The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

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Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

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bafana - are you feeling any better? Demons retreated any?

back story here

Hey All

Met a friend, have drunk copious amounts of tea.
Had sorted out my head. Feeling lots better, thanks so much LRD thanks for getting me over the initial, and showing me the things to do to sort it out!!

Off to a nice warm bed.

Oh, I am so glad to here that bafana, you are wonderful.

Sorry I couldn't be more help - so glad you got yourself though it.

Night night.

*hear.

you are a wonderful help, thank u again

Just being there when the wobble was at it's worst was a huge huge help.

Morning babes

Popping in quickly; Easter hols here, so busy couple of weeks ahead.

Bafana, well done on walking through it last night and getting over that wobble (and at the risk of sounding like a dodgy compere, well done LRD too).

All ok here. Survived weekend of friends here without drinking, and strangely enjoyed it (in the main).

Ma, Thurso, sorry you're struggling.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Morning all,

Well, I'm very sorry, but I let everyone, and especially myself, down, this weekend.
I think some of you may have guessed.

I kept on telling myself that nothing is so bad, that drink won't make it worse, but even that didn't work for me. And this, after meeting Venus, who is such a lovely lady, and inspiration. I truly felt that my resolve had been reinforced, and that I was doing so well.

I could give myself a litany of excuses, but that's all they would be, eh?

I wasn't going to write, but I think I might sometimes appear a bit "bright faced" so to speak, which is the image I try to project in RL, and it isn't true, I am not sorted at all.

I have had a rotter of a weekend with DH, oops have to go, back in a bit
xx

Hi,

Dc came down, wouldn't do to see me writing this!

Anyway, DH is, I think much more ill than I am beginning to be able to cope with, awake at 5, in tears, said he was going back to the Dr, then 10 minutes later, said he was going to go on the fishing trip I had booked, so he got dressed and went.

I drank quite a lot of wine in a short time last night, then had cups of tea, and went to bed, so actually haven't got the hangover I deserve, but I thought I was doing so well, and had left that thinking behind.

I am just bloody scared that he is going to drive into a tree or something, he kept on saying that he is sorry for being so horrible to me, but I don't really care about that, as it is the illness talking, I just want things to be alright.

Sorry for the me, me,me posting, I just wanted to be honest, this thread is a sanctuary for me, and I owe it to all you lovelies to tell the truth.
Ah well, last week of the hols for me, and I'm going to make it a sober one. Can I still have a seat on the bus?

Bafana Bloody well done, for last night, you are a star.
Not re-reading
Hope everyone is ok.
Much love
xxx

X posted Isinde

Thank you.
Yes, "work in progress" definitely
Hugs back.
xxx

Good morning, I just wanted to say that we had two bottles of wine in the fridge last night. This morning those same two bottles are still there.

Obviously last night our bodies were taken over by two responsible adults. My only complaint is that they ate the Thorntons chocolates! It would probably be churlish to complain.

Morning Babes.

Wow, I missed lots. Had a fab weekend with our friends, very emotional too.

thurso - lovely to have you back. Missed you! xx

Trist - well done for not getting wasted and becoming Tristspissed . Seriously, that is not an easy thing to do when you are surrounded by others drinking. Be proud of yourself

doIjsut - I saw your thread this morning. If you don't mind, I'd like to read it and come back to you over there if that's okay? Welcome to the Bus BTW, it's lovely to see new faces.

Has anyone heard from or seen IsinDe or Silver over the weekend?

bafana - hey sweets. Saw your wobble. Do you know something? It is okay to be utterly fucked off and feel like drinking. After all, that's how most of us coped, right? Some still do. Life is really shit at times but you just can't put your finger on it. Or you can and you find it's a number of 'little things' that just tip you over the edge.

Like you said, lovely sunny day but then you came home and the doom and gloom demons set to work.

I'm so glad you felt that you could come on here and let it all out! I hope that today is a better day for you.

LRD - your posts to bafana were fab. Just what I was thinking as I read them. Hope you are okay

Ma - hugs to you lovely. Did you miss me?

Zany - is it you with XH issues? Can't remember that far back sorry if so. xx

JWN - I thought of you this weekend. I thought about how this Bus/thread all started and how much it's grown into such a wonderful source of support.

Doijust

Hello.

Have read your back story and am not massively seeing the relevance, tbh.

There are two basic situations where people drink a lot.

Sometimes, they typically drink very little and then something very good or very bad happens and they temporarily drink a lot to manage that high or low. This is no big deal because it tends to sort itself out - the drama stops, the drinking stops.

Other itmes, they regularly drink shitloads. Then something very good or very bad happens and they CONTINUE to drink shitloads, often drinking a bit more, or something a bit stronger, or at more times of the day, or less "acceptably" ... In this situation, the drink IS NOT GOING TO HELP (because it's same old same old) and will actually make the situation WORSE because it is adding a new complication to life.

The fact that you are hear suggests to me that you are in the second group.

With that in mind, the single biggest favour you can do yourself is to take initial steps towards stopping drinking and addressing the underlying problems without the "help" of alcohol.

Happy to discuss further if that would be useful.

X posted.

thurso - oh sweetheart. Huge hugs to you lady. You are fighting so hard to help yourself and DH. Something's got to give I guess. Maybe this fishing trip will do him the world of good.

BUT - he MUST go back to his GP too. This is not healthy for any of you know. You must be utterly exhausted with it all. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this xxxxx

IsinDe - Olbas Oil in a bowl of steaming water as you work, paracetamol and nurofen can be taken together, paracetamol 4 hourly, nurofen 6 hourly. You need a decongestant too, Sudafed or the like. If you can get to a chemist or ask DP to get you something, you should.

I suffer awful sinus pains and end up with nosebleeds. Sorry you are feeling pants sweets xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello gnome - have I said hi to you before? Sorry if not. Well done on resisting the wine, you are a Brave Babes indeed.

Morning MIFLAW

I have missed you of late, not seen as much of you as normal....... you okay?

Morning all!

thurso - sorry to hear you are having such a rotten time. Hope your DH is ok, what is he ill with if you don't mind me asking?

isindie - oh, poor you!

gnome - your post made me grin! I like it. You'll have to give me tips on how to have alcohol in the house and not drink it because when Lent's over DH will be able to start drinking again and I will have to be a bit more self-controlled. Eek!

Darn, that took me so long I've got about 4 cross-posts, sorry!

MIFLAW, I'm going to stick my hand up too - I'm afraid I didn't understand what you were getting at either, doijust?

You don't have to tell us any more than you want to, of course, but if you would like to talk about what's going on here's the place.

morning!, sorry, not going to much help to anyone right now - im in a world of pain, ive pulled something in my back and i can hardly move, certainly cant sit for very long or even lay!

be good everyone!, am going to shuffle off to the docs!

(dh says my shoes are too high!, bloody idiot! )

MILFlaw dont understand your post, H's problem isnt with alcohol?

Sorry, doi, I'm really confused - I'm not at my brightest at the moment!

Who's H?

Asked D'h' to leave yesterday after he came back after leaving a month ago, is addicted to online games met a girl on there who he is never going to meet, but the addiction is evrything to him.

Oh, jesus, can I join you on the couch of pain? (Gosh, that's certainly one not to say in public!)

My bloody friend - she's lovely but one of those super-fit people, you know? - gave me advice on how to 'gently' start exercising.

My legs are still absolutely killing me and it's two days later - I am literally hobbling round the place and feel like such a twit! Mind you, saying your shoes are too high is, of course, the most obvious rubbish.