How often do married couples really have sex?

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My husband thinks all other married couples are having more sex than we are, a couple of 45 year olds with two kids who do it about two to three times a month - Both full time workers with stressfull jobs. Anyone brave enough to tell the truth so i can get a realitic picture.

I have asked my mates but thats not a big enough picture.

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Married.. together 2.5 yrs.
Sometimes 3 times a day, sometimes not for 2 weeks. We don't have a 'shag night' or anything. Think it depends on how tired we are or what is going on in life. When its a long time its usually down to travel or illness or something. We don't make a big deal out of it, we are pretty affectionate and chatty anyway. Having a baby has taught us the value of utilising 5 spare minutes.

'boffing me senseless' - bloofer

unmarried twenty years+ probably twice a week and that feels a lot listening to friends!

Both in 40's now, together nr 20 years, 1-2 x a week depending on travel/kids activities/etc. Worst was when dc were very small.

Gave birth 3 months ago, once since then!

Married 34 years, 3 DS, 1 DGS: - once or twice a week (but usually once, unless we're on holiday) :)

We have been married 14 years with 2 children. We have sex most nights or perhaps early morning. Prob average 6 times a week although during my randy 5 days of the month (week after my period) sometimes twice in a night.

Wasn't going to post because it varies so much. Married nine years, together 11, one child. Sometimes it can be four/five times a week, others I have zero libido and could happily read a book for weeks. I think hormones at my age (44) may play a part, I either want it all the time or not at all.

Always great when we do it though.

I'm 12 weeks pg atm, and we've not had sex since I found out at 5 weeks (just wanted to get the first trimester out the way with no bleeds/leakage), god knows how this first kid will effect us!

We normally have sex 8-12 times a week (basically once a day, then 2/3 times on Dh days off).
I'm early 20's, he's early 30's, we've been together for just over 2 & a half years (married for 1) so, comparing to everyone else on this thread, we're probably just going through the honeymoom period still!

Been together 9 years, 3 children under 7. Probably 2-4 times a month, we never ever go to bed together so I think that's quite enough. If we went to bed together every night would be a lot more, but I'm a night owl and he snores.

Married 10 years this Sept...at least 3 times a week although sometimes it changes and we do it more one week and less another...stress relief and intimacy...

2 DDs 9 and 7..

Married 10 yrs, three kids, youngest 13 wks. Irregular but just noted that we're almost through the 12 pack of condoms bought since DD2 born.

The older I get the more I want and the better it is

3-4 times a week. There is no 'normal' but if one partner's not happy the relationship will suffer. Both sides should be willing to compromise.

Been together for nearly 8yrs, married for 5, 2 DC's under 7yo and normally 3+ times a week. We will make use of most opportunities for a bit of sizzle . For some reason I feel more in the mood the more tired I am .

Thanks all for your openess. Need to tell DH not to believe all those articles in the Times. Biggest message for me is it is ok to have peaks and troughs and as long as both are happy then fine.........nice to have a reality check

3 DCS - one at big school and the other two at primary. Once a week just isn't good enough !

Married 14 years, together for 19. 2 DCs. About once a week; sometimes more sometimes less.

married 20 years
together 23

when on hols together its about 3 x weekly

when normal service resumes we both work shifts, 2 kids, not together all that often so id say on average about once a month. quality always good! quality not quantity i say!

works for us.

DW would say that I am a good and helpful husband allround....work stress kids, and energy levels is the problem.

Married 21 years.. 4 teens ..try finding a time to have sex without anyone hearing (the cat being in the room puts me off let alone wide awake kids!) He works hideous hours... but we always always have sex once a week. Sometimes manage an extra at weekends:)

I could probably manage with less but for DH it is really important, emotionally more than physically I think. Luckily he is still pretty damn good....:)

Married ten years... probably about once a month, sometimes more, sometimes less.... more when we are on holiday.

We are both happy with this frequency although I am sure he wouldnt complain if he got it more... but he works on very early starts, and is in bed by 9pm most nights, and I am more of a night owl....

Married 9 years, together 17. 4 dc aged 16 - 5, 2 - 4 times.

Married 16 years, one child (teens). Frequency of sexual contact? Once in last seven years.

We're 26, together 8 years, 8yo DS (my boy from prev relationship). Maybe 1-2 times a month - OH works shifts and I have some health probs so any spare time we have is for sleeeeep!

I'm 46, married 24 years. DH and my male colleagues are always moaning about lack of nookie. DS now in his first relationship, when his GF stays DH obsesses that they are doing it more times in one night than we have all year! I enjoy it when I have sex but don't miss it if I don't, and seem to have less time than when DS was young. I still feel close to DH, lots of cuddling, nice compliments etc.