The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Here's To STAYING On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

I have an abusive and volatile relationship with alcohol.

This is the Brave Babes Bus, it's filled with sober, drinking and somewhere in between Babes who are all here for the journey ahead, whatever that may entail.

EVERYONE is welcome on this Bus. No-one will judge what you are going through, what you drink, what you don't or what you do.

Come take a seat.

Take a peek at the journeys so far (including the thread by JWN that started this whole journey off) HERE

I think there are some online meetings (don't know how they work).

A few years ago (yup I've had various attempts at dealing with this ) I was on a couple of forums, but they were so, so different to this one. Almost every week they got into AA versus not-AA arguments - very vitriolic arguments. People copied and pasted whole chunks of the Big Bookl and other AA publications to fuel their arguments. People accused others of posting when they were pissed (and tbh some of the posts read as though people were off their faces), and people 'outed' others who they'd seen drinking, or whom they thought they'd seen drinking. It was a nightmare.

How did the karate go last Saturday SAF?

don't cry SAF - there are some real twunts on here sometimes. not this thread, MN in general I mean. You are doing brilliantly, don't give in.

Hey SAF you don't have to read the other stuff, try to ignore and stick to Brave Babes, it sounds to me like you have great fun with your DC.

Morning all.

afternoon!

SAF!!! i have been a single mum, i was once called a parasite by a very snotty cow when dd was little and i asked for some extra time to pay a playschool bill! (this was in front of all the other parents!) , well, just for bit of poetic justice, she was made brankrupt after it emerged her dh was siphoning off company funds and was nicked!, honestly, im not usually one for enjoying another downfall, but i admit to a small smirk when i heard! just ignore the comments!, you know you are a good parent and they never know when it might be their turn to walk in your shoes!

Saf - I'm glad I've been away from MN on the whole whilst on holiday. My blood boils at the tripe these idiots are spouting about single mum's on here. I daren't read them all. The riots have affected my family and it's so upsetting to see. The last thing that I need to get involved in is single mother/class/social up bringing behaviour threads. So .

Don't be upset by the ignorance of others. Sometimes you just have to let it go. You can't change the way everyone thinks, and let's face it, they're mostly sheep just following the crowd. Hugs to you xx

Hello Babes, I'm BACK!!

Had a wonderful holiday, we really did. Came home to utter hell but it's too long a story to go into. Bathroom related. Water, leaks, no loo, sink, shower or bath.

So, I'm going for a long walk later with Nemo who had the best time ever. Such a big boy now. I didn't realise just how much washing you can produce in one week. WTF? I feel like I'm running a laundry.

Saf - I saw your dilemma. Can I say that I did the same on Thursday night? I didn't know what I wanted, the bar was rammed so I caved and went for wine. It too was utterly vile! The new Bulmers No. 17 however, is lush. It's 4.5% and is pint sized so lasts ages. I have decided to stick to that over ice for a while. No more wine.

I guess that in a day/night, I'd get three Bulmers in. Which is a whole lot less than if I drink wine. I'd do a bottle of wine easily, and then some.

This way, I can plan my night, not buy any wine, and sip this slowly rather than necking down glass a every ten mins.

How are we all?

Legal - you sound me in lots of ways...... the worry about never drinking again etc.........

Ma - great news about DD1. xx

Good afternoon ladies (don't think Mif is around at the weekend),

Back (for a minute) after MIA!

Strange, and not great week, so much driving haven't been able to have a drink, but, by crikey, I feel like one tonight.

Dc1 went straight back to Gf's house after one day at home, and Dh and I have been across country emptying DC's student house, and transferring it all here, in the meanwhile taking DC2 up to London for work experience, in the middle of all the riots, and collecting him at midnight, two days later.

We are very lucky though, all safe, and not a big deal in the scheme of things.

I felt weird, indeed on Friday night with the house empty, and knowing that this is how it will be come October.

Ma Guess how Dh tried to make me feel better this morning! As if!!!!

I'm sorry for not reading back, but on this page, you all sound good.

Saf Take no bloody notice of horrid things that you read, I have never been on another thread (maybe too scared of reading bad things that will relate to me!), but you sound like a great, thoughtful and lovely Mum, does it matter if anyone is single or not, if you can be like that?

Mouse So glad that your holiday was good, give that big boy a hug from Auntie T!

Take care Babes
xxxx

mouse glad to see you back.
thurso both dds are due to leave in September so I know how you feel. although I am not totally convinced DD1 is going to go to college. she doesn't seem remotely enthused about it and hasn't found any digs yet. don't know what the hell is going on in her head.

Ma!!!!

The same here!

Dc2 looks like an A&F advert, parties in Chelsea, but I really wouldn't let him cross the road on his own.

He seems completely unconcerned about the results next week, but maybe that's a failsafe mechanism. All the same, sometimes he does need to think!

hey thurso
I'm sure DD1 is going to bottle it. She doesn't seem to have any get up and go.
Dh is still pestering me in the usual manner - nothing changes there

Babes were all quiet last night. Everyone OK?

Hi everyone.
I've been going for the not reading ostrich thing lately. I feel that if I met me, I'd judge me, so why shouldn't anyone else.
I guess that just for today I am going to try and put it right and that has to be enough.
Will pop back later - church and swimming today which is all good.

Morning Babes

All's good with me venus - how are you lovely?

noteven - keep focusing on the task ahead....... getting YOURSELF back together

Brunch next, yum. Be back soon xx

morning!

noteven - we can all look at ourselves and assume others will judge us, even the 'non alkies' do stuff that is judgeable! - all any of us can do is just grit our teeth and get on with the day!

you can all judge me for a lazy person today, all im doing is a bit of washing and then sitting in the conservertory with my book! lazy lazy lazy lovley!!

I'm still in my jammies

Supposed to be cleaning but the builder is here so I CBA. I can't even have a cuppa as we've no milk. I'm sending DH out. Nemo and I are just going to chill.

Happy days!