Divorce papers served - have I done the right thing?

[Wisedupwoman]

Had to name change again to be on safe side.
Been posting on other thread - hope followers recognise this.

H gone five weeks ago after second affair in 4 years was discovered by me but not before he gave many, many clues and slip-shod attempts to keep it 'secret' from me. H wanted out and would have known my reaction to finding out hence i think he took this way to force my hand. Heartbroken as long, long relationship with both adult and teenage DC's involved.

Today the divorce papers went to court to be served. The therapist I'm seeing commented that this has been quite quick. This has set up train of thought which goes 'was this my fault, am I assuming too much here about what H really wants, is he such a monster........'

Need ongoing support about this please......

Is it a sign of grumpy old age when you talk back

to the self service check out? They always take twice as long as queuing!

Have got precisely nowhere with the presentation so far, have done alot of procrastinating though!

I hate self service check outs and usually end up swearing at them. If they had an 'annoying voice turned off' button - I'd love them.... but OMG they are so bloody annoying. B&Q's are The Worst.

How long does your presentation need to be? Is it on something you are knowledgeable about or is it a part of the new job you aren't too sure about?

Alldown definitely has the best deal of the day!! Browse around the shops, meeting a friend & coffee.... tart.

Well, I don't know because there's no information about how long or anything (very helpful - not) but I guess if I aim for about 15 minutes (the last one was about that) I should be ok.

it's a case presentation which addresses the skills needed for the job which is the same as I currently do, except the remit of the work is new to me, as will the post be so, I don't think they really have a clear idea of what it'll end up looking like. So something I'll need to get in there is my ability to adapt well to new situations (got that, I think!) and to work flexibly with a number of different professions etc.

Huge panel (well, 5 people actually). I've begun work on it, sort of.
Just off to solicitor to sign off my new will. Another box ticked.

You're doing wonders, Chips, it looks great!

Wisey - it's great you can see through the dust :)

How did you get on with the presentation this afternoon? I have a feeling you will be able to convey your ability to adapt to new situations quite well

New will - great!!

Sugar - glad you agree. I had the opposite problem... 'Is it my fecking fault that the grouting tool weighs as much as a feather and doesn't register on your fucking scales!!!' she's a harpie I tell ya, a screaming harpie!

Hello all,
I've had a few at the cheese pub (contain yourself Chips), our local hostelry for cheese lovers.

Right now I can take on any self service checkout you'd care to mention and they don't stand a chance.

Yep, my DD is broddy blilliant.

I always reply to the self service checkout "have you swiped your nectar card" me:"no, not yet, just getting it out of my purse, won't keep you a moment" I feel rude if I ignore her

Am lurking Wisey, you are doing fab! And Annie's post was amazing. I keep going back and having a read of it!

Keep up the fantastic work!! x

Enough, enough

Wine & cheese and you didn't invite me :(

Annie, that was truly the most wonderful post I have read in ages. It was absolutely spot on! Be proud woman!

Awwww Annie!

And while I'm on, can I also say what a lovely thread this is. I know the subject matter isn't brilliant but there are some lovely, warm hearted, caring and funny women posting on here. It's super! x

You included, Timeforme.

And locally made chutney's to go with it.

Thank you.

Well I don't know what to expect from being cheese drunk but I hope for some entertaining and colourful dreams tonight. (sorry again Chips)

xxx

You are forgiven.... if you tell me more about this Cheese Pub!! I am intrigued.

I'm starting to think that I am becoming a bit of a tart with my shopping. Managed a fair bit of browsing yesterday and picked up a few small things for the DCs (twins!) but I came home and did most of my spending online. And saved a fortune. For me, shopping loyalty has gone out of the window.

Those self service tills are a total pain but my eldest DS who works part time in a major supermarket tells me that since they installed them in his branch, something like 40% of their trade goes through those tills.

Wisey my guess is that your presentation will be really good and your recent experiences will give you a different level of confidence. That will come through in spades, I am sure.

Oooh, the cheese pub sounds amazing. And an excellent excuse to drink more wine.

yes, good luck with it. I think the boost in confidence of starting something new, fresh and totally unrelated to Mr scumbag will be really great. I'm keeping fingers crossed for you.

Sorry...but the cheese pub sounds awful! I once went to a cheese and wine posh do when at uni...only I hate cheese so I drank the wine on an empty stomach. The bus ride home was interesting

Morning all.

Well tbh, we have nicknamed it the cheese pub. It's a cheese shop which stays open late on fri nights and serves wine with a platter of wonderful cheeses with music etc. Mine host of said shop has an excellent palate and knows just which ones to put together with various condiments.

any how my arteries are screaming at me today, so it's fat free everything til the next time, or when chocolate speaks to me, as it often does.

shopping online - don't get me started - fatal.
am just off to get my car as I am committed anti drink driver and the fresh air will do me good.

more work on the presentation later

Wisey - I feel a girly weekend coming on - starting at the Cheese & Wine 'Pub' That place sounds like heaven!

You could come here and help me :)

You don't need us to be on the panel - you will be great!

Come to think of it, I'm not sure if a panel of Mumsnetters would be a good thing!

But then again, at least you would score top marks for accessories. And the other questions would automatically be irrelevant...

1.30pm and still no work on presentation, but house is sparkling.

eldest DS has just told me STBXH said he had not wanted us to end up like my parents relationship. DS unconvinced by this, as despite their long but troubled marriage he sees them as devoted to each other as they deal my DM's decline (and so, to my surprise and relief do I - it is very poignant to see).

I said that this was an excuse, and that actually by having an affair in the first place it was STBXH who brought about the very thing he was afraid of (my D had affairs when a younger man).

So DS said he is going to tell STBXH this the next time they talk. Oh dear. It would seem that the manipulation and fog is clearing for even more people.

Get bossy with me FGS otherwise I will be relying on accessories to get me this bloody job!