How often do married couples really have sex?

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My husband thinks all other married couples are having more sex than we are, a couple of 45 year olds with two kids who do it about two to three times a month - Both full time workers with stressfull jobs. Anyone brave enough to tell the truth so i can get a realitic picture.

I have asked my mates but thats not a big enough picture.

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have not read the whole thread.... anyone out there -mid- fifties married 20 years, teenage DC, both with demanding jobs... that is the metric that would be interesting to know

Been together 3 years, last dtd when dd was conceived...17months ago.

Hi all, bit late joining this conversation but picked it up on a google search, your advise would be appreciated :-)

Been together for 8 years married for 6m, im 37 an my wife is 34 no kids and a pretty chilled life, we have sex maybe once a month if lucky, in the early days it was much more regular but after about 5 years it just seemed to slow right down, im still really into her and find her very attractive the thought is in my mind most of the time but she never seems interested,

any advise would be great :-)

Jay

Together 4 years, once or twice a week, every day on holiday. Partner going through a bad time so more like once every 10 days at the moment. Two girls, so two cycles which can be very inconvenient, and disrupts the average. I like the story of the jar of pebbles. If you put a pebble in a jar for every time you have sex in the first 2 years, and take one for every time thereafter......the jar will never be empty.

We used to have sex three times a week when we first got together and then it dwindled to twice a month after we had kids. That lasted about ten years but I went off him because he was selfish, so now we don't do it at all!

Just waiting for the kids to finish their education before we can get divorced.

27 years old , married nearly 8 years, 5yo at home , probably around 1-2 times a week. Usually once which is fine by me, hubby would probably like it more around 3 times a week. I'm usually too tired.

Married 30 yrs. Average twice a week

Oh no zombie thread again! Where are they all coming from!

15 years together, average twice a week, sometimes more sometimes less, I get tetchy if abstinent for 10 days or more, in early 40's

D'oh

Not often enough.

Married seven years. One very demanding toddler. Early thirties. On average once a week, occasionally twice. I am just so tired! He would like it more.. toddler still sleeps in our room so that doesn't help x

We are mid 50s, married 14 years, no children. No sex, either - for years. Even before then, days when we had sex were rarer than hens' teeth. One of the many reasons we are now splitting up. He was never interested and never wanted to talk about. He thought I just wanted to be 'at it like rabbits'.

Totally irrelevant but I love that you're the 'blooper lady' :). Nice bit of literary panache.

It might be a zombie thread but it's a good one.

Married for 2 years, together for 7. I DS age 4. Both work, elderly parents etc. I'd like it once a month, DH more like every couple of day, but pref just on tap. I have tried to compromise and it still wasn't enough. We are probably going to separate.

We have been together 13yrs married 9. Both work full time and no kids at home. Definatly once as week more if we feel like it. If one of us wants it we ask the other and we make the effort but we have fallen into a routine where we wait for the weekend when no work etc and we are rested and relaxed.

We have become weekend warriors in our old age. Im 50 and he is 44

We have been together 13yrs married 9. Both work full time and no kids at home. Definatly once as week more if we feel like it. If one of us wants it we ask the other and we make the effort but we have fallen into a routine where we wait for the weekend when no work etc and we are rested and relaxed.

We have become weekend warriors in our old age. Im 50 and he is 44

Together 15 years, 2dc, both work full time - approx 2-3 times per month.

My husband and I have been married 20 years we have a 18 year old together which is still at home. I have health problems and we have been through some real situations with is oldest son. It has caused some real hurt in my life. When we married it was daily and now 2-3 times a week. I am 42 years old and my husband is 53 we are constantly having a struggle because he wants it still daily and I just am not up to that any longer. I don't know what to do but I am tired of talking about it. I can't even hug him or hold him without him wanting sex. Other that that he is a good loving man. Any advise???

Together 16 years, married 7. I am 41, she is 45. 7 year old and 5 year old.
Sex once in last 2 years (about 12 months ago). Since first child was conceived, 8.5 years ago, we have probably had sex no more than 30 times and even then it was in fits and starts resulting in longs periods of up to year without any contact. It has now got to the point where I have given up being annoyed about it or even trying to raise the subject; I have almost resigned myself to never having sex again. I am trying to find other things to focus my spare time on (growing my company, keeping fit, eating healthily).
We both look good but my wife does not seem to realise I exist or might actually need some closeness. We get on quite well really but are very much ships-passing-in-the-night when it comes intimacy. I never thought I would end up in this position but I guess it can happen very easily.

Together 14 years, married 10...DH 39 this year and me 36. We have a SEN child who will be 8 in July and I’ve just had baby no#2 three months ago. Pre children it was at least once a day, after our son 5-6 times per week with half the time being over the weekend as we both worked full time and now since having our daughter hardly at all in comparison. However once bubs is in her own room and sleeping through then we will be back to our usual shenanigans. We met purely for a no strings hook up back in the days before this type of thing became the ‘norm’ but we had a great connection on top of intense sexual attraction and have been inseparable ever since. Apart from the usual putting the stoppers on things I.e. having a newborns. totm, major disagreements etc, I would hate to be dtd less than twice a week if I’m honest all being well.

Wow, how many times has this ZOMBIE THREAD been revived?! At least you can guess what people were googling to find this one...

We are late forties and it's about 3 times a month, which isn't enough IMO. Work from home, loads of time, no kids at home, but he blames the stress of his job for his lack of libido.

Interestingly, I posted on this thread originally so it's popped up on Threads I'm On but disappointingly, it's less now than when I first posted (now 1-2 times per month; 20 years together, married 15 with 3 DCs).

We have been married 41 years this month we are now retired. Younger we have sex as often as we could at times four times a day we would wake at 5am to have sex before work. Now we are retired I am 68 my wife is 61, we have sex most days before getting up. On holidays maybe a couple of times a day. We are very much in love and we love to please one another.