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[NotTheMessiahJustMouseface]

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

Oops. Penny drops. Sorry doi.

So, am I right - your husband has an addiction to online gaming, and has this triggered something for you, or have you been struggling for a while and this has just been the last straw?

since christmas was aware he was now texting this girl, came to ahead when i found a text, left came back promised that he would stop, found out it had carried on so asked him to leave.

It is all part of the addiction, the 'fantasy world' that he cant give up.

It is if a nother person has take over his body, we had one of the most solid marriages you could have imagined.

I dont drink, did try it this week, but wont bother again didnt do anything, Ex H drinks but not to a problem other addictions are the problem.

Just realised I am on the wrong thread.

doi, I'm going to feel a right idiot if I'm wrong here, and you are of course totally welcome, but are you sure you're in the right place? This thread is usually the place we come to talk about our struggles with alcohol - the OP explains it better than I could.

If you're worrying about your drinking, or just wanting to chat about it please ignore my post and accept my apologies - it may well be I'm just being thick and not following your posts very well. It's just that if you came onto the Relationships board looking for advice about your relationship, it's possible there are people with helpful things to say, who wouldn't think to look on this specific thread.

Cross-posted!

Best of luck doi, see you round the threads.

Morning All

Thurso so sorry that you are having a rough time, I don't have any wise words unfortunately, but am here and listening to you always. You are doing so well under deeply difficult circumstances.
indie it is horrible being unwell, but take comfort from the fact that you haven't had a drink, I also used to drink even when I was really unwell so the fact that you are not is real progress

Once again, thanks for all the help, love and support I received here last night. esp LRD!

The whole thing took me so by surprise, it really took the feet from me.
It was kind of a perfect storm of events.
Ran into ex on Sat, which unnerved me and unsettled me.
Bank has messed me about, which means that 5 months down the line, I am no further forward in extracating myself from my financial tieins with my ex.
Had an altercation with my sis.
And some other stuff. Thought that my head was ok. But came home after a really nice day, and was lonely, wanted someone to be at home to share my day with, wanted someone to cuddle and to listen to me. But that is not the case. So a massive case of the "poor mes".

Phoned an AA friend, who, bless her, jumped in the car and came over. Lots of talking, and a kick up the butt about all the wonderful things I do have.

Slept OK, back to work today, probably good to be back in a routine tbh.

Full Moon last night as well! Do wonder about whether that has an affect .

So, managed to get through yesterday, and the tools that AA has provided me to do this, really did work. Hopefully, ODAAT, I will manage to get to 5 months on Sunday.

Love to all BB's
Bafana

Bafana - the full moon always effects me, I get quite scatty and mumbley.

TMI ALERT!!!!!!!!! - my periods are in sync with the full moon, so I'm either ovulating or on my period when it's a full moon. DH sometimes rushes in and says 'it's a full moon, which version of my wife will we have tonight'?

Cheeky sod!

I do believe that the luna cycle has a lot to answer for in terms of moods and mood swings. No idea why, just one of those things.

checking in
DH phoned the sherriff office about the writ but they won't play ball, won't accept a reduced payment etc etc. They said the fact we are talking to them and trying to pay what we can "doesn't matter" and won't stop further action ie bailiffs. I don't know what to do.
Father's dementia is getting worse and worse - think he might be forced into a home against his will and he is frustrated and raging and afraid of death. He swung from lucidity (he once had a brilliant mind) in a debate about Christianity, Theology, Creationism etc to looking bewildered and asking what day it was and how can he remember what day it is and what numbers to phone etc etc.Worst of all, his dementia means that he no longer has control of what he is saying and a very nasty skeleton fell out of the closet
I checked with mum and she burst into tears and its all a fucking mess.
Only slept about two hours all of last night and am like a zombie and trying not to burst into tears.......

JWN - sorry you are in so much pain. Make sure you get some decent pain meds from the doc. And some anti-inflams too.

Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Demented

Refuse the bailiffs entry if and when they arrive.

Mean time, contact the sherriff's office again and ask to speak to the manager. No joy? Speak to HIS/HER manager. And so on till you get some sense. Email too.

If all else fails mention that you are planning to contact the local paper. Local papers HATE councils and are often willing to discredit them in a story if they can. And councils hate this happening.

Might not work but worth a try. Definitely a better idea than drinking.

Ma - X posted. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

Agree with MIFLAW, DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR. IF YOU OPEN THE DOOR, THEY CAN GAIN ENTRY.

Get in touch with CBA again. Tell as many people as yo can about waht is happening. Talk to the company, keep all letters, log calls. Maybe go and ask for your free half hour with a solicitor?

Oh sweetheart, you are going through so so much. Promise that you'll keep posting and letting it all out.

Is there anything I/we can do to help? Anything that you need, please just say. Anything xxxxx

Ma So sorry you are having such a bad time.

I completely agree with Miflaw, if no joy with the managers, talk to the chief exec's office.

This website [http://www.ceoemail.com] gives the email addresses of high ups in Government and companies.

Cause as much fuss and bother (while remaining calm and polite) as possible, they hate a scene that could reflect badly on them. Of course it makes a difference that you are trying to pay, and they must see that.

Sending you love
xxxx

thurso - meeting up should have shown you that I am REAL - possibly quite nice, maybe a little shy, but definately not sorted .

Had to smile a bit at the bewilderment of the poor poster who got on here by mistake - must feel like being in a strange dream when you post about your relatiohsip and everone who responds asks you how much you drink

ma so sorry you are having a difficult time on so many fronts. As someone else said, please keep on posting if you feel like it. It won't solve any of your rpoblems but at least you know there are a bunch of us on here who will listen to anything you need to say.

Agree - the noisy wheel gets the most oil. Kick up a fuss. Get as many people as you can involved.

Turn it round to make them out to be the unreasonable ones.

It's not like you are trying to deal with this. They arejust being stuborn and putting the frighteners on you to make you panic and pay. Most likely getting yourself into more debt in the process.

ma

so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time.
Life is sometimes so tough, tougher than we think that we can bear.

Everyone else has given solid advice, and I cannot really add anything constructive. But hugs and love from further north than you!

Will PM you when I get home!

Hey guys,
I have tried to find a link, but can't,
I just wanted to share something trivial and shallow with you!!!
I found a card in Edinburgh, and stuck it on my fridge, and it makes me smile every time I look at it....

Visualise..6 inch square bubblegum pink card, and on it is written....

when i woke up it was really sunny, like i lived by
the beach or something, and i didn't put on my
dressing gown because i was really skinny and i
looked like a modelish person so i was happy in my
tiny little shorts. i had a huge fry up breakfast too
cos i could eat what i liked.
i spent the day getting texts and was really
busy answering the millions of calls with birthday
wishes, but found time to have lunch with brad pitt
who was totally flirting with me.
i had my hair and make up done by someone off th
telly and loads of designers sent me free stuff to try
on. when i turned up at my celebrity party on p-diddy's
yacht i got so many compliments on how white my
teeth were, and did i want to be in so and so's movie?
simon cowell begged me to sing and said i was like
way better than anyone and said i totally had the
x factor.

makes me smile anyway,

p.s Hello Venus
How did your weekend with friends go?

Hey everyone - i just started a thread in general health not realising this was here Name changed for this but am regular-ish. Anyway this is my blurb:
I am an alcoholic, I started going to AA in Feb and now have 52 sober days. I'd love to chat to others in a similar position (oh god, I sound like someone on a dating site ..or netmums 'find-a-chum') Anyway, I'm also depressed - on venaxx and very small doses of librium...apart from that I'm fine - honest .

welcome changeling and well done on 52 days!
indie have had one cold beer and that's my lot.
DH asleep on sofa - another thrilling evening ahead