How often do married couples really have sex?

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My husband thinks all other married couples are having more sex than we are, a couple of 45 year olds with two kids who do it about two to three times a month - Both full time workers with stressfull jobs. Anyone brave enough to tell the truth so i can get a realitic picture.

I have asked my mates but thats not a big enough picture.

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Well I'm getting it pretty well every day, although this is because we've only been an item for 3 weeks. And I have some time to make up.

Can't imagine 2 to 3 times a month. For me this would actually be worse than not at all...

Married 3 years. One ds but dh is in different country. When we are together it's every day or at least every other day

STBXH felt hard done by as we only did it a couple times a week. His mates thought he was lucky as they only got it once a month if lucky. He is 48, I'm 40. We had been married for 6 years before he walked out, together for 10 years.

together 8 years, married 4. 1 toddler and I'm 4 months Pregnant.
Sex once or maybe twice a week, at the weekend while toddler naps, usually. Too bloody knackered at bedtime to think about it, too much to do before then.
It is always pretty awesome when we get the time, though, which is good :)

Depends on what is going on in our lives. Sometimes it has been no sex for a long time, at the moment it is every day.

Together 4 1/2 years, married 3 1/2. Four children (two DH's step children, and twins) btw.

Agree with cybbo.
Always askance at the 3-4 times a week.

Don't you have books to read?

Not married, together 20 years. Have sex every other day....not marathon sex, that's maybe twice a week, just a quicky before sleeptime. I love the closeness. We are both 37.

I think it's not the marriage or the 'sameness' that's done for our sex life (eg reduced it to once a week) - it's the kids. I like to imagine, fondly and perhaps deludedly, that things will improve once we're all getting a bit more sleep. I fancy my husband like MAD but can't summon up the energy to do much about it very often. . . tragic, isn't it? So much prime gorgeousness in my bed, and all I want to do is sleep! Criminal waste!

Been married 25 years, two teens, I am 47 and Dh 51, i work part-time and him full time. Not as often as DH would like...

He tends to like marathon sessions and I just want my sleep

I always lol at "fancying h like mad" posts.

Couple of times a week right now which is the least sex I think I've ever had (since I've been sexually active, obviously). Been together four years, married for two.

I'd like more but have two v young dc and he works crazy hours so tiredness is definitely a factor.

It's major stress relief for me, I'd be the most horrendous grump if I didn't get it at least as often as now.

Can't speak for anyone else but we average about twice a month.

Well we didn't do it at all for over a year after DS2 was born!

So after a brief period of daily, we obviously feel we have caught up and now it is a couple of times a week.

It would be lovely to do it more, but with a 4 year old and a 16 month old who doesn't sleep very much it is going to be a while!

Wind well he always tells me I'm mad when I tell him I fancy him, so it seems the right thing to say

2 - 4 times a week.

He still cheated.

Now we have no sex life, so I hope it was all worth it for him

Married 8 years, 2 kids with ASD (exhausting), he's 38, I'm 42 with bouncy hormones - feast or famine. If the kids are sleeping well, DH is sleeping well and my hormones are doing the right thing, we might be at it 2 or 3 times in a week. Or else we might not bother for a couple of months. Apart from when the kids are the limiting factor, we're pretty happy with that.

Together 7 years, married for 1, no kids, we're late 20s & early 30s.
Every day. Occasionally miss a day due to job from hell.

Been with DH for almost 18 years married 13 years. Have 3 dds 19 (DSD), 9 and 5. Sometimes we'll do it about once a week to 3 times a month other times we'll be doing it 6-7 times a week depends on what phase we're going through. We're 34 and 38.

It totally depends on what works for you both.

Married 8 years, together 9. One child. Around once every six weeks at the mo which I know is not enough for dh. More usually once a fortnight or so which feels better. It would help if I ever had an orgasm tbh but perhaps I'm just lazy as it is good on the whole.

About once a fortnight. Been with DP two and a half years. Neither of us unhappy with that but but I worry I should be worried it's not enough.

Been together 20 years. In our 40s, 3 DC, on average about 4 times per month, but very much clustered around a particular horny time of my cycle. I guess it's feast or famine here too.

Feel like I should have DP done under Trade Descriptions Act. Was 2-3 times a night to start with and I was beginning to think I'd never keep up, but it's dropped off to once a week if I'm lucky... he's very all or nothing. We either shag or we do nothing, there's no intimacy unless we have full blown sex. Feel quite lonely :-(

Been married since 1998.

Last time we made the beast with two backs was December 2000

Print that out and make him carry it in his wallet to look at next time he's feeling hard done by.