How often do married couples really have sex?

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My husband thinks all other married couples are having more sex than we are, a couple of 45 year olds with two kids who do it about two to three times a month - Both full time workers with stressfull jobs. Anyone brave enough to tell the truth so i can get a realitic picture.

I have asked my mates but thats not a big enough picture.

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Varies. Twice yesterday but normally it's once a day with a gap of about a week because I go off sex a week before Aunt Flo visits and then I'm rampant again.

We have 3 dc btw all under 13 and one with SN. I am an early morning sex pest so as soon as my dh's alarm goes off I jump him.

Once a week but its been three weeks as we have a baby and I'm expecting again, I'm exhausted and little bit sick. Must make the effort.

normally not often, because of kids/being tired etc but I'm pg and horny and ruled by crazy hormones so once or twice a day most days.

I wish we could keep it up.
It's incredible and sad how I just don't need/crave sex in post-natal stage.

Wow all these once a day people. I'd settle for once a month right now :(

5-6 times a week. We've been married a year and have DS's 5 & 3 plus I'm pregnant. Would be more if I wasn't pregnant.

Between every 3 to 10 days. Any longer and we get really ratty with each other. Always glad we did it. Together 16 years married for 10 2 dcs aged 10 and 7. Tbh it was easier when they were little bloody ds doesn't go to sleep until 10pm and wakes at 6:30-7 !!

Together 22 years, married 14, 2 teenagers. On average 2/3 times a week. I'd easily do with less than that but DH thinks that is not enough.

Together 13 years, married for 10, 3 dc aged 6 and 2 2yos. Once a week to 3 times a week, then non when it's time of the month which for me lasts an annoying 9 days ish!

That said we'll have weeks of non then weeks of every night. I do think that the more we have it the more we want it so I can see how it's easy to get out of the habit. We didn't do it at all for 10months after dd1 was born (horrible birth) so it's usually me who instigates it. dh would do it anytime I ask, every night if I wanted but he's happy to go with when I'm up for it. It's not the 3 hour sessions we have before dc thank goodness - as much as I enjoyed them, sleep is very important these days too!

Absolutely agree with feast or famine. We've had a long stretch since DD2 was born 2 years ago with nothing and I mean nothing. Just too tired/stressed/co sleeping etc. DH was up for it, I just couldn't contemplate it. Then last month something clicked and we've been at it like knives since. I'm hoping it's not just a phase as we're absolutely loving it but it's one of those things that you just get out of the swing of doing if you don't so you have to keep it up, so to speak. Married 14 years.

Together over 7 years married 2 years and ave young children school age and below.

Sex per week anywhere from 6 times - 21 times a week.

Longest dry patch was 2 weeks and that was after first born.

Hmmm...wish I had never looked at this thread now.

Roughly once a week full sex, plus once a week trading oral for a back rub

DH is a shift worker and we have two toddlers, otherwise it'd be more.

herts

does it make you feel better if I share that after DS1 was born DH wasn't allowed near me for 8 months?
I had a massive episiotomy due to forceps delivery and was in a lot of pain for months.

and I have crazy periods so normally I'm out for 2/3 of each month.
which means the it could be 3-4 times per month if lucky, but as we have 6 kids already (with which comes endless illnesses and sleepless nights and exhaustion) and DH is away at times it might be nothing for months on end!

married for almost 14 years if that matters (celebrating this weekend!)

Never. I think 2009 was the last time. He has issues and I think isn't really comfortable with intimacy or mess. And I haven't got the energy.

Together 3 years, both late thirties and no kids yet.

About once a week, though sometimes more and sometimes less. We're both just bloody knackered all the time!

We're in our 40's, married over 20 years, 3 dcs, and at the moment it's at least 3 times a week. However it's been 3 times a month for many a long stretch. I seem to have rediscovered my sex drive lately, much to DH's joy. He still thinks he's a horny teenager!

Married 16 years, in our forties, three kids youngest is 11. It's either famine or feast here, can be every day or once a month, but it's always fab.

Together 17 years, married 11, 3 DC age 8 and under. Once or twice a month. I'm happy with that and I think he is too.

we have been married for 27 years and we have sex daily, sometimes twice.

Of course there were times when the boys were small that we went a couple of weeks or so without. But being older has plenty of benefits