The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Hello

I'm Mouse

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

Tortoise - ah, sorry. I see what you mean now.

WWID?..... I'd tell him. Really, I would. It's like the elephant in the room otherwise, you'll spend hours worrying about how best to avoid it, (drinking) won't you? Antibiotics, BF, early start, driving etc work for a while but this is your husband. Not just anyone who you may feel embarrassed about telling....

Really, it's going to so much better to get it out there and tell him how you really feel about your drinking, that you feel you can't control how much you drink so would rather not.

When I told DH I thought I had a problem with alcohol, he poo-pood the very notion of it. Not because he didn't think I had a problem, but because it made him look at his own drinking habits.

After a few days, he actually said he didn't like drinking so much and started to cut down. He drinks much less now than he used to and totally supports the way I handle my relationship with booze.

And, just for shits and giggles, I thought I'd post , sorry there is no video which is hilarious but the song itself tells a great story, as revamped by the wonderful cast of Family Guy!

My dh was the same when i started admitting I have a problem with drinking. When i was going to AA, he was saying 'you're not that bad surely'. I know I'm that bad, but did leave AA anyway for otherreasons. Now he still thinks that I'm probably 'ok', but I have just been not drinking in front of him rather than making a big thing of it. I guess, when you start telling people that you have a problem with anything, be it drink, cigarettes, chocolate , it makes them uncomfortably aware of their own problems, as mouse said above. I do notice however, that when I'm abstaining totally, he drinks very little - unless he goes out (which is very rare now).

Sorry but what?

As far as I know, none of the posters here has taken their child to an AA meeting, and unless they are totally beyond desperate, I doubt they would even consider it.

Also if memory serves, one of the Babes has tried in the past after calling her sponser to ask but was told that children are not alllowed to attend.

I can honestly say that your post seems a bit odd in it's content but thank you so much for sharing the information you have, I'm sure that we will all take head of your warning.

hi all
mad busy in work with the big business exhibition. 6 months planning and tomorrow is the day - please keep your fingers crossed for a good turnout.
Other than that have one teen with hideous cold and racking cough - this will be the one who is booked on an full weekend masterclass on musical theatre performance this weekend and who, instead of sounding like an angel, sounds like a bullfrog with laryngitis - one sullen teen refusing to pay mobile phone bill (long story), one constipated cat back from vets and now on laxatives and shitting all over the house (£300 vet bill btw), one elderly father having brain scans and endless hospital visits while, in moments of lucidity, recounting with relish how much money he has in the bank while i wonder if i can feed 5 people on £50 until payday!!!
Can't fit into my smart work trousers for tomorrow, need to be up and out at 7.15 so DS is staying at Grandmas but has phoned to ask me to drop in his gym kit for field sports tomorrow, there is no toilet paper in the house and no-one will go to the shop so they canjust use their bloody sleeves , had to clean up cat shit behind the tv when I came in then came face to face (?) with fecking mahoosive spider in the hall which I had to stomp on while screaming like a looney, and now have to find something which might fit me for work tomorrow and if that child DOESN'T STOP COUGHING I WILL KILL HER!!
Apart from all that, I am fine.

Ma your day sounds like hell, but you really made me hope things improve, I am helpfully trying to think of something ingenious to shove up a cats ass x

Ma - lovely long post, even though it's a rant and a half!

See, DD has the cough from hell too, hack, hack,hack, choke, hack. Every night for the entire week. I lie there, waiting for her to stop so I can sleep and then Nemo wakes.

Sods bloody law.

I really hope that she's (your DD) better for the weekend! Honey and lemon, garggling with it too. Poor her

Giant spider would have gotten stomped on here too, or vacuumed

Sounds like you are in for a HUGE day tomorrow, I'll cross everything for you and send positive vibes your way.

Try to get an early night sweets.

Huge hugs and love to you Ma, you'll nail tomorrow xxxx

@mouseface-Well knowing people are going to 12 step meetings here,I thought it would make sense to mention these concerns.Actually many groups do allow children to come with their parents to meetings. Or parents send there teenagers to meetings. I am glad to hear this group would find it it odd to do so! I think so too! But many actually do. So it was just wanting to express my concern about this practice.

Hey all,

I wrote a hugely long post at about 3pm, and then my laptop froze and lost it (I know how it feels ), and I couldn't find the strength to rewrite it, without sounding phoney to myself.

So...just to say hello to everyone, I have thought of you, Glastonbury (wellies?), fortnight sober, leapord skin, too much work, back problems, Dh's and Dp's, all the things that you have going on, that I wanted to ask you about and say congratulations for.

