The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spring Into Summer.

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Hello

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

This is a quest full of Babes, all fighting to remain sober, cut down or are somewhere in between right now.

You ticket to travel is free, it won't expire, and the Bus will always be here, even if there are days when you are not. So come say hi.

I'm Mouse. I have a thing for cheese and vodka, not together, well, not always!

Here is a LINK to the last thread, where you can read all of the previous threads and the journeys so far.

PS the number of people I have ever met who do successful "controlled" drinking I can count on the fingers of one hand. Normal drinkers don't do controlled drinking; there is no control required. They drink when they want; they stop when they want.

Alcoholics, by definition, cannot control their drinking, so are on a hiding to nothing if they try.

There are very, VERY few people in the gap in the middle, as far as I can see. Whether through AA or some other method, nearly everyone you will ever meet who has beaten a drink problem has done it through total abstinence.

Morning Babes

frumpy - DD is 12, and you can now see my profile. Jeff knows where it went but it's back. The respite will start once all of the paperwork is complete, which should only be a couple of weeks.

We had no idea of Nemo's complications before he was born, although the hospital were able to pick up his heart condtion, they failed to. I'm not sure that if we had known, that would have been better?

Waiting to see if his heart failed whilst I was carrying him would have been torture. I feel enough guilt for him as it is....... losing him before meeting him would have broken my heart for good I think, after losing the triplets.

I'm glad that they caught the problem when they did. We went for a routine procedure for his heart, and they discovered that it was failing and he needed emergency open heart surgery so admitted him there and then. We were there for two weeks and he was only 6 months old.

Whilst there, he developed a chest infection but the nursing staff ignored my claims that he was very ill, getting worse as the day went on. His veins collapsed, he couldn't draw breath as his lungs had filled with fluid, his temp was 38.9 and by 6pm, he had stopped breathing altogether, so was rushed to PICU, where the doctors informed me to call DH as Nemo would not make it through the night.

We live 2 hours away from that hospital so you can imagine that call. Not nice. Anyway, they managed to save him and we came home eventually.

DD is like a little mum to him, she adores him. Well, we all do!

Do you have children?

No sleep last night, I lay there worrying about the bloomin respite, as predicted!

Mouse I haven't seen a picture of nemo for ages, he's beautiful and what gorgeous hair [heart emoticon!] Your DD is beautiful too, you must be so proud of them

If I can work out how to put pictures on my profile but keep them private, I'll put some on (might take me a while to figure that one out!)

Was - You can't view them if you have your settings as private.

And yes, I am super proud of DD, she is growing into a very well rounded, thoughtful and caring young lady.

Ma sorry to alarm you I was reading up on AVRT, which was actually very interesting. You made me laugh with your stages of sleep deprivation!! I'm somewhere near the end, think I preferred it when they were tucked up in their own beds x

boing!! small letters as im tired - done 4 hours of m25 driving today! - got a horde of nephews for tea, loads of work to do so,

be good babes and remember

TODAY WE NOT BE DRINKING!!!

And today I not be drinking either

Crikey, most horrendous day for a long time!

I have done loads of hours unpaid, actual work is life-affirming, as ever, but, fricking management . I spent my break-time in tears, and wondering what I should do.

Dc is on study leave,and wants to go in at odd times, so, I got through the door, without having a minute to change, or go to the loo, drove them half an hour to school, then back home, only to receive a text saying that they had forgotten some notes, so back up to school, and back home.

I am so bloody tired, even after two cups of real coffee, my treat, usually I'm a de-caff girl.

Sorry for the rant my lovelies, I didn't have much sleep last night (keeping you company Mouse !), and everything seems a bit overwhelming at the moment.
DH is in the it's all fine mode, which doesn't make things easier.

Ah well, going to sit and read for a while........

Oh thurso

Here, have a HUGE {{{{HUG}}}} from a little mouse. So sorry that you have had a rubbish day xx

Oh and I'm going to do a new thread later but wanted to fill this up a wee bit more first

JWN - Red says congrats on your 1st (of many) year of sobriety.

And waves to all the other Babes too.

Evening!

Very quiet on here tonight, I hope everyone is ok.

Mouse thank you for the hug .

I sat and read my book for a while, had dinner and came to the conclusion that I had over-reacted a bit (now there's a first! (not!)).

Amazing how tiredness skews your mind, as many of you are very aware .

