Had meeting with DV woman today.

[Lemmingswife]

Met up with her at my HV's house.
Session was tough & I had to go through everything that went on at home.
DV officer was shocked & terms it as serious emotional abuse.
Told me a little about my rights regarding the house & has advised me to make photocopies of all personal stuff, like childrens birth certificates, mortgage details, marraige certificate etc.
HV is really starting to get other bits moving.
Very scary.

How are you LW? How was your Christmas? I hope the boys had a fantastic time and that you managed to get through it without any major stress.

Hi LW, just wondering how you are.

LW - hiya!
Happy Christmas, HNY, and hope all has been hunkydory and calm. Really sorry to hear about h's aunt - v v sad.
I'm back after having been snowed in with my M&D for an extra 2 days, but it did mean ds got a chance to try sledging.
Haven't checked my e mails yet - will e mail you tomorrow.

Nice to hear from you Blu. I am glad you had a nice time at your Mums. We had big snow at my sisters & the boys loved it.
Christmas was ok but there have been a few stresses over the festive period.Am having a few probs with my net ATM & am posting from my Mums but will e ASAP.
Happy NY

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Hi Essbee. Hope you had a good Christmas.
I am posting from my Mum's again, as our pc is playing up again.
Sorry, pip & CQ. I have just spotted your messages. I had a calmer Christmas than last year, but H has had his moments. Will post more when I get back on my own pc.

Hiya - I'm back and just wanted to pop in and say hi. Sorry you're having computer problems. Will email you.

Hi, dinosaur. Hope you had a good Christmas.
My pc is still not playing ball & we are in the process of changing internet providers, although I will still keep my hotmail account for my mail.
I am posting from my Mum's again today.
My last two posts were rushed & jumbled, because you can get walked in on at any moment here!
H is back at work today & I go back tomorrow.
I have pushed a lot of the heavy stuff right to the back of my mind over Christmas, but yesterday I really started to think about it all again & my head feels like it is going to explode with it all!
My next meeting is on the 11th of this month.

Managed to have a bit of a chat with my sister abut H, over Christmas. I didn't talk abut any of the heavy stuff that's going on, just spoke about my relationship problems, as he was nasty in front of her again.

hello - people do seem to have probelms as soon as you change internet providers - hope you get it all sorted out.

I hope your sister was understanding when you spoke to her. In a horrid sort of way, I think it's quite good that H displays his harsher side in front of her - no possibility of anyone thinking you are over-reacting, etc. Sorry he was nasty, though.

It might help a bit to be back in your routine - hope the return to work is smooth.

How have the DS's been over Christmas, esp DS1?

Hi Blu. I am posting from my Mum's again, so will be brief.
My sister was understanding & adnitted to being a bit scared of H herself.
She said that both BIL & herself were shocked at how he was getting cross with me & pointing the kitchen knife at the same time, during one of their visits.
My head is swimming with next weeks events atm. It was H's aunts funeral today, so everything seems such bad timimg.

Ds's had a good Christmas, BTW. They really enjoyed it.

Hi LW, glad your dses enjoyed their Chrimbo and things sound as if they were relatively calm for you too.

Perfectly understandable that you pushed things to the back of your mind over the holiday period, and also perfectly understandable that it's a lot to deal with now that that's out of the way.

FWIW, re: your previous comment about how you seemed completely in denial when you first started posting - yes, you did, again understandably so. You have come such a long, long way in the last year, you have every reason to feel proud of yourself. Okay you haven't yet conquered the mountain but you are doing brilliantly, here's hoping 2006 brings you peace and happiness.

Hi LW - hope the return to work has been ok, I'm in shock after 2 weeks on the sofa!V pleased to hear that your Sister and BIL are both in the picture - and it doesn't take anyone much of a leap of imagination to know that if someone is prepared to get nasty to you and point a knife ( I know he probably didn't mean it to be an obviously violent threat, but most people would have more awareness than to do that) in front of your family, then he is capable of being much nastier when they are gone.

I suspect that they will be of good practical and emotional support for you in due course. Presumably your BIL is a bit more distant from your Mums nonsense, too.

You are a completely different woman this year - wobbly, yes, who wouldn't be?

But it can't go on - getting nasty in front of relatives and pointing knives is not most people's experience of a CALM patch in their marriage!

Well done for hiolding it all together and giving the boys a wonderful time.

Any news on the computer front?

Hi, posting from my sister's pc today!
The evening that he was pointing the knife at me, he had been making sandwiches & had a large kitchen knife in his hand, so while he was having a go at me, he was repeatedly pointing the knife at me, rather than pointing his finger. My sister & BIL went away shocked by this behaviour.
Last night a friend helped me take the tree down, while H was at work.
It was a nightmare, as we had to get it down a flight of stairs & the place was covered in pines!
By the time he got home we had hovered up all but a few pines & it had takken us ages.
He was not happy & said he couldn't believe my stupidity, as he would have thrown it out of the lounge window.
More hold up's on the pc front I'm afraid. I hate being without the net.

As for the return to work - it's like I have never been away!

LOL! I would have thought about throwing it out of the window about a nano second after hoovering up the last pesky pine! We nearly did for our Dyson last year, completely blocked with the damn things!

DS is starting school on Thusday. Eeek!

Bless him. Is he looking forward to it?

My BIL has sorted me a means of getting temporary pc access, so I am kind of on-line!
Had my sister, BIL & a friend over last night and H did another grand job of getting on at me & putting me down in front of everyone. My sister ended up getting a bit annoyed with his behaviour & told him to leave me alone, which seemed to shock him into silence!

Dinosaur, thanks for your mail. I will reply to you tonight when H is at work, as he has only popped to the supermarket atm.
I asked him this morning if he knew when his counselling started & he said that he was going to chase it up and that he was going to tell the counsellor all about me, as it was payback time!
I asked what on earth he was going to say about me, because I didn't see that I had done anything bad to him & he refused to tell me, saying it is private!
I think he must have said this because he feels insecure about what I may be talking to my counsellor about.
My stomach has been really churny today & my head feels like it is going to explode!

H has gone on nights now & I was going to try & think things through, but have had a call from my Mum saying she feels that my Nan is seriously ill, so it has all become too much.

Thinking of you today huni big time,hope it all goes ok{{{hugs}}}and hope you nan is ok too.

Thanks, Loobie.
Well, I got through it & stayed in control throughout! I even amazed myself that I didn't break down this time, but I knew I had to go straight into H's car after the meeting.
I will talk more later.

Didn't get a chance to get back on last night.
I am very honest with them yesterday & said that I knew I should start making some kind of plans.
They told me that I really needed to & that relate wouldn't touch us, as this is a domestic abuse case. This alarmed me, although I have never had ANY intention of going to relate!
I told them how embarassed I was reading my earlier posts on here, as I was so weak & in such denial.
They told me not to be embarrased, but that I have moved on lots now.
Felt myself shaking throughout the whole meeting, but I stayed in control.
Really glad it is over!
My Nan is up & down atm, but still with us.

Second line should start "I was very honest with them", not "I am"!
I am not functioning properly yet - too early!!