How often do married couples really have sex?

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My husband thinks all other married couples are having more sex than we are, a couple of 45 year olds with two kids who do it about two to three times a month - Both full time workers with stressfull jobs. Anyone brave enough to tell the truth so i can get a realitic picture.

I have asked my mates but thats not a big enough picture.

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at three times a day! My dh leaves at 6am, gets back at 7.30 at the earliest. Once kids are in bed and we've had dinner we're both so exhausted we're lucky to have a conversation let alone have sex!

Every 4 months or so. I think my DH might be gay but I can't afford a divorce.

Pre dd,roughly once a fortight.
While TTC every other day
When pg once a month
After dd (and 6wk check), near enough daily.

Dunno why the big change?

tatty

I'm 51, menopausal, overweight and arthritic. DH is 45, overweight and was recently diagnosed with a chronic auto-immune disease. He is now on heavy doses of steroids. We have had a very worrying and stressful few months, and are both on industrial quantities of prescription medication between us.

We very rarely have PIV sex any more, maybe once every 2 months, but we really REALLY enjoy it when it happens. Our body confidence and energy levels are v. low on both sides.

But we are still very tactile and affectionate. Lots of hugs and cuddles and tickles and foot-rubs on the sofa watching TV. Jeez this has so destroyed my MN persona - we are not cuddly bunny peeps We old hands whenever we walk anywhere (which is difficult to do with my bad feet). We still find each other really attractive and pay each other loads of compliments. DH is extremely attentive, tells me how gorgeous I am every single day and loves my huge cleavage although it's down to being size 18 and ignores my huge arse. I likewise try to show him lots of attention.

We used to shag like amphetaphine-fuelled rabbits when we first got together. He is still the best lover I've ever had - and I discovered him after 22 years of being sexually active.

But neither of us fancy sex much ATM. Too sad, worried, hot, sweaty, achy joints and tired all the time. But all things will pass. Sex drives work in cycles and I know we will ramp up the action when life is less fraught.

Married 5 years, in late 20s, no kids.

Maybe actually get a shag once a month.

However he lives away 6 days a week and I have horrid periods which are around 10 days long so always go across 2 weekends when I actually see him and no fucking way is he going near me when I'm on , so that leaves maybe 2 days a month where its possible.

So if you're a glass is half full type person, its technically every other day that we see each other

Ranges from once per week to once per month.

I'd prefer twice per day my I don't pressure my dp - I just be creative by myself.

zombie thread

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Penetrative sex? Can't remember the last time. Probably when Ds was conceived and he's 11!
Other things - a couple of times a month if I can't avoid it.
Been together 27 years

Have just seen this thread.
We have been together for 12 years, married for 6 with 2 DC.
We do it about once a month, however full sex only about 6 or 7 times a year.
I'm 38, DH is 44 and looks after the children.
I could happily do without it. Once went for three months without. DH claims he starts most encounters; I think maybe he's right. He's not happy with the amount.

Been married for 8 years - haven't had sex for coming up to a year and a half! Husbands choice not mine. Had sex in the beginning like rabbits but stress (or children) looks like the culprit (or maybe he just doesn't fancy me anymore). We barely discuss it and when a sex scene is on a tv programme it's just mortifying to watch for both of us

Not as often as unmarried ones

Married 6 years, aged 30 and 32.

Pre DD - about 3 times a month. More if we were on holiday.
while TTC - about 10 time a month, focussed on fertile times.
while pregnant - not at all as I found it too uncomfortable
post DD's birth (she's 1) - 5 times total.

We would like more at present, but DD does not sleep in, and in the evening we are far too knackered to start with any physical activity. We both have demanding jobs and long hours, so combining that with a baby means sex is something for the weekend.

I do like to tease him during the week though...

I'm 32 hubby 40, together 11 years married 9 , we have between us 5 kids aged 7-17. We run our own business .....we have sex maybe once every 2 months

Depends on life. Hubby works away a lot and does very long hours. If he's not tired and is home, it feels wrong not to have sex, like something's missing. It wasn't always like this though with times where we haven't liked each other very much or I've had body or self confidence issues but we've worked through everything as it's arisen and after 19 years together (I'm 40 btw) our marriage has never been better, which means our sex life is better than ever too.

I never pay attention to these so called norms. We have sex when we want to, which means when we both feel like it. Could be twice a day, or twice a month. Quality not quantity is the key!

Together coming on to 5 years now. Still do it most nights (we have an 18 month old and I have a dd from apprevious relationship). We used to do it twice a day.....! We both have high sex drives.

I was previously married and ex dh never wanted sex, ever. It was nice to rediscover it with now dh.

DH is 41 and I am 37. We have always had sex 5/6 times a week. However it has tailed off a little recently to about 3/4 times a week. I am currently 34+5 weeks pregnant.

Grrrr didn't realise this is a Zombi Thread. How irritating!!

About once every 2-3 weeks. It's not enough for me by any means - I'm only 32 (he's 37) but he doesn't seem bothered. Been together 4 1/2 years. I feel a bit lonely and miss having a close sexual relationship

To Lala and all the rest of you who say you are lonely- ditch them and you might find someone better. Why stay in a lonely relationship?!? I was in one for 10+ years. Now single 1+ year and never felt better. Looking forward to meeting someone who treats me properly. Ditch! :-)

Married 41 years. 9 kids. Good sex once a week like clockwork. Both still work full time.

Married 3 months. I'm 32 wife older. 2 kids

We don't have sex or any sexual activity that often. Maybe one a month? I have a big sex drive and masturbate most nights as she's just not interested. I love her but our sex drives are totally miss-matched.

I used to try to talk about it but I've given up. I just sound like a nagging pest if I ever bring it up.

It's very frustrating as we both lead very stressful lives in the city and I used to love feeling completely de-stressed after sex. Now I just toss and turn, which pisses her off!

Been together for 20 year, 4 Kids, 2/3 Times a month