He tried to have sex with me while I was asleep

[maristella]

And I'm very fucking angry about it.

The more I tried to stop him, the more he interpreted my movement as a green light. I kept saying let me sleep, I rolled away until I ha nowhere left to go, I kept taking his hands and cock away from me. The only way I was able to make him stop was to get out of bed. He looked so utterly wounded and rejected

It was a new relationship, I really liked him, and this was the first time we spent the night together, and the last.

I fucking hate him, I have rejected all his calls since and he is still ringing and texting. I know I should have spelled it out to him, but I knew I would have been bombarded. He sent me loads of emails saying he wanted to spend the weekend with me and DS; he's never met my DS! I don;t ever want him to meet DS, ever! I emailed back (the only contact I've made to him since I stayed over) and said I really don;t want a relationship. But he is still fucking trying!

I could actually go to the police, which might mean that mutual friends and family are dragged into this, I might be vilified for this. I don;t want or deserve that. I could carry on dodging him. I might flip and call him a pervert and threaten to tell my family and our friends.

I just needed to let that out....

Wow on all the comments about you being in bed him so should give him sex. Fucking hell! You do realise that a woman is allowed to say NO at any point even when he's fucking inside you! If he is a decent normal man he'll listen and stop! I spent the night with DH a week after meeting him (in his bed) I may have given him signals that I wanted sex, we messed around and did everything but have sex. I then said NO, and you know what he fucking stopped. You know why because he's a decent normal man, that's why!

maristella I'm sorry you had this experience with this prick and you're absolutely right not to see or contact him again.

Rita, calm down FFS and stop being such an idiot. can you not speak rationally about it?
I am certainly NOT a troll.

So glad that Slut Walk is going on! Just what this is all about!

Men need to get their act together, not blame it on the woman!

OK, you're just a moron then.

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But do you think it was attempted rape, zookeeper? Because that's all that's relevant now. Apart from supporting maristella and, yes, focussing on the rapist. So why are you focussing on her behaviour and whether or not she contributed to the assault?

Wottywot, off to bed with you. Don't forget to set your boundaries before you get in.

Is that the best you can do Rita? What a fantasic contribution! Thank God there are other people on MN who have a wider vocabulary than yourself. You don't convince me as being the brightest person on here so why should I accept being called that from you?

To me the main issue to focus on is what is happening afterwards, as presumably the OP made it clear things were over and yet the guy is still trying it on.

Regardless of what happened in the bedroom (thats a classic he said/she said thing I'm afraid), when it comes to "I don't want to see you again" that is when no really should mean no.

Wottywot, if you don't understand that no means no, and that women aren't responsible for rape, then I'm afraid you just aren't very bright.

Zookeeper, one of the first things you said on this thread is that you have no empathy for the OP. The OP is clearly distressed by the situation and having read some of the details on her most recent post I'm not suprised, he was very forceful and even lifted her leg all whilst she was saying no and trying to get away from him! But apparently this case is not 'aggravated' enough for you because weapons weren't used, so I'm not sure what the aim was when you posted. was it to make the OP feel worse, blame herself? I don't get it.

oh grow up Millie.

I can't have a serious discussion with somebody who is going to tell me what my views and intentions are.

I only repeated what you said. And I asked you what your intentions were because I genuinely don't understand your mindset.

If you were at all interested in my mindset you would not havejumped on the bandwagon and called me a rape apologist would you?

What did you mean when you said you couldn't empathise with the OP's distress then?

Wottywot, if you don't understand that no means no, and that women aren't responsible for rape Are you suggesting then that all rape victims are women? Not the case at all!!

Actually zookeeper it was you and Wottywot congratulating each other on your posts that led to my rape apologists remark. It was pretty nauseating.

I haven't read the whole thread, sorry, but on the OP, you're right, don't feel bad, dump the shit.

People - whether men, women or children - are not responsible for being raped.

OP- sorry your thread turned into a carcrash.
I hope you are okay.
Please report this harrassment to the Police- this is not normal behaviour, and it seems to be stalking. It could be very dangerous, please let someone know about what he is doing since you tried to cut contact.
Wishing you well.

I cannot believe that you just did that, Wottywot.

You are a disgrace.

Nonconsensual sex is rape. The end.

I feel sick.