I am hoping to have an early night, with restful sleep, having switched from coffee, to nettle and peppermint tea, but, I'm not holding my breath!

Love to all,
xxxx

Phew! Have spend the evening organising visits from distant family to see my elderly parents. In the same month my cousins (age 65) are coming from Australia, and my Aunt (age 85) and cousin (age 65) are coming to see my Mum & Dad. M&D are too frail to have them to stay, so guess what...... yup, all staying with me. I'm frazzled.

Cup of tea and a choccy biscuit are calling.

venus and I are going to meet up!!!!
How scary is that?

evening good! yoda just checking in!

ma! im so i want to meet you and venus too!! trouble is im daan sarf init!

thurso, i know what you mean about being tired!, i must have driven a good 400 miles today and im knackered! - i cant believe the state of parts of the m25 either, the pot holes are so huge its like driving in italy! i hope you have a lovley peaceful sleep!

i have just finished packing, im in the smoke for a few days, got loads of meetings and tomorrow im actually due to eat 4 course meals at lunch and dinner! if you see mrs blobby in an evening gown wandering along park lane tomorrow night for gods sake dont poke me with a pin! just one waffer thin mint! etc!

anyways - im off to bed wonderful babes! take care of all of you, see you late friday most probs!

L XXXXXXXX

Ma - I am too that you get to meet the gorgeous venus.

We should try and do a meet one of these days. At a place to suit us all. Not the pub then!

Now then, I'm off to do the new thread, please fill this up first so we don't miss any new comers.

JWN - enjoy the smoke lovely, hope you'll be able to post still. xxx

thurso - glad you're a tad cooler now xx

HERE is the new thread, fill this one up first gorgeous ladies.

I'm off to put myself and Nemo to bed now I've replaced his last lost feed.

Sleep well Babes xxxxx

ma "Grrrrrrr" -that's about as scary as I get (or did you mean that I should be scared of you? )

Message to all - the lovely mouseface is our techowizard and she has been as good as usual and has set up a new thread to run after this. However there are still 30 posts left on this thread, so we like to use them all up before we all start piling in and being wonderful and fantastic on the new thread.

The reason that we fill up the threads is that (from experience) we know that people google, or search or whatever looking for help with a drinking problem. I've know of a couple of occasions on here where people have found an old thread, not noticed the dates of the posts and posted a cry for help - maybe the first time ever they've ever acknowledged their problem. While we're all making merry on the current thread, someone is waiting forlornly for a response to their post on an ancient thread. If that had been me I'd have said 'fuck it' and carried on drinking.

So let's ignore the new thread till we need it, and in the last few posts opn THIS thread, let's make sure there are links to the new one so that anyone who has been on here has the best chance of finding the new one.

mouse I love the new thread title. Sleep well x

venus - I'm back up as I can't sleep.

I'm kind of drinking tonight. Red wine with DH. Life has been a wee bit cruel today and I know that it often is but I need a little bit of a fuzz to get to sleep.

I'm back at the doctors on Monday, I have physio and hydrotherapy tomorrow and I'm dreading both as my pain is so bad. Today I tried to rest and lie down for a while but Nemo had other plans for his mummy.

This is a huge self centered rant but I think that I'm menopausal and early with it. I've hot sweats, irregular periods, continuous pain, mood swings..... increased body hair. I'm 36 FFS. I'm up and down more than a whore's drawers!

My gynea said that he 'couldn't possibly test me for that' but I just wonder you know?

Anyway, three glasses of red and I'm done. More than enough for me these days.......

I should try again but QI is most entertaining.

So mouse 3 glasses of wine (is that 3 glasses that equal half a bottle, or 3 large glasses that equal the whole bottle?). Don't stress over it, but I'm not sure that it's really given you the 'fuzzy' feeling that you were looking for. The feelint that you were looking for is that delightful one, just at the moment before you fall into a deep, deep relaxing sleep; the feeling where all your limbs are relaxed and soft, where you have no pain, and where your head is gently floating towards a dream.

That sounds like bliss, doesn't it? And it is. And it is not brought about by alcohol. WITHOUT alcohol I feel like that, but with alcohol I go to be more aggitated and my falling asleep isn't gentle, and I'm disturbed in the night.

Menopause? Hmm I'm not the person to ask. I'm 50 next month with cycles as regular as ever...