011 16:50
Haha AF, I never got that glass concept! I stumble upon a glass with liquid in, my perception of measurement is not indicative of my current optimism at that moment, but rather why it's abandoned there, half drunk.
This isn't about being cautious. I don't think I'm ready to move on yet 
I'll find out this weekend, I feel something in the air.
ImperialBlether Sorry, yes of course she could! She would be most happy, any excuse for a party, just have to think of an excuse for one and try to sort out my childcare. That's a better idea than the pictures.
I am feeling more and more pessimistic as this thread goes on though, it's cathartic, I think it is helping me to realise this is all just fantasy. I feel pretty silly.
Dangnamn him for planting a tiny little kiss on me, he must have some strewth pheromones for it to have this reaction in me 
Either that or the ol' Scorpio has dug itself out of the ice glacier she's been under these last two years!
Ladies! A new instalment!
Albeit online, I have asked if he would like to come with me to the pictures and yes I did add that my sister and her partner would be coming too, I know, I know 
and he has said yes alongside a little more mild flirty stuff. Ahhhhhh all the while playing onine Scrabble too I am multitasking tonight
I will report back later this week promise.
hah! Is that why you are up so late? Could you not sleep for the excitement? Good for you - I think it sounds very positive.
Mumofjz That's the loose plan, yes. There is another film I'd like to see that I believe he would too, in which case, although the only real chatting on this occasion can be done in the car journey to and from, I can ask then if he'd like to see this other film.
Do people have a quick drink before the pictures? ~ opportunity for some talk I suppose?...
I am arranging a film night with my sister and partner in tow too, only because I am still unbelieving that this man would be interested in me romantically. If there is opportunity for talk, perhaps a kiss goodbye, I suppose how that pans out dictates for certain whether there is any interest. It's an important evening for me.
Now I have to worry about what to wear Arggghhhh!
He's already seen me in casual gear, dressed up formally for a function, I am generally pretty conservative dresser by nature, but I need to gently hint of an actual female form behind the nerd, without showing too much skin. Given my stats, this may be awkward. New thread required I think ....
Need some help!
The cinema idea is off now as my sister and her partner can't go they have babysitting probs, so now it's left to me to either forget the idea or somehow work into a facebook convo would he be ok going with just me instead.
Problem is, he might then think that was my plan all along and I don't want him to think he's being 'played'. My sister said 'it's obvious to anyone he fancies the pants off you', but it's not obvious to me and again that thing about if that's true, why has he not made a move in two years?
I still think he is getting over his last relationship (very, very ... very long term) which is why I have also been so slow to push things.
SO .... can anyone giveme some help on how to word the change of plan, ie that it would just be us two, without it looking like I have been trying to be underhand about getting us together alone 
This is all such a faff.
I think you are overthinking this. Just be honest, I think there has been enough dancing around each other for the last couple of years. Tell him your sister's babysitter has let them down but you are still happy to go if he wants to.
Good luck and have fun 
What all the others are saying. Just tell him the truth about your sister's babysitter. He'll probably be relieved that it's just you two going tbh. Less pressure
Yesd and then he can snog your face off. he couldn't do that if they were there.
I realise I may be getting a tad ahead of myself here.
Excellent flimflammery
I just suggested that to my sister.
FellatioNelson : 'Say 'Oh Gawd, you are probably thinking this was some plan I hatched! How embarrassiing! '
Not a chance of me saying that!!! 
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Well I have finally managed to arrange childcare and evening at the cinema for this Tuesday with myself, Gorgeous One and my nephew. Nephew is being dropped off home first then driving back to mine where Mum is looking after the children, so a small opportunity for chat outside of Facebook.
Recntly learnt however that he also has kissed my other sister goodbye in this fashion, so it seems it really must all be fantasy on my part.
I am feeling more philosophical lately though and havebegun to trust in Fate. I always did feel he couldn't possibly be interested in me in such a way, so I guess I am resigned to just enjoying the free endorphins while they last.
I will post back on Tuesday night, but I do wish either me or the Shy Man thread have something happy to report back. It's no comparison having cuddly little ones to hug all day, when that longed for and half-remembered full body hug of the rock solid wall of a man is so unfamiliar to me now. Please dear Fates allow me a small reprise even if just for one evening. Do I not deserve it after all those years of fending off a pickaxe from the glacier?
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