Hopefully, I will have more time, and a more friendly computer server tomorrow .

xxxxx

Antidenial - which is why I thanked you for your post.

MissP - I'm thinking cork from a wine bottle but that means opening one............ .

Plan B? Not the group obviously, maybe Ma, you could try a tampon? Sorry, a bit crass but it may actually work? Bung the bloody thing up so to speak?

at mouseface and missp. Poor cat - he's starving but on rations and laxatives. not a good combo.
it bloody STINKS too!! he has serious digestion problems that beast.

Ma!! Good luck for tomorrow. if you can deal with that lot at home, work will be a doddle

Off to watch some tv with DH for the first time in ages and in peace!

Night Babes

Ma - BEST OF LUCK TOMORROW LOVELY XX

Hope I'm in time!
Good Luck Ma xxx

Thank you for your posts, Antidenial (love the name)
Mouse; she is referring to the case of a girl aged 5-7 who was repeatedly raped by AA members that her mum picked up in meetings. It is on her blog.

Ma; your post sounds v stressful but it was also v v funny. Good luck today. I love your humour in the midst of chaos. :)

MOrning everyone

Nothing worse than clearing up cat/dog poo Ma, many a time have I gagged whilst on poop patrol.

Must read throug the posts properly because at first I thought Mouse was suggesting putting a tampon in the cats mouth so it can't speak!

I am feeling more in control at the mo. Haven't had very much all week but realised that it hasn't been a struggle where in past weeks I have had to make myself stop at 2/drink non alcoholic beer but this week I just haven't wanted more - a big first for me.

And by 4pm today the house will be 100% mine. Yeaaahhhh

Purplebrick - as if by magic you pop up when another poster posts on the thread about AA and the sins within

I think most posters have made it clear that they don't take their children to AA.

And FWIW, I thanked Antidenial for her/his post on the Brave Babes thread.

I have to ask you Purple, what is it you want or get from posting on her randomly?

Do we give you any support, comfort, etc by posting about our daily fight with alcohol, our troubles in life, the dramas and upset?

I just don't get it

Zany - you bloomin super star you!! Well done on turning that corner.

See, that's where I'm at too. I can take it or leave it. I had a glass of white with dinner last night and 2 non alcoholic Becks, I really do like the taste with a dash of lime, and that was enough for me. [smlie]

I really hope you are going to celebrate the house being yours as of 4pm today!! Fantastic news and you really do deserve to be able to put that part of your life behind you.

Go you! xx

Morning All
Feeling very boingy this morning!!

Off work as I have done so many additional hours recently! yay me! so a nice long weekend.
Was at work on Tuesday, but I was really really tired. Sat there thinking - how the hell did I manage to ever ever work with a hangover, and yet I did all the time, scary thoughts. It seems like a lifetime ago, and I feel so blessed that i have no desire to drink.
Went on a night out last night, and when they cracked open bottle number 5 I left, some of them had just turned into wittering idiots! that used to be me

Right, need to get up and go and do productive things!!!

Thank you Mouse am just hoping I can stay round the corner

We are celebrating but I'm not sure how yet. I love the idea of having a glass of bubbly (obviously sitting outside the trendy bar near me so that everyone will walk past and see) in a bar but the sensable side of me (the one that often stays hidden) says I shouild just get some bubbly at home and get my parents, DP and the DC's round. Hmmmm still debating.

Zany - if you stay at home with just 1 bottle of bubbly, you're less likely to get hammered. The 'just one more' monster will be at that tredy bar tonight, waiting for you to arrive to congratulate you.

I think you should stand him up!

And besides, it's going to rain later and you'll get all wet.

Stay at home, in YOUR HOUSE and celebrate with your love ones. Jeez, go and get a huge cake too, stick some candles on and really make a big deal of today.

If it were me, I'd mark it on the calander too!

Good thinking Mouse. Of course its rainig now so that there is no more rain clouds left for Glastonbury next week . The DC's and I have been practising our Glasto cheers the last few days, we are all really excited. No doubt we will spend most of the time chilling in the green fields area where you can have a go at all sorts of things, wood carving. jewelrey making etc

Exactly Zany - all the rain is going to fall today, and this weekend, so that Glastonbury will be dry and sunny for you

I've never been to anything like that. Not sure I'd be any good at camping/glamping because of all the stuff I'd need just to sleep at night! They'd most likely frisk me, find my meds and arrest me intent to supply

I bet you are sooooooooooooooo giddy about going.