The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spring Into Summer.

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Hello

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

This is a quest full of Babes, all fighting to remain sober, cut down or are somewhere in between right now.

You ticket to travel is free, it won't expire, and the Bus will always be here, even if there are days when you are not. So come say hi.

I'm Mouse. I have a thing for cheese and vodka, not together, well, not always!

Here is a LINK to the last thread, where you can read all of the previous threads and the journeys so far.

www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article5484285.ece

www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article5484285.ece

I don't know why it didn't work. I found it on the forum I linked to.

www.behaviortherapy.com/whatworks.htm

This is list of all known 'treatments' in order.

Fascinating.

Morning Babes,

Another lovely sunny one here, but I won't see much of it today, as I have to go to work early.

Isinde I'm glad that you feel better, and that the DT's are better too. Whoo, hoo! on both of them crawling. I need to tell you to get your back strong in the next few months, as once they start heaving themselves up on things, you will spend all your life bent in half, clutching little hands as they try to walk!!! Ahhh, memories .
I also hope that your tummy is ok after all that roughage last night!

Well, the new bed looks very beautiful, and is nicely huge, but I have woken up on the two mornings since we have had it, with terrible backache, and feeling like I've been run over by a bus. DH says it's the most comfortable bed he's ever slept on......
Also, because I was very wakeful last night, I had a couple of those awful hours when I replayed all my bad times over in my head, and even mentally, sticking my fingers over my brain, and shouting la, la, la very loudly didn't work.
Horrible, horrible 4am!!!

At least it was because of the bed, not the wine, I suppose!

Mouse How are things with you. Has Nemo settled?

Venus I'm hoping that writing about DD on here, hasn't upset you for days, I do know how that happens. Sending you love. xx

JWN weather is looking good here for the weekend, so should be the same for you, if you are near London.

Ma How's things with DH, I am not being so volatile with my DH, things have settled, but [slightly or very worried emoticon] I definitely haven't got the spark back in that way.

All other babes, Tristmum obrigada Silver Bafana Bwanna Rose 4C4, and anyone I've forgotten, because this page doesn't have any other names on it!! Have lovely days .

xxxxxx

Hi thurso, thanks. I'm OK, just kind of busy (and busy procrastinating ). Well done to everyone on here who is continuing to make an effort (however wobbly) with their own sobriety. And isn't it wonderful to see all the support and encouragement, and the the CARE that we offer each other. I loved the poems posted yesterday.

Morning all!

dd came home from her edinburgh trip a very upset little girl :( she lost her purse and digital camera as soon as they got there. I'm just really annoyed that the teachers didn't even give a shit, and that they never subbed her some spending money till they got back - she was mostly upset that she'd had to watch veryone buying gifts for their family and she couldn't. I felt so sorry for her :(

I've kept her off school today she was exhausted and upset last night, I'll be ringing the school later.

I'm sure I'll be popping back on at some point during the day, have a great day everyone xxx

ooh, I'm glad that worked OK, I'm on a train and my internet connection is pretty dodgy.

Ahha ha ha. I am laughing my head off here at the evidence that Brief Interventions and low grade Motivational Therapy are the 2 most effective therapies for alcoholism! This is what it says:

Brief interventions are usually given by healthcare providers. If you have a good working relationship with your personal physician, this is a good starting point. He or she can screen you for possible alcohol problems and assess whether your drinking or drug use is putting your health at risk or causing problems of which you might not be aware. Your physician may also suggest a more comprehensive assessment of your drinking and/or drug use and suggest other resources in your community.

If you don't have a good working relationship with a physician, consider one of the Motivational enhancement. Motivational enhancement is similar to brief intervention but it is often done by a psychologist, counselor, or therapist with some expertise in alcohol and drug problems. It's also known as a brief motivational intervention. The intervention is usually brief (1-4 sessions) and includes

* A thorough assessment of your drinking, drug use, risk factors, family history, alcohol and/or drug related problems, level of dependence, and motivation
* Objective feedback from the assessment that is provided in a low-key way that does not label you or push you into doing anything you don't want to do
* Motivational enhancement that helps you consider the good things and not-so-good things about your drinking and drug use. This aspect is designed to help you resolve your ambivalence about your drinking and/or drug use.

So to summarise, if only I would go to my GP who would tell me whether my drinking is putting my health at risk, and then have between 1 and 4 sessions to work out the good and bad things about drinking, I'd be cured.

Ha, ha, bloody ha! If only it was that easy.

I can see totally how / why that might work for someone who has got into a habit of drinking a bit too frequently. Great. But I am seriously wetting myself at the concept that it would have worked for me.

Apologies to all, I'm not trying to get into an argument here, I usually avaoid conflict like the plague, but honestly.....

