The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Hello

I'm Mouse

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

at Venus
I'll peer in through the window at you in awestruck admiration at your capacity for lying and self delusion!!
I am going for a run first, so will have to resort to having a wash in the company loo (ie the washhand basin, not the bog itself), running my fingers through my hair to make it look artfully tousled, and hurling on a clean shirt. I'm a class act me.
How long do we have to suck it in for before we can relax?

You two are ace

ma and venus!

thurso - i want to see your shoes!! what is the ball in aid of? and what is your dress like?

talking of dcs growing up, i often feel os redundant but yesterday my little girl had a total meltdown on the tube - too hot, too many people and panicked - guess who she phoned for help? yep! me! still my little girl at the end of the day!

HI everyone

I'm back from the muddy fields of Glastonbury. DC's loved it but it was hard for them walking in all the mud. And for a festival I was fairly sensible and didn't drink as much as I would normally done. Things a bit wobbly between me and DP. Hope everyone is Ok and HI to any newbies. Will try and catch up

[muddy but chilled }

Jesus I am 38 and my mum says I'm still her little girl :)
Day 2 for me. Am taking all your advice, dealing with one day at a time and trying not to project.
It's nearly school pick up time and there is a massive thunderstorm here:(

If I cross a road and I'm with my Dad he still tries to guide me across

don't think my dad ever guided me across a road, even when I was little
Now I guide him to stop him falling flat on his face or walking out in front of a car. Time passes huh?

good advice, i dont want to never drink again though that isnt really the goal or point for me- just to have a healthier , more controlled and 'normal' relationship with alcohol. Ie to have a few on occassion.Am appreciating advice and support.

Day 6 today and am ok, fancied a drink earlier (always end of work day for me!). But nerev at any point actually considered buying a bottle. It isnt an option in my mind at the moment- Hope I can stay this resolved.

Am on day 3 now and enjoying a tall, cold lime & soda, with ice and a slice, mmmm delish

HideTheEmpties - are you okay?

Why did you remove that post?

rus - Gawd, NEVER say never. It's the one thing that will put the final nail in the coffin of sobriety for sure.

Imagine it in much more simple terms, like dieting.

No chocolate/cheese/cake/sweets/chips...... today. Just for today. You know that they are 'bad for you' so today, you won't be buying any, stealing any from the DCs, or eating them.

Or if that's too much, get to 7pm, then 7.30pm then 8pm without that diet buster (drink).

fairenuff - 3 days is bloody great, well done you!

Tonight I am off out to a friends house. There will be wine but there will NOT be a drunken Mouse.

Night Babes, see you tomorrow xxxx

HideTheEmpties - never mind, I'm guessing you were outed of felt concerned that you would be?

Thank you for posting in the first place. I hope you are okay.

thanks for advice- TODAY i havent been drinking! x

Thanks for the warm welcome and good advice. Was offered a glass of wine by my mum on Friday which I refused as doing race for life on Saturday. She seemed to have forgotten that I told her it made me very depressed - or perhaps she just thought it would be rude not to offer. I guess that will be a perennial problem I'll have to learn to deal with. People will always offer drinks just to be polite and I must get over the idea that they might be offended if I refuse. Of course they won't. I know if I ever offered anyone a glass of my wine I'd be annoyed if they took it because there'd be less for me. Have a good evening fellow travellers.

good luck with Race for Life lucyboots. I have done two this summer so far and it just doesn't seem to get any easier
Off to be now

bed even!!!

mouseface Something like that, thanks for your concern, I'm fine

Another day, let's see what tomorrow brings!

oh God, hello all, well finally the unthinkable has happened and my ever patient dear partner has had a word with me.

I've been drinking every day since my mother died last year. Am getting counselling and on antidepressants.

I dont drink in public. Only at home. Only beer, stupid rules. Only drink in the evening, but it's every evening. No phone calls to family after beer o clock.

Tonight my gorgeous boyfriend had a word with me, I'd been waiting but still.......didn't want to hear it.........i know....help me...

NeverGotABabby Hello, I'm new to this thread, but I'm experienced at drinking and now not.

I didn't want to let your post go unanswered. Are you OK? I'm here to listen if you need an ear.

nevergotababby - you are welcome and safe here.
Stay with us, there are people here who will help you and will not ever, ever be shocked or judgy about anything you care to share with us.

Lucy

People's offers do dry up with time, especially from those close to us - and, at the same time, you will get better at saying no.

It's also worth remembering that, if you have a problem with drink, then by definition, at least in that one respect, you are different from "normal" people, so stop gauging what they think against what you think.

for you (and me, back in the day) drink may be the beginning and the end of all things; for them, it is just a drink. They will be no more offended if you refuse a glass of wine with dinner than if you refuse a Hobnob with your cup of tea. They have offered; you have (politely) said no thank you; conversation over. And, when they sense that you are uncomfortable, they will stop offering, in the same way as they would stop offering Hobnobs if they knew you were diabetic or dieting.

It really does get easier, promise.

Afternoon Babes

I had a great night out, 2 wines and 1 cider. Then I was starving so had a cheese and pickle sarnie!

Welcome to NeverHadABabby.

Are you okay? Your first post made me worry about you. How are you today?

HideThe - I've PMd you

LucyBoots - "And, when they sense that you are uncomfortable, they will stop offering, in the same way as they would stop offering Hobnobs if they knew you were diabetic or dieting."

This really is that simple. MIFLAW is a wise old chap who has, by his own admission, "spilt more drinks than most people have consumed" which is true in some cases so he knows just how you feel, just how we all feel.

Keep going, in your own time. xx

Nemo's - respite worker starts tomorrow. I'm a bit nervous but really pleased that we are lucky enough to have her. Most families are just left to struggle along....

Hi All, I haven't checked in for a few days. Hope everyone is safe and well. I did the unthinkable over the weekend; glastonbury sober. And it was amazing even in the mud and rain. And I can remember it all! Raised a few eyebrows amongst my crew, but as the royals say, never complain, never explain. My choice and it works for me. Welcome to all the new posters.

another sober day- rney home from work and first couple hours home my weakess (sredded with kids! lol)

Even looked at the Lambrini (My poison of choice) on Tesco shelf (2 bottled for £2.50) ans resisted (just!)

Another sober one for me. Day 9. TBH the temptations are building up and I have throught for the first time tonight since quitting that I'd like to just say fuck it and have a drink.

Thanks to coming here and reading back over some of my more pathetic, guilty and hungover posts and connecting with you wonderful babes I am not going to give in.