Rocky, I know all this is scary, the situation you find yourself in and now this thread barking at you somehow. I know it's overwhelming.
deep breath.
Let's look at the facts. Your H drinks, and he has hit you twice. He has told you to abort your child and your life with him is miserable.
You are a smart woman, you know the answer is to leave, but you are frightened of doing so. you think you can't do it. you think you will fail.
You won't fail. You will survive, you'll do better than that, you'll thrive.
Sadly, as much as we all would love it to happen, your H waking up one day and slapping himself in disbelief at what he's done to you, forcing him to never again raise his hand or even voice to you for the rest of your lives is not going to happen. Seriously, it won't. he won't stop. no matter how much you want him to stop, he won't.
The others are right in everything they say to you, they are frustrated at the situation, they care enough to want to see you get out of this.
Some of us have escaped situations like this. It really IS the only answer.
Hold on to what he said about the abortion, it'll help strengthen your resolve. There really IS no going back after that. We all need the straw that broke the camel's back, let that one be yours.
Get yourself educated as to your rights, best case and worst case scenarios. If you wanted to play hardball, or if it was amicable.
Know your options.
I can't stress that enough, it will make you feel as if you have so much more power, because he won't be able to intimidate you with horror stories about if you dare to leave him.
Knowledge is power love, you need both! You can and must do this, for your unborn child, for DD and for you. You deserve a better life than this.