Morning All

venus that made me smile, I am an intelligent woman, don't / didn't need someone to tell me how my drinking was affecting my life! But a couple of trips to the dr/counsellor could sort it - yeh right!!

qo what a pity for DD, hope she bounces back quickly from the disappointment, and can focus on the good things about the trip.

Sun is shining here, off to a meeting - hopefully it will not last too long!
Hoping that the rain stays off long enough for me to cut the grass!! We have had some very short sharp but torrential downpours.

Love to all
Bafana

qo that's awful - I would be seriously cross with the school and have a 'word'. Not a good thing at all . I hope that apart from that she (and you) had a good break.

I am going to be busy applying for jobs today - fed up with being fed up!

morning!

qo - your poor little love!, im so angry for her!

venus - 'a brief intervention' makes me laugh! , a whack round the head with a plank of wood would not have stopped me drinking!

ISINDI - I HAVE PMD YOU!! (im not shouting at her!, just grabbing her attention! )

It gets worse, I rang edinburgh zoo this morning and the purse is there in lost property - the teachers didnt even check, just told her "it'll tun up" if they'd done there job properly she would have had spending money for the trip - she broke her heart crying when she got home last night I'm so cross, waiting for the headteacher to ring me back.

their job *

Afternoon brave babes:) Doing ok on the not drinking front, not had a drink since last Friday!
Qo will Edinburgh zoo forward on her purse to you?

Qo I'm not too far from Edinburgh. I could pick it up if they won't mail it to you?

Hey Ma how is the running going for you? Joined Slimming World on Tuesday evening so went for a walk with my daughter before work this morning, managed a little sprint en route :)

Anyone seen Mouse???

hi obrigada - have lapsed a lot this last week as fecking period knocks me off my feet for a few days. have got a jog scheduled after work tonight and am NOT looking forward to it at all!
good for you on the Slimming World. If i would only just stop bloody drinking I'm sure the weight would fall off. am feeling a wee bit defeated...

Ma, you have my full admiration with the jogging, there is absolutely no way I could even wobble sprint after work, all I am fit for in the evening is eating and watching telly .

ma if you've been running now you'll be too tired to feel defeated

qo I am sure your daughter will be very glad that her purse is found. Why don't you look at the zoo website and choose something to buy online?

have a good evening everyone. I'm on the train with my battery running out (mine and the laptop).

My resolve is wavering a bit today. I'm getting silly thoughts about having a drink as I've gone 8 days without. It's not a craving as such but it's butting into my thoughts every few minutes like the devil on my shoulder.
I've put my old tracksuit bottoms on so I can't go to the shop in a hurry.

thornrose the little voice on your shoulder is an incredibly annoying devil!!! Mine still occasionally speaks to me, saying that I don't really have a problem, and one drink will be absolutely fine. However it's not try, I won't just have one, I will have a whole load, and feel hellish in the morning, won't be safe, make stupid phone calls, spill something, drop something, and in the morning, will hate myself.

And therefore - I won't have a drink tonight!!
I hope you manage to tell the little voice to fuck right off!!!!

Stay safe

I've been so complacent and today it's hit me hard. This is the longest I've gone without a drink for a very, very long time.
I am a very occasional social smoker and I thought about having a cigarette but that would involve going to the shop which is not a safe option.

hello

Phew, what larks!!

I feel like I have done 3 days in one today, I think that's why DH sometimes REALLY gets on my nerves. I worked until this afternoon, came home, did my college work, ironing, unpacked the shopping (it was delivered), made dinner, etc,etc. Now, DH has just phoned and said that he "has been held up a bit" and so won't be home until late. AArgh, if I had known, I could have finished my work, instead of getting every other bally thing done.
I know he's done it because DC is away tonight, and so he doesn't have to pick him up, I'm way down there on the priorities list STILL. Bloody men!
Rant over!

Ma don't feel defeated, you are doing a star job, in a difficult situation, if you can manage to jog too, I am in awe. How are things with DH? Unfortunately I can see us going from bad to worse tonight.

qo how awful for poor DD, I can still remember vividly, how on a school trip my flask broke (back in the day ), and no-one thought to offer me a drink all day. There was nowhere to buy one, and I was too scared to ask (I was about 13). I would have hoped that teachers were more caring and compassionate these days, in my experience, they are, so I think you should give the Head a good bollocking talking to.

Venus I had to laugh when I read your post, "brief intervention" doesn't work for many things! It's a long haul, in the main.

Rose beat that old demon over the head! You can do it!

Sorry for the long post, but just needed to chat!
I'm wondering where Mouse is, are you there sweetheart?, and Silver how are you doing. Golly how are things with you and DD?
xxxxx