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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spring Into Summer.

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Mouseface · 09/05/2011 21:43

Hello Smile

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

This is a quest full of Babes, all fighting to remain sober, cut down or are somewhere in between right now.

You ticket to travel is free, it won't expire, and the Bus will always be here, even if there are days when you are not. So come say hi.

I'm Mouse. I have a thing for cheese and vodka, not together, well, not always! Grin

Here is a LINK to the last thread, where you can read all of the previous threads and the journeys so far.

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jesuswhatnext · 06/06/2011 14:17

fwiw, i felt like absolute shit for about a week!, ached, was desparatly tired, weepy, over sensistive and VERY FRIGHTENED!!

you are doing a HUGE thing here, changing your life, your lifestyle, your thought processes, your relationships with your family etc, treat yourself with some care, cherish yourself, be gentle with your body and your mind - you havent done any of these things for a long time, listen to your body!, if it was anything like mine it will breathe a huge sigh of relif to be given a rest! btw, i dont think your name does you any favours!, you need to start lifting your self esteem out of the gutter, try and think of a new, more uplifting one! L XXX

jesuswhatnext · 06/06/2011 14:20

hello isindi!! Grin i see you are a hero mummy and partner! Grin

MIFLAW · 06/06/2011 14:23

Frumpy

As JWN says, how to read the stomach pains depends on how much of what you were drinking. If it was two bottles of wine or 8 pints of beer a day (or less) then you have, not to put too fine a point on it, just got the shits or some such related ailment. By stopping drinking you have, essentially, recalibrated your digestive system and it will take a little while to straighten out.

Or you may have got a bug from being run down.

If you were drinking more than half a litre of spirits a day, or any "non-standard" drinks (mouthwash, surgical spirits, shoepolish, bay rum, Brasso filtered through sliced bread)then you may have a serious health issue.

Just a rule of thumb - go with your instinct.

As regards the craving, if you are five days off the drink, the "craving" will be mental if and when it comes back.

That means you can beat it if your head is in the right place.

There are all sorts of ways to gget your head in the right place - my preferred way is AA but there are others.

The important point is that, now you have broken the cycle, there is no need to believe you are at alcohol's beck and call any more.

The only mistake to avoid (and beware, it is a common one) is to assume that, because you have "controlled" your drinking by complete abstinence, you can in the future "control" it by drinking a bit less or by starting and stopping or otherwise "moderating" your consumption.

I'm afraid that it just doesn't work like that, any more than you can jump off a cliff and stop half way down - most of us have found, often the hard way, that you are either on solid ground or in freefall.

lucilastic · 06/06/2011 14:26

Welcome back Isinde! Glad you're all safe and sound after your ordeal. I am joining you on day 1 again. Had a bottle of wine and a few ciders yesterday. Threw up in the bathroom sink resulting in blocking it up. [shame]
Such classy behaviour for a middle aged mother. [self-loathing icon].
I was doing pretty well too with normal, light drinking - not every night and only a beer or two. Am so fed up of myself.
Got a wedding meal to go to up North at the weekend. My brother got married for the 2nd time in NY last week. Am going all out to drink nothing at the meal. Moderation is never ever going to work for me. It is too much stress and hard work.
Day one then for me. Today I'm not drinking.

jesuswhatnext · 06/06/2011 14:26

miflaw - would you think that after 5 days the danger period of fitting etc has proberbly passed?, personally i would think that was likely to be the case but im no doctor!

jesuswhatnext · 06/06/2011 14:31

oh luci luci luci!! what are we going to do with you?

im really not banging on about it but have you tried AA yet?, it really sounds to me like you need some real life help! (im not saying its the be all and end all, just a start on the road to health!) you are simply not able to keep up with this 'normal drinking' lark!, you are an alkie, it worries you, it controls you and its taking the best years of your life!, just how low are going to let it bring you?

MIFLAW · 06/06/2011 14:42

JWN

The only people I have ever met who have fitted either belong in the second of my two categories or have been in the first category for so long (decades) that it is only a detail.

Also, my limited understanding of fitting is that it is in the very early stages of withdrawal that one is most at risk - obviously, if you haven't had a drink for five days, then your body is already starting to act like a non-drinker's body, even if your head has yet to catch up.

But I suspect Wiki or Google know far more than I do and I would check there if I was at all concerned.

jesuswhatnext · 06/06/2011 14:47

aaaggggghhhh miflaw - never never ever google an illness you think you might have!!! Grin you wil read just enough to know that your time is short and that a horrible lingering death awaits!! Grin (even in-growing toenails can cause death by blood poisoning!!!!)

MIFLAW · 06/06/2011 14:52

Fair point - obviously most of my drinking coincided with the adolescence of the Internet and we didn't have a Reader's Digest Illustrated Medical Dictionary in the house so I was relatively safe ...

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GollyHolightly · 06/06/2011 15:49

Afternoon :D

Happy Birthday BB Grin Brew

Thank you for the birthday wishes, I'm having a lovely day and the sun has just started shining.

Going back to the worn tracks analogy - the tracks don't disappear simply because we've moved away from them which is why when we managed to fall back into them we're pretty much back on the same well worn road immediately, and the only place to go is down by making the tracks even deeper than they were when we initially bumped out of them. IMHO Grin

Isinde Shock blimey, I'm glad you're all ok! How scary. One to tell the grandchildren!

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venusandmars · 06/06/2011 17:06

Happy Birthday to Golly and BB. I've got a BIG birthday coming up this summer, and this year it is all about the food and the memories, rather than an excuse for a piss-up Smile

isindie to your description of yourself "lesbian mum with twins in Liverpool who are overweight with a bad poetry habit", you must also add "closet Reader's Digest fan". Hmm but I do remember being fascinated and horrified by "I am John's colon"... Ah well, Laughter's the best Medicine....

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 06/06/2011 17:35

Hello all,

Back from work, just as if I'd never been away! Two hours unpaid extra, and more to do tonight....but, I'm lucky to be working, the way my sector is going.

Venus Thank you Smile, you know what I mean!
I hope you are feeling better. Are you making plans for your Birthday, a party, or a quiet time? I had something between the two, a family lunch(eon!), and then friends over informally. Dh is 50 next year, and he doesn't want a party, but, as he doesn't have much family on his side, I think I might organise something (always assuming I'm still here Grin or should that be Hmm, Confused!!)

Dc1 has just phoned, on the way back from campus, and said that he had to tell someone (stupidly thrilled icon, that it was me!), he has had some work back, and may be on for a 1st. I am so happy for him, he has worked so hard, after a difficult start when he was so homesick. Party boy international now, though! Sorry, proud mum talk, but just so happy that he chose to phone me (daftie icon).

Noteven how was your day at work?

Isinde I may, probably? have given out too much information on here, but I don't rescind, because as you say, anyone on here cares about the same things I do, and if they recognise me, so be it.

Right, off to do dinner
[ears falling off from other BB's icon!]
xxxxxx

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notevenamousie · 06/06/2011 20:32

Hello lovely ladies and M and thank you to all who have asked after me.

I would like to be in a meeting, but had my lovely girl til late tonight - the reasons are varied but at least I could do it!

I am shattered so bedtime now for me. It was a tough and emotional day internally for me, but for what others saw, well, I saw my patients and did the job I should.
If my educational supervisor hadn't found me at 5 when I burst into tears, all others would have thought things were completely well - so if you summarize all the above it probably reflects the bewilderment I feel.

Can I say here, since I couldn't in a meeting because of circumstances meaning I couldn't get to one ... 12 weeks today for me. I am so so grateful for any and everyone that has got me here... x

MissPerrier · 06/06/2011 20:49

noteven Well done 12 weeks is fantastic, he'll that's 3 months! Smile Sorry today has been tough. Take care, sleep well x

MissPerrier · 06/06/2011 20:52

I meant hell,Confused

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venusandmars · 06/06/2011 21:23

Well done noteven that is a fantastic achievement, one day at a time Smile

dementedma · 06/06/2011 21:52

can i add my well dones to those that have done wellGrin
Interesting day for me - am partial to little snack boxes of sushi for lunch. had one today, 10 minutes later am turning purple (REALLY purple), skin crawling, roasting hot etc. By the time colleagues got me to local hospital am almost BLue, shaking like a leaf. Cue adrenaline injection and ambulance transfer to another hospital.
fortunately didn't affect my breathing at all which is what I was dreading, but a most interesting day nonetheless. am home now and ok. Weird!!!

GollyHolightly · 06/06/2011 22:09

ma Shock Off to seafood anonymous for you! I'm glad you're ok.

noteven - 12 weeks is a fantastic achievement and that's without what you've been going through. You've done brilliantly to go through that and not pick up Grin

I've been out to dinner with dh for my birthday. I had an offer through on email which included a free glass of champagne each on arrival and a glass of pudding wine each with, well, pudding. The waitress brought up the champagne so I asked if I could swap it for a soft drink, so she gave my glass to dh because she couldn't pour it back in the bottle Grin. I felt absolutely fine having a soft drink whilst he had champers, then again I often didn't drink on special occasions because I didn't want to spoil them for others. I was always more of lone drinker when it came to getting smashed.

I'm stuffed now!

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dementedma · 06/06/2011 22:48

hey indie. they are guessing the sushi but I've never had problens with it before. Also didn't puke or anything, so not sure that was the cause. Guess I'll never know but am ok now. Just tired.

frumpygrumpy · 06/06/2011 22:50

OMG, sushi gave you that and you 're normally ok with it? Scary!!

Six years ago I didn't really drink at all. Over the last six years (and many life changes) its crept up and up and up. I got to nightly drinking of managing a bottle of wine to myself and finally got fed up not remembering things, email daft stuff, hangover hell all the time. Last Thursday I called time on myself. Bug or no bug, it feels different from just wanting to stop before, and trying that thing of drinking alternate nights, drinking different things, drinking only at certain times...all the cheats. It feels like I have stopped. I hope I can honour myself with that. I get the feeling that with you lovely lot around to draw from your experience(s) then I might just be able.

Can't drop this name!!! I've had it since I joined MN 6 years ago. It was how I felt at the time but I have grown fond of it Grin

Varied bunch on here......lesbian mother of twins who loves poetry Grin I have twins too but never kissed a girl and poetry.....I am not blessed. Carry on do and, although I might not always get it, I will never mock.

As I was contemplating a trip to the docs tomorrow, and going over what they would ask, I realised.....I am taking a high dose of Acidopholus atm. I have a sensitive tummy to pills and I can't take antibiotics, or nurofen or asprin without being doubled up with this kind of pain. Although Acidopholus is good bacteria, specifially for happy tums, I just realised that for me, the high dose might actually be having the opposite reaction. Will not take anymore and see if that's it. Hoping it is.

Thanks for the words of advice JWN and MIFLAW x